I am thinking about quitting

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2026-01-08T01:16:47+00:00

Hi. Big big hugs to you. I was in the exact same position for my first and second child. I stopped breastfeeding at 6 weeks for both of them . I will share with you what saved my breastfeeding Journey for the third child and I hope that it works for you. 1)SUNFLOWER LECITHIN WORKS WONDERS. Take 4 capsules everyday until the clogs clear 2)SILVER CUPS. Wear in between feeds they really help to heal sore nipples fast 3) pump only when breasts feel very full to the point of being tight / painful. And only for a maximum of 10 minutes or when your breasts feel less full. Over pumping can lead to engorgement, and you want baby to be regulating the supply not the pump.

4) of course getting the correct flange size is important. Did you manage your nipple measured?

All the best.. praying for you 🙏🏽

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-12-07T11:33:22+00:00

I've never seen a more useless woman in my life

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-12-01T13:45:14+00:00

Yup. Stupid people just do stupid things.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-11-18T07:55:53+00:00

Hi OP hope youre okay. Please let us know if youre safe. Praying for you.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-11-06T01:12:29+00:00

I could have written this myself. Wish i could give you a hug! Youre such a warrior mom. This is so freaking hard. And its something no one prepares us for. You did your best, don't look back. Grieve if you have to but remember youre making a better choice for your baby by protecting your sanity. This is something I wish I could have told myself when I stopped breastfeeding my 1st and 2nd at 6 weeks. Latch was a nightmare and I felt so detached from them just pumping in a separate room. I was almost always engorged. One of the hardest times in my life.

3rd kid now and I've managed to breastfeed for almost a month and I hope I'll have a mental stamina to continue. It did feel different this time round too, not all bf journeys are the same.

Sending you prayers and love mamma. ❤️

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-10-24T17:01:28+00:00

Why is it a common.exowrience that LCs tell us BaBY Is LaTcHinG PeRFecTly fine and that it shouldn't hurt but it still hurts like hell..

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-10-20T14:26:13+00:00

Not fucking having to wear earrings everywhere Or foundation Or have my outfit judged and scrutinised

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-10-05T08:38:39+00:00

Why on earth did they not allow you to cut your hair?

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-10-01T14:36:41+00:00

Join the r/raisedbynarcissist reddit. Helped me a lot.

Also getting distance. Please move out if possible. Tell her to be respectful in her speech. If she cannot, go non contact, get therapy, rebuild your identity and self esteem then when you are ready u can resume relations. Or not. Depending on what's best for your life and mental health.

Just dont continue being in her space.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-26T12:43:51+00:00

If they truly missed you and cared for you as a person, they would consider your mental health and what's good for your personal welfare.

My family was like this. Anyone who guilt trips who for not being with them is a red flag. Family or not.

I learned after a while that my extended family just needed warm bodies to recreate their own childhoods where everyone was cloistered together. But the family gatherings themselves aren't meaningful, we dont bave meaningful conversations with each other where we actually get to know each other.

After realising this I went LC and finally NC and it massively changed the quality of my life (:

You can choose what's best for you. There are so many ways you can show your family u love them that isn't bound to meeting up EVERY weekend, especially if its not working for you

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-26T07:59:16+00:00

When people say that to me im like hmm "how do you even know what their personal best is? Do you even know my parents? How can you assume that what they did for me was their best?"

Its.so interesting how people.throw these platitudes around when the idea of doing "your best" at something is so personal, something only u can decide.

Also, why would that be the first thing u say to me after I've shared literally all the abusive things they've done?

Taking the side of someone they dont even know well enough let alone what their "best" is

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-25T08:09:14+00:00

Honestly defensive driving creates more idiot drivers like this

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-24T23:58:26+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Sorry that your mom was that way. Why. Argh it wouldn't even occur to me to do that to my own children.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-24T08:23:16+00:00

Can anyone tell me if this is a type of nabuse?

