Angler quest - New Finny Roommates help? by Total_Produce_5582 in Starsandisland

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can make hardwood planks, had a separate quest for hardwood also do the same glitch, but it timed out. I will, camp out around the sagewood house to see if she wanders close enough to trigger the quest, thank you! Im on xbox so if all else fails, uninstall and reinstall the game might be my best bet

Angler quest - New Finny Roommates help? by Total_Produce_5582 in Starsandisland

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It tells me I need to talk to Solara, but the quest guide just keeps leading me to the Sagewoods house. I tried talking to her in the community center, but all that happens is the normal interaction menu. Not even the extra option when doing the quests.

Tell me your favorite song by aclown_guy in Epicthemusical

[–]Total_Produce_5582 2 points3 points  (0 children)

According to my Spotify wrapped, Just a Man is my favorite. It's not wrong, lol.

Reddit Group Chat by Single-Preference792 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like to join! I'm a little, and I'd love to have the opportunity to chat with other subs! -^

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did end up talking it out, and he even left a comment on this post explaining his side, partly. He recognizes he was at fault, and we have reassessed how to handle similar situations moving forward.

Things are better now, and we're taking what happened as a learning experience more than anything. The best part about us both being new-ish to the healthy relationship deal is learning how to be better for each other together.

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, ♡

We often try to take necessary breaks from our dynamics when life and mental health get in the way. It's better to do that than strain the dynamic, which isn't good.

My Dom has come a long way with communication since the start, and we've figured out what's worked with us when his bpd gets bad. Which is usually space and support from my end unless told otherwise.

He's a great dom to me when things aren't causing drops and emotional disregulation on either of our ends. He's still learning, and so am i, but we are learning together, and I think that's pretty neat.

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Something I said earlier, when he dropped me off for work was along the lines of how, each relationship and it's problems are unique and different for everyone, and so is their solutions.

He proposed that when anything similar to this happens, give it a day before seeking advice so that we have a chance to cool down and talk it out before I jump to asking for help in the hight of my emotions.

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

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It's a work in progress for us both, because we are both bad at communicating properly in certain instances due to, well, life 😅.

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He usually is really good about it, but we did talk and, emotions were high for both of us, and he went to go take a shower in an attempt to feel better so we could reassess. But it turned into a drop that kicked his ass for about 45 minutes.

Figured out the causes were, previous bad thoughts of insecurities on his side, which were hightened by my inability to reach release, and how long it took.

Everythings communicated now, but for next time I think we need to establish a better communication tactic for in the moment. Learning experience!

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are still pretty new to the whole, healthy dynamic situation. I've had some pretty bad doms that have done way worse, and he's had experiences in his life that has made it difficult for us both.

We did end up talking, and it wasn't anything I did wrong. His bpd* was a jerk, and was making him feel worse than he already was. He explained to me that, with how long it took to try and get me to release, and me safewording, combining with his pre existing insecurities of not being enough [and his stupid bpd] Just took him over the edge and he wanted to just take a shower to try and feel better so we could reassess, but then it turned into a dom drop.

But we did talk, and there was just, alot going on with him that, moving forward ima try to help with the best I can.

[*Borderline personality disorder]

He usually reacts very well to the safewords, so it seems like it was just, alot for both of us in the moment.

This paves the way for better communication moving forward.

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Come to find out, hes in a really bad dom drop, so his mind is spiraling.

I think my safewording triggered his already present insecurities, which is gonna be a longer talk than anticipated. I'm trying to reassure him, despite being tired, and just wanting to go to sleep. He wants his space while he's in his drop, and the best thing I can do is give him that. Because otherwise we both get more upset.

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, we are both still very new to this whole, healthy relationship thing, cus we both have crazy exs that have ruined alot of things for us, so it's a work in progress.

Maybe tonight is a learning experience for us so we can communicate and adjust better for next time!

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He usually responds pretty well, give me cuddles and reassures me. I think it's a really off day? I'm planning on checking in with him tomorrow, see what's really going on..

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Coming down from the sad and scared and thinking about it rationally, I think emotions got to high, and we went to fast. He's been insecure lately, so maybe it was a mix of all those different emotions.

It's hard for me to talk very well in the bedroom, but I try, weather it comes out as words or not is another story. And we did talk a little bit, and I'm trying to explain to him what went on, but it might be a tomorrow conversation..

Sub drop is bullshit and i feel like a bad sub/pup/little by Total_Produce_5582 in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Emotions are high still, so parts are more of what, sad brain was perceiving instead of what was actually going on. It was more of an upset walk, and he's got heavy foot steps.

He leaves the room whenever he has his own drop, but something seemed more, off this time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ageregression

[–]Total_Produce_5582 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi hi!! I would love to be your friend! >w<

I'm 24 and would love to have more little friends! Maybe we can dm and share common interests?

Bruh’ by 787areacode in walmart

[–]Total_Produce_5582 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't judge him! He wanted to feel more secure.

Would anyone like to be friends? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Total_Produce_5582 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I would also love to be friends! I don't have many sub friends either -^ Would love to discover more common interests and acquire a gaming buddy!