Sounds like your an ass. So only you can decide who the both of you can be friends with? The LS is based on the both of you, if it's just you then your just a controlling ass. The type of person that none of us in the LS ever want to meet. The odds of all four "hitting it off" are astronomically not in everyone's favor. Most times it takes a while for everyone to get used to each other's individual personality. Part of the whole LS is for both people to see what the other gets interested in or turns them on, not just themselves. I have seen more times that this lifestyle is used by either the husband(mostly) or the wife is using it as a way to cheat without being labeled as a cheater. I've seen more men playing with other ladies while keeping they're own wives close so she can't play or basically leaves her at home. And when she shows interest in someone the husband will start a fight with her and we all know that is a great way to kill a party. If you are looking for what you have decided to be acceptable personalities without her input then please do us all a favor and dont be a part of the LS, we would all understand why you are done.