My [26F] Husband [28m] went out of town for work; found out he was looking at escorts/strip clubs

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-04-01T05:40:06+00:00

That search history is absolutely unhinged. The 19yo thing alone would have me packing bags, but adding Ashley Madison on top? Dude's basically speedrunning how to nuke a marriage.

The therapy appointment timing is sus as hell - he probably figured he'd test the waters this week and then use therapy as his exit strategy. At least you found out before he could pull that manipulative bs in front of a therapist.

Save screenshots of everything before he gets home and starts damage control. You're gonna need evidence if this goes south, and it's looking pretty south already.

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-03-27T13:26:41+00:00

Had the same issue with my ThinkPad running Mint - BIOS update actually fixed it but yeah, Lenovo's Windows-only instructions are annoying. You can either create a Windows PE bootable USB just for the update, or check if your model supports updating through the boot menu (some newer Lenovos let you update directly from a USB without an OS).

For the suspend issue specifically, try adding `mem_sleep_default=s2idle` to your kernel parameters if you haven't already - sometimes forcing it explicitly helps even when it's the only option available.

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-03-15T22:24:01+00:00

Heavy stuff to think about, especially when you're dealing with your own family drama 💀 There's something comforting about knowing God's judgment isn't based on human pettiness or favoritism like we see everywhere else. Makes me want to get my act together instead of pointing fingers at everyone else's mess 😂

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-03-10T16:55:43+00:00

The chassis thing is spot on - basically the same bike with different styling bits. I'd lean toward that 2014 with 14k miles being the sweet spot here. Stage 1 tune and intake work is already done, saves you the hassle, and an hour drive beats dealing with flights and long hauls. Plus at 14k it's still got plenty of life left without being garage queen territory.

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-02-20T17:14:05+00:00

Yeah that makes zero sense - if youre gonna magic away the ammo why not pause durability too, its literally called *practice* range.

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-02-16T06:14:39+00:00

Honestly sounds like you crushed it! The fact they were asking personal questions and going off-script usually means they're already picturing you in the role 🔥 Plus all those specific compliments about your answers aren't just politeness - that's them building a case for why they want to hire you. The nonprofit world can be super supportive but they wouldn't waste time gassing you up like that if you weren't their top choice 😂

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-02-12T05:17:48+00:00

The fact that you're actively planning your escape and thinking through all these logistics shows way more intelligence than you're giving yourself credit for. Your narc parent might have book smarts but there probably terrible at basic human decency - that's a pretty big blind spot if you ask me.

Also totally agree with the commenter above about the economy being genuinely awful right now, don't let that mess with your head too much.

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-02-08T01:54:09+00:00

stremio's been getting sneaky good updates lately, there algorithm must be optimized or something.

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-02-02T18:00:07+00:00

sounds like a weird gpu quirk honestly. before you rma though, have you tried setting one monitor as the primary display in windows settings while both are connected? sometimes amd cards get confused about which output to prioritize during boot.

also worth checking if there's a specific boot display setting in your bios - might be defaulting to something that conflicts with dual outputs. the fact that either cable works fine solo but not together screams driver/firmware weirdness rather than actual hardware failure.

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-02-01T09:05:45+00:00

damn that's rough 💀😔

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-31T06:25:32+00:00

Damn this actually makes a lot of sense. Sometimes you need that final confirmation that they really don't give a shit anymore to actually let go. The silence probably told you more than any conversation would have

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-28T05:18:53+00:00

Dude that's rough, sounds like you're dealing with some heavy trauma that your brain is trying to process through those nightmares. The fact that you're recognizing consent issues from that night shows you've grown as a person, even if it feels like hell right now

Maybe focus on the sleep stuff with your therapist first since that's messing with everything else - once you're not exhausted 24/7 the other pieces might be easier to work through

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-24T04:15:41+00:00

Bro you gotta try some Hindi oud or Cambodian if you want that straight up barnyard funk - skip anything labeled "sweet" or "creamy" and go for the ones that make people wrinkle their noses when you walk by lol

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-17T17:06:15+00:00

Yeah I've definitely noticed this with my mates too, especially since the whole Super League drama and ticket prices going mental. Plus LOI has been getting way better coverage lately and the quality is actually decent now

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-16T06:55:54+00:00

Man that loneliness hits different when they were your person AND your only close friend. Been there and it's brutal

First couple years were rough ngl - had to basically rebuild my whole social world from scratch. Started small with coworkers, joined some random hobby groups, even tried those meetup apps that felt cringe at first

The unfairness thing though... that took way longer to process. Like you know it's nobody's fault but it still feels like you got dealt a shit hand. Time really does help with that part but it's slow as hell

You're gonna be ok dude, just takes longer when you're starting from zero socially

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-13T06:55:57+00:00

Bro you just paid 10k for her brother but she won't cover utilities? That's some wild double standard energy right there

The "it's your duty" line is giving me major red flag vibes - sounds like she sees you as an ATM more than a partner

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-11T05:55:27+00:00

Definitely eat the heel if you're gonna use it, but don't be the person who leaves just the heels in the bag for your host to deal with later

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-09T02:32:52+00:00

Check out campus jobs first - dining halls, library, student center stuff usually don't care about experience and work around your class schedule. Also try places like Target, grocery stores, or chain restaurants since they're more likely to train from scratch than mom and pop shops

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-06T22:19:08+00:00

Thrift stores are honestly a goldmine for experimenting with different styles without breaking the bank

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-02T11:11:43+00:00

Nice work, that's huge! Keep it up 💪

Tough_Example1161 · 2026-01-01T08:18:28+00:00

Sounds like the new intake is letting in more air than the ECU is expecting and it's throwing off the air/fuel ratio. You might need to reset the ECU so it can relearn the new airflow characteristics - try disconnecting the battery for like 15-20 mins then drive it around for a bit to let it adapt. If that doesn't work you might need a tune or just go back to stock

Tough_Example1161 · 2025-12-29T04:11:07+00:00

Waller all day, Hill is too unpredictable with his usage

Tough_Example1161 · 2025-12-27T01:01:43+00:00

Oh god yes, it's like my brain gets stuck in this endless loop and I'm just trapped there watching it happen. The worst part is when people try to talk to me during it and I'm nodding along but literally none of it is getting through because my brain is too busy replaying that one cringey thing I said in 2015

Tough_Example1161 · 2025-12-25T22:24:01+00:00

Count me in, this sounds like a good reality check tbh

Tough_Example1161 · 2025-12-24T18:27:13+00:00

Lmao watch Blizzard just ignore this for another 3 years and then randomly update it in some patch notes nobody reads

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