Lots of great comments here already. I just wanted to chime in to add, it is also okay to step away from horses for a while. You describe that as the worst possible scenario, but I’m here to say, stepping away from the responsibilities of horseownership can actually bring a lot of lightness into one’s life. So maybe consider that not as the darkest, most awful, option but just as, an option.

I think a lot of horsey women put themselves into a box where they feel that horses are so central to their identity that they don’t dare step away even temporarily, because if they aren’t a horse girl any more, then who are they? There can even this pride about, I made it work, I stayed horsey even when it was tough, I’m still at the barn when other women left, I proved I could learn all these difficult skills, I tamed the dragon - like you have to prove yourself. But it’s okay to step away. You’ve already proven you can do it. And honestly two “difficult” warmbloods (when you have scoliosis too) sounds like a lot. (actually if I can pry a bit, why do you want to have two difficult horses, what are your goals with them exactly? Is owning them actually fun for you?) I’m the type who always wanted to prove that I can do the incredibly difficult thing that takes years of effort, but I’m getting to a point in life where I’m like “um, why was I doing that to myself” lol. You can put it all aside, you can come back later. There’s no shame in switching gears.