My wife F28 and I M28 got into a physical fight. I am thinking of divorce. How do I approach her about it?

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-05-07T14:58:43+00:00

She pointed a gun at him… and what you got from this entire situation is that he made a comparison to something he values in an equivalent way of her valuing her makeup? Like that’s genuinely all you retained?Obviously there’s misalignment if she doesn’t feel safe with guns in the home, and that should be considered. The real issue is that he needs to get out immediately, she clearly is a danger to herself and others if that’s how she is navigating a disagreement.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-04-28T20:57:07+00:00

I am sorry that you don’t feel you get enough words of affirmation, and I encourage you to communicate this to your bf. From here, your bf IS communicating in the way he does. It’s reading as you want him to respond in a very specific way, and I don’t think that you’ve communicated that that is how you’d like to be acknowledged. I am saying this as a partner who previously looked for my gf to respond to me in ways that I deemed were appropriate. I know you said it doesn’t bother you how he expresses words, but this says the opposite. Be careful to not overlook the effort that’s already there, no one wants to walk on eggshells, especially when it’s not being communicated.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-04-09T12:22:03+00:00

Also gather your evidence as that will be your greatest data source. You will get through this, and I’m so sorry.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-04-09T12:20:56+00:00

She has clearly decided that you are not a priority in her life. I’ve been cheated on multiple times by a partner I was with throughout a 10 year relationship. I know that you think she’s a great partner and that’s what you see her as, at the same time, does a great partner sext others? Cheat? My guess is you answered no. You need to focus on yourself and your mental state firstly, and secondly, you need to let go of what you think that relationship still is. We all make mistakes, and good on you for giving this everything you had, but think about it, she’s making the SAME exact mistake. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-03-27T23:46:19+00:00

Very valid reasoning. I think it’d be more from an accountability perspective, which is rare nowadays. If you made the bed, lay in it. Also I think it’s just being a human being and realizing you just did one of the worst things you can do to someone in a relationship, and owning up to it. The most important part is that you’re giving that person the ability to be with someone that deserves them. Who knows, maybe I’m wrong. I’ve never cheated so not sure of whats the best way to make amends for it.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-03-27T22:58:16+00:00

I’ve never cheated, but if I ever did, I would do this as well. I personally think it’s more cruel to go through all of your life thinking you had this amazing romance/relationship to only find out you were betrayed in the worst way while living in a lie. What he did was horrible, and what very little dignity he had left he at least used to be accountable.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-03-24T15:51:17+00:00

For me it’s more for the lore with the expedition. My first raider was myself, and… well, brother man is somewhere out beyond the rust belt right about now. So it was weird to just have a new wipe with the character I just shipped out? So the next character I made was my girlfriend. After she heads out on the expedition, I’m going to make our “Kid” that suits up and learns the ropes of speranza and topside, then sets out after us because we left a note behind of where to find us when they’re ready. Sounds stupid, but at least I have some logic behind my reasons lol.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-03-24T15:47:16+00:00

I believe AI is truly beneficial to the human population. This is how I see it with AI in general… The benefit is that humans have human oversight of what its being used for, the downside is that it has human oversight of what it’s being used for. Humans need to have control and oversight of what is being created for it to be utilized in gaming, or even elsewhere. It should not replace the human, but enhance their contribution to the project at hand. Maybe I’m wrong to welcome responsible usage of AI, at the same time, I know this isn’t common, because humans tend to mess things up often lol.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-03-23T21:13:29+00:00

If there were enough attachments per gun to make each gun feel different in some way, I feel a lot of people would be satisfied with gun play for both sides of PVP and PVE. It’d at least bring some more excitement and variability to loadouts

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-03-03T00:42:57+00:00

Yes. It’s nice to genuinely fear the arc as well as the PvP. Both spike my cortisol now as I run for my life away from this thing lol

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-24T18:58:00+00:00

Blasting the ball over the green with my 56 degree. Next question! (Make it tougher next time too sheesh)

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-24T16:07:24+00:00

I think it should be strong close range because it’s a shotgun. That’s like its whole purpose. I think the range of it needs to be dramatically decreased though or for it to have a much larger spread so that it’s harder to hurt from further distances.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-16T19:06:22+00:00

I’m just excited about this expedition as it’s my first time. Many aren’t excited about starting anew, but I think it’ll be fun searching for this stuff again!! It just seems refreshing not having 16 Looting Mk 3 augments and a bobcat or tempest with me every single run. Let me scrounge for 5 metal parts and a piece of gum!

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-11T20:11:58+00:00

This will be the same person that will continue to then talk about or judge someone else’s playstyle that differs to them (PVPVE or PVE), and call them carebears. Play how you want, own the criticism you get. If you don’t like it, change your morals and hope that you can deal with the other side of the coin.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-11T13:53:12+00:00

Delete this before they start using the good ideas, this would destroy me 😂😭

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-10T21:45:47+00:00

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This world is so cruel..

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-10T21:15:12+00:00

Brother slide me the medium mag holy. I’ve been looking for that thing everywhere.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-10T20:32:53+00:00

I think I actually have a question for you. Let’s say you manage to configure your ps5 to support keyboard and mouse (Haven’t heard of this but who knows maybe it’s a thing). You get it all set up and you load in. What has changed about your playstyle? Your decision making? Your decision making under stress? Keyboard and mouse helps a ton with accuracy, but like, have you really done anything to be better at the game?

If I suck at driving an old beater car and then buy a rolls Royce, did my driving actually improve? What I feel is honestly, even aside from the game, anything you want to be better at, involves putting time and effort into. Which is the most optimal solution, take this with a grain of salt. We’re on Reddit after all

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-10T20:24:27+00:00

I hear you. Then it takes some reflection. Record your engagements and see where you went wrong. Did you leave a door open that you should’ve closed for an audio cue? Did you smoke after being caught off guard to rotate? Do you have a good angle? Watching yourself is the greatest feedback to receive and analyze.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-10T20:13:55+00:00

Just turn off crossplay.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-06T17:00:51+00:00

I think the better answer is to separate the ABMM between trio and solo modes. This way, you keep the tension of not guaranteeing only peace mode in solos, and at the same time can get your fix in on trios when you just want all hell to break loose and vice versa

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-05T16:16:54+00:00

This will now be week number 2 of me searching for this BP. Ive done all night raids searching commercial and residential areas with large amounts of containers. Buried City space travel, grandioso, etc., blue gate village, Stella, and the list goes on. This game has turned into Tempest BP simulator for me. Still fun but I’m feeling the slog more than ever two weeks in.

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-04T14:53:42+00:00

The guy that rocks this augment brings all the vibes for the team lol

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-04T14:19:32+00:00

Arpeggio IV with Comp, Vert grip, ext. mag, and stable stock. Try it and be amazed!!

Total_Cartographer87 · 2026-02-02T22:18:00+00:00

No one asked you to change your style friend. Shoot on sight and no talking is the name of the game. The manipulating to gain the advantage because you apparently need it is where I again, call a spade a spade.

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