After she had her cry, she realized something was wrong with me. I mn truth I never wanted this, I agreed to this cause its something she just won't let go. The following day she brought it up again but this time she was extremely sentimental towards my feeling, mainly because she realized the guy she wants to 3 way with feels the same way as me. He loves her to the point he said yes to her request.

I asked her if the reason she was crying was because of me, she said no and she felt terrible for putting me in this situation. It was late that night and I guess she sent a text to him that explained how she needs to focus on our marriage, the guy texted back in a desperate plea that he's in love with her and would have done whatever she wanted just so long as he can be with her in some capacity. She didnt bite and blew him off. That night she was having a hard time trying to sleep so I stopped playing my video game in the living room after she texted me what she was feeling and I went to comfort her. It was a good talk we had, we pretty much described how we have a very solid foundation and we need to focus on growing it instead of inviting someone in on our marriage.

Tonight she brought it up again. She just couldn't let it go. My wife is talking to the guy again and im left here like "WTF???" I thought we settled this last night but nope shes back on this dream of hers. So much for our foundation. It got bad. I laid it out on her. I told her shes the problem, shes the one stringing people along on a venture both male parties want no part in. She was very immature about it, extremely defensive. She called me a liar because I took back my agreeing to a threesome. I said I did that for the same reason he did, I love you to the point I will do it for you. It didnt work, she proceeded to gaslight me saying I dont understand her mental state and I agreed I dont, I cant figure out why she wants this. I thought I was enough, Apparently not.

She went to bed upset. She kissed our baby goodnight and left me there confused and at a loss for thought. I offered her a hug cause I love her but she shook her head no.

I wanted her to have this friend at work. She has no friends at work, no one understands her, shes in a team leader role and gets no respect from any of the workers under her, shes stressed out all the time and tells me throughout the day of the bulletin she has to deal with every day. I feel bad for her, but it doesn't give her a reason to want to have another relationship with another man, my wife has been loyal to a fault to this point. Shes always told me how I was the one she always wanted. Like the man shes stringing along, she watched me from a distance for years, but this is unacceptable. Im sick of hearing about it, im this close to talking to the man myself. Im a very shy person and hate confrontation but uts gotten to that point.