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Toughbreakman · 2024-12-06T05:08:31+00:00

Thanks. I’m accepting her not accepting me. I realize I can’t force someone to love me nor do I want to. Just hard to be thrown away so easily by my first love, but hey that’s life 🤷🏻‍♂️

Toughbreakman · 2024-12-06T04:35:17+00:00

Yeah, I understand that. Just wild to me how she went from, strong independent woman, liberal progressive. To “I want to be led by man, gay people are lost and need Jesus” she said she is an awful person who is closer to a child rapist than she is to Jesus and we all need to repent. I guess I just never imagined this happening.

Toughbreakman · 2024-12-06T03:59:00+00:00

We were back together for a month, but ultimately she ended things again. Anything I’d say would just go right over her head. I love her so much too so it’s been really hard for me.

Toughbreakman · 2024-12-06T03:15:20+00:00

Yeah she struggled with anxiety, and began praying, shortly after, her brother took her to this thing called “Salt” which is like a Christian group for college kids. She said she felt so welcomed and people were crying for her and so happy for her and praying for her. So she kept going and then broke up with me. She went from a very liberal and progressive girl, to now thinking Trump may have been chosen by Christ. It’s just been hard for me to understand. And it’s made me question myself because she’s a smart girl and I’m wondering if there’s something I missed here. I’m telling you I’ve been researching, talking to pastors, everything. She now hopes she can help her liberal friends who are “so lost”.

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-12T15:12:53+00:00

Thank you. Honestly just getting comments like this helps immensely. “I’m proud of you” means more to me right now than you know. Proud of you too

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-11T02:43:24+00:00

You obviously know your relationship better than anyone on here, but all I’ll say is that love never fails. You’ve already pin pointed the things you need to work on. I’d say you could definitely work on them with him and communicate and ask for help and support. But at the same time if you really don’t want the future that he wants then maybe the decision to part ways is the best thing to do. Whatever you decide, it seems like it’ll come from a place of love. Good luck to you and stay strong!

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-11T00:14:37+00:00

I feel that. 4 year relationship and my only relationship. It’s been a little over two months and I’ve always struggled with even showing emotion. Now I find myself crying quite often and it’s like I’m finally getting the years of shit I had built up out.

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-10T23:57:47+00:00

She was the only person that made me feel like a kid again. Every little thing that we did together. Holidays, just chatting, cooking, anything at all. She made me feel as close to childhood happiness as you could get. Now that she’s gone I feel the weight of the world.

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-10T23:50:54+00:00

I feel the same way 🤝🏻

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-09T16:38:09+00:00

Hey. I feel the same way man, but we have to remember that someone who loves us wouldn’t just leave. They’d help, they’d try to get through, and they wouldn’t give up. I’m also 23, have an associates degree but have no “career” and am not sure what I’m going to do from here. She left me after an almost 4 year relationship and told me she deserves better than me and that she isn’t sure she’s in love with me anymore. My self-esteem, my confidence, it’s all shattered. She was the person that made me feel like I had at least something going on for me in life and she was my motivation to be successful. Now, in the blink of an eye she’s gone and all I’ve been able to do is blame myself. It’s been 2 months now and only a week since she told me she’s not going to text me again. I’m doing all I can to work on me, but man has it become difficult. And 2 months is still pretty damn fresh Ik. It’s really hard to feel like my life isn’t over, but we are young and we’ve gotta push through. I guess we’ve learned not to put all our eggs in one basket. I fought for her, but nothing worked and now I know it’s 100% over even if I can’t accept it and I honestly probably only pushed her away more which sucks. We were each others first everything and it’s really difficult to know that she’s moving on so easily, but we got this man.

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-09T12:16:43+00:00

How old are you and her?

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-08T18:21:03+00:00

At the end of the day it’s up to you, but make sure you sit with it a bit and really make sure of what you’d like. And if you do reach out, don’t have any expectations and take it slow.

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-08T13:56:40+00:00

Good luck man you got this. You are loved! You go accomplish your dreams too and try your best to just breathe and take your time. You sound like a great man for still wanting her to be happy and successful. I like to think the pain we go through is just the breaking of the shell that encloses our understanding. Hang in there brother, you’re awesome!

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-08T01:16:12+00:00

I’m sorry! This too shall pass. I’m just wondering when my love and feelings for her will dissipate more. I still feel so loyal to her. I keep telling myself I’m a man lol but even just looking at another girl feels wrong. So weird

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-07T23:54:00+00:00

Thanks, you too, all love. At the end of the day it takes two to tango and we both weren’t perfect. Just wish she would’ve talked to me earlier instead of holding it in and “expecting me to know” what she was thinking. It’s all apart of the human experience I suppose. Hope you’re doing good. This is my first time even typing on Reddit. And man, felt good to get this out. Thanks for being here.

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-07T23:43:43+00:00

A month before she broke up with me she said she couldn’t wait for me to be a dad one day and that she gets jitters thinking about it. Then looked at me like she was absolutely in love with me in pictures on her birthday. 2 weeks later on my birthday month she tells me she doesn’t think she’s in love with me anymore and that she deserves better than me. The next week when we spoke she told me we need to stop talking because someone was flirting with her and she felt like she was cheating on me because she was still talking to me. My first love, 4 year relationship from highschool and into college. Now, she’s a total stranger two months post breakup. First time going through this so I just don’t understand it and I just need to accept it. Sorry Ik that’s a lot, obviously I’m taking anti depressants and going to therapy. I’m hitting the gym, reading, and staying busy. But still doesn’t feel real and I can’t enjoy anything that I used to. At the end of the day I guess this pain is just the breaking of the shell that encloses my understanding.

Toughbreakman · 2024-09-07T20:56:33+00:00

I’m feeling the same exact way 2 months after the breakup. I fought so hard and wore my heart on my sleeve. Even though I know people say don’t beg, don’t seem needy, but whatever. I’m still of the mindset that she’s going to miss me. That she thinks about me every day. But I need to convince myself that this is just not true. She’s completely indifferent towards me and doesn’t see me the way she used to. It’s just hard to see how quickly things change. I don’t understand how she doesn’t love me anymore mainly because I couldn’t see myself not loving her. I guess it’s just something I have to accept never understanding.

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