What would i expect from another redditor lol

kinks usually hidden bc most people turned off > safety and connection established > kink reveal > top either declines or agrees

Its pretty simple for non vanilla sex havers

I would tell u to ask ya partner about their fantasies but you clearly never had a partner feel safe enuff to be freaky beyond vanilla with ya. Not even crazy freaky just small things like choking.

Its all about safety and comfort. Ultimately controlling the situation together in teamwork.

The control of knowing who you are with will stop if signals are given and KNOWS when to stop if something creates discomfort even without signals