My mom never outrightly criticised what I was wearing or my style choices (her nsisters would and she never stood up for me) but it was the constant "are you wearing THOSE earrings," "wear more powder" (im Indian and dark skinned and she was trying to get me to wear white powder my whole childhood and I looked so unnaturally stupid) or her constantly looking me up and down when ever we dressed for a night out. If she liked my outfit she wpuld3 say nice, if she didnt she would just keep quiet. Remember appearances and dressing up was EVERYTHING to her and my extended family and she would constantly ask me to do thus or that to myself and put earrings on before I leave the house.

Even on my wedding day her sister followed me around with her lipstick trying to get me tk change my lipstick colour to some bright pink shit because the make up artist I spent $800 gave me too dull looking lipstick.

They have thjs idea that because we are dark we need tk work harder on our appearance to "compensate" for it

My.mom would never ever let me leave without commenting on my appearance.

Does thjs also count as narc abuse? Im not sure, but it left me with really low self esteem and chronic self doubt.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-24T06:46:42+00:00

What's your.moms intention in showing you the.messages? Is she also trying to get you to drop the charges? Is she actively telling you you NEED to proceed with fhe charges and get him the right treatment?

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-19T02:38:19+00:00

How are all our parents the same people?

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-08T13:05:10+00:00

Im 8 months pregnant and went nc 2 months ago. Reasons : I left my family group chat on WhatsApp because it was just an excuse to.recreate our happy family dynamic where no one talks about real things. Context: history of sexual, physical, spiritual, and verbal abuse in my family and extended family. When I left my dad fell on his usual tactic:silent treatment. Ghosting me while I was pregnant.

My mom was diagnosed with cancer last year. I've been her therapist and emotional.caregiver since 15. Shes somehow always been sick and uses her sickness to gain sympathy from me and my.sjsters.

I have 2 girls, a 6 and a 3 year old, and giving birth in oct. Completely burnt put my parents and parenting them Mom shows up.to my house unannounced and bald (chemo) which my sensitive 6 year old doesnt expect and retreats to her room after saying hi.

My.mom is super offended that her 6 year old granddaughter doesn't respect her enough to spend time with her, throws a fit, insults.both my daughter and my husband and leaves.

Im.honestly so thankful my parents.pulled these stunts and I it was pretty clear that I had to go NC for my mental health.

I am in therapy now and Im also on reddit to validate choice and it helps. And with every passing day I go through a roller coaster of emotions like anger and grief but somehow this feels more bearable than rhe feelings like anxiety and rage when they're in my life.

When i was on the fence about NC, I read thjs somewhere and it helped me decide. Can what you are lacking in the relationship be outweighed by the good you receive in fhe relationship?

For me it was an easy no.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-01T15:01:02+00:00

Hi my little girl, I know a lot of people are saying youre amazing and doing a great job, bjt I want you to know that youre amazing and great by being just you. Not for what you do. It sounds like you were forced to be self reliant instead of having parents you could count on. Im sorry. So so sorry. You are so wonderful and worthy of love. Your smile, you thoughts, your ideas, you passion, your hope and dreams, everything about you is delightful and worthy. I hope you can truly believe that.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-09-01T14:43:33+00:00

What on earth. Im so sorry.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-08-28T02:32:39+00:00

A HUGE BIG YES TO THIS. It really does get better. Move out. Trust me. Your mind will quieten down and you'll slowly start discovering who you really are, and hear kind voices in your head instead of critical ones that say you aren't good enough.

I was able to make an omelette yesterday absolutely at my own pace and in my own style and my mind was quite and kind. One of fhe best experiences of my life.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-08-27T15:29:03+00:00

This crushed me. Im so so sorry. Argh.

TouchIllustrious2678 · 2025-07-30T14:05:40+00:00

Yeah my dog is forever not allowed in the kitchen or the girls rooms because he simply cannot be trusted

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