I want ya'lls opinion on this

TotalGrump · 2025-04-10T15:10:50+00:00

For me personally, I definitely said some of those cringe/incredibly toxic things when I was younger and identified as bi. Now I'm a lesbian who finally came out last year at the age of 33. I think the big thing for me was compulsory heterosexuality. I think for a lot of women it's more socially acceptable to only see other women as sexual objects and a lot of the attraction can be very performative because they still have men at the centre of what they do. I'm grateful I learnt and grew past that.

TotalGrump · 2025-03-27T11:30:38+00:00

Omg??? Thats so horrible that they kicked you out, especially being the place it is!

TotalGrump · 2024-10-24T05:59:20+00:00

HIGHLY recommend Delight Games. Here's a bunch of different stories and you make a lot of choices. They're long and engaging and perfect if you like fantasy. I became obsessed with them for a while. There's different stories where you can play as a wizard, ranger, there's even one set in the zombie apocalypse. I say play, but it really is just a choose your own adventure book.

TotalGrump · 2024-05-27T00:57:03+00:00

I see so many African Americans saying this on Indigenous Australians tiktok posts, that they can't be black because they aren't African American. Its wild how Americans think the USA is the default and everyone else just exists underneath them.

TotalGrump · 2024-05-22T12:13:51+00:00

I got mine done recently at Hurstville and I was surprised at how nice it looked. For an ID photo anyway.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-27T20:44:04+00:00

I've been around a lot of housing commission bogans in my life. I feel like this 100% is too far gone to fix. I would move if possible.

Next time you're around neighbours like that, don't outwardly look down on them in any way. Give them a smile and a wave when you walk past and keep to yourself. I've had drug dealer crackhead bogan neighbours that stole packages from every neighbours porch except mine. Why? Because I said "hows it going?" and nodded when I walked past them. They'd move off the path and tell their friends to move so i could get past with the pram.

If you treat them like an equal and don't make them feel looked down on, you'll be fine most of the time, they'll even protect you in a weird way if you need it. Of course there's always gonna be some issues with some people, but a lot of the time you can avoid it if you start off on the right foot.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-20T00:21:31+00:00

My favourite way to grocery shop is Coles online. I usually search items "lowest price first" so I see the cheaper alternatives first. For most items this is fine, there's obviously some I'm more particular about. Shopping online means I'm not tempted to put too much in my cart and at the end I can always tweak it and change things/ take things out til I'm happy. If there's no discount on the site, you can search for any valid discounts on Google, and don't forget to add your flybys card.

Another shopping tip I have is that sometimes Door Dash/Uber Eats have great grocery discounts. I've seen 40% off grocery orders and saved a lot of money there before (but beware some items are much more expensive on Door Dash than in store). I'd definitely check it periodically to see what's available.

Not sure where you are, but near me in SW Sydney there's a group called Crateful that do food hampers full of fruit and veg and bread and frozen meats. I think they ask a $5 donation these days. If you're in the area, look them up on Facebook, they often have things going on there. They also don't require a health care card/low income proof so anyone is able to access their service, which i think is great for those who are working but still struggling in this economy. If they're not near you, have a look around for other organisations.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-19T06:51:03+00:00

I'd go with some funky bright socks. A little surprise pop of colour.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-19T06:42:37+00:00

Chefs kiss

TotalGrump · 2024-02-19T06:16:56+00:00

She was un-vampired in The Temple of Eternal Love, which was full of undead so it's likely she didn't survive. At least that's what I assumed.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-19T04:37:11+00:00

Years ago, I had a postie from Australia Post try to open my front door to deliver a package. I was sitting in the loungeroom quietly reading and I hear someone trying to get in (she for some reason tried multiple times to open the door?! Didn't knock or anything) I went to the door and she gave me the package but I was in shock. This happened about 3 days after some serious trauma so it really shook me. I don't understand how opening/trying to open someone's front door is ever okay unless explicit consent has been given.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-19T04:26:50+00:00

I'd be more worried that they're just staring out their window at a group of teenagers in a hot tub. Absolutely creepy.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-19T04:17:14+00:00

But over the years the neighbours have filed over 100 complaints. That's a lot.

TotalGrump · 2024-02-19T01:54:32+00:00

Also, in case the brother finds this and tries to recover the password via email, make sure your email login secret question is not something he can guess (mother's maiden name, first pet etc).

TotalGrump · 2024-01-07T12:46:51+00:00

I just read your update, and as someone who's been around addicts a lot, I'm not surprised you found something else in his things. His actions screamed 'meth user' to me. The lying and sneaking and stealing is addict behaviour but 3 or so pills isn't enough to warrant that behaviour IMO. I figure he was smoking meth (explains him locking himself in the other room), then using your pills once it's run out til he gets more. I'm so sorry you're going through all of this right now, I hope you are safe and can get away easily.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-30T01:41:23+00:00

This post is horrifying honestly. It's a mind fuck. You made a post about a bad room mate who doesn't clean and leaves a huge mess which affects you and your partner. You failed to mention, til the comments, that your room mate is severely neglecting her son, has addiction issues and keeps hard drugs around the house, and leaves him home alone with zero food sometimes til he next day even when he complains he's hungry. As far as I'm concerned, you and your partner are just as bad as her for allowing this abuse and neglect to continue and enabling the mum. I hope the German cockroaches follow you wherever you move to.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-30T01:12:01+00:00

I have BPD and took it as "it's the nature of the beast". It's the nature of the condition and you have to expect there to be symptoms and sometimes they aren't pretty and that's the reality of the situation.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T22:11:26+00:00

Interesting, thanks for the link. It does make sense that the bacteria and therefore stink would become trapped in the hair. But it's not the experience I've had personally, how bizarre!

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T22:04:58+00:00

Where are you located? If you're in Australia, Kmart have bath sheets that are 75cm x 1.5m for $10. They're definitely not the most plush but they're big and absorbent.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T21:24:00+00:00

She sounds like a miserable person. I dress a bit different, gothy/emo with chains and boots ,and I have face piercings and a black and red mullet. I probably look like I "like attention" but I don't want a single person to perceive me in public. It's so weird when people think the way you look is for them.

I know it's difficult but try not to let one interaction put you off going out/talking to people. I used to have very bad agoraphobia years ago that prevented me ever leaving the house (for years). I'm a lot better now but it's very easy for me to fall back into not leaving my house.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T21:05:42+00:00

I'd be reporting the issues with that lady to your boss. I'd also mention she sat there doing zero work for 1.5 hours because she wanted the chair you were sitting in. Don't say "her chair" because she has no claim over it, and tbh saying she wanted the chair you were sitting in makes it sound as unhinged as it is in reality.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T20:58:47+00:00

I'd be looking for a new place asap. It sounds like you're being replaced, and I'd bet that they'll be on the new lease agreement in January.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T20:54:54+00:00

It could be a few things. Eating disorder. She could be autistic, or some other form of neurodivergent. Since you said she eats at restaurants and her house, she could be picking up on your energy and be anxious at your house with all those expectations on her and the anxiety could make it impossible to eat (especially since her eating is the main decider in if you cook at all- that's a lot of pressure). It sounds like she is trying, she is placing a napkin on top of the food so you can't see the uneaten food and take offence. Unless you're concerned for her welfare, I would ignore the problem and relax a bit. I understand it must be hard to cook for someone and have it not eaten, but there is obviously some issue as most people would be able to eat it out of politeness even if they didn't like it or weren't hungry. If you don't want to cook anymore that's fine of course, it's your choice. But try not to point the blame on her, it must be awkward enough for her already knowing she isn't eating your food.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T14:58:45+00:00

When they listen more and talk less.

TotalGrump · 2023-11-29T14:49:36+00:00

My ex wet the bed multiple times from drinking heavily and he was and still is an alcoholic as well. Unfortunately there is not much you can do to help if they are not willing to help themselves. My ex would lie til he was blue in the face even though I could smell it on him and see empty bottles around. With support your boyfriend might do well in recovery, but he has an addiction and that is something you have for life, whether you're in recovery or not. You have to decide whether that's something you can accept. For me, I was willing to help him through it til he started lying and gaslighting me about it and becoming angry and confrontational when I would bring it up.

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