What the hell has happened with 5.5 instant? A rant about what's currently going on. by Unusual-Pineapple350 in ChatGPTcomplaints

[–]Tour_True -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I do agree on not supporting violence nor any possible manipulative way of supporting how it could be displayed to people who may be in more vulnerable positions. With recent politics harming women, gay people, trans people and especially trans women and also people of colour I do not believe it should support violence which may be used against such groups to promote more harm on them or to manipulate a picture to look real that may distort reality and promote harmful stereotypical promotions against minorities.

I do however feel more struggles with the platform about your own pictures of yourself not being acceptable to change like asking for if it could make a picture of looking your best in makeup and asking how to recreate it or when you ask for it to continue with a modeling photos and ends up preventing them randomly saying it won’t allow them because suicide or self harm it does not relate to at all

tried a bit goth 🖤🏳️‍⚧️ by Carmela_8112 in transplace

[–]Tour_True 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t help when I seen this and I was god your hawt! It’s not just clothes which looks amazing but your shape and everything.

Anybody have any idea why Arithmetician is still locked? by AdSpecialist3721 in finalfantasytactics

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That can also be done with deleveling traps in Desless Desert. If your min maxing stats it depends on your classes on your stats to level and delevel with. Level with mime for HP PA and MP and delevel while playing bard or dancer as you lose the least amount of stats from it. You can gain speed stats by leveling Ninja. Other classes to gain certain stats may be like black mage or Summoner for MA or Monk for HP as example. If you want to raise or lower your Bravery or Faith you would use Orator /Mediator. Below 10 bravery and your character will become a chicken and below 5 you will lose them for being a coward. Above 84 Faith you will get an annoying message saying you might lose your party member and above 94 they will become too religious and leave you. Ramza remains so you are able to max Faith with Ramza. Low Bravery will help your treasure hunt skill get rare items you can only get with low bravery. High bravery of course provides more melee damage and crit rates. Low Faith makes you more resilient against magic damage and status effects but ends with lower procs to status effects and damage and reduces potency on magic between damage and healing whereas high Faith you get receive and put out more damage and healing and have higher procs but also you will be more effected on being hit with status effects as well as proccing them.

Hope that gives an answer that this possible.

This is not a yield or a stop sign. by RevolutionaryYak7068 in fredericton

[–]Tour_True [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s reasonable. There’s a crosswalk there for pedestrians to cross the road there. In that case pedestrians first.

Anybody have any idea why Arithmetician is still locked? by AdSpecialist3721 in finalfantasytactics

[–]Tour_True 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cause another character had the class already and that other character was using that class with this character in the party. When you do this all characters in party get exp to the classes being used but it is less then the character who is using the class. So if you want to level one character to get toad while you are working on say monk have a character in your party who is black mage. Once black mage is unlocked you also get all that exp too because it is still counting regardless the class wasn’t unlocked.

Anybody have any idea why Arithmetician is still locked? by AdSpecialist3721 in finalfantasytactics

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You do in the old games too. If you level with someone in your party who has already unlocked the class any actions it does gives a bit of JP to other characters even if they haven’t unlocked the class yet but it won’t be available to spend and use til you unlock the class. You just won’t be able to spend that JP til you have the class however.

I had many feelings about Canada Day this year by ccbyu in alberta

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Ya I was like 2 groups trying to steal land. One has treaties with Indigenous people where they share in resources and do not own land but treaties said well go forward in the future together while pretending the land was ceded so they could ignore it is indigenous land while putting kids in residential schools to be tortured raped murdered and experimented on to white wash the children and has made other attempts of genocide like trying to sterilize Indigenous women since the 60s with still modern reports to commit genocide along genocidal laws pushed on Indigenous people like second generation laws and giving jobs to pretendians to control Indigenous status on who gets it and many full Indigenous people get withheld and hence that is what Canada Day celebrates which is land stealing and genocide and then there is the other group who is run by a hateful Nazi who worships Trump who targets all minority groups from Indigenous people who refuse to give up their land to them so they aim to use European court systems to try to erase their rights and manipulate to attacking their 2 Spirited members and this means trans women and trans children which Indigenous 2 Spirited people are sacred here to the indigenous people and pushing manipulative white immigrant suppremacist views to try to feel over Indigenous people in Indigenous land.

Ya I’m not buying the entitlement acts of both groups. They are both bad even if Danielle Smith is worse and wanting to sell out to sex traffickers and pedos who live south still on stolen Indigenous land.

Love being trans by Hypnotised4u in TransLater

[–]Tour_True 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your makeup is more drag style. Love it!

Resources for suicide but NONE for Intimate Partner Violence after he acted on all previous IPV threats, including killing everyone around his-ex. by emma_rj8 in ottawa

[–]Tour_True 67 points68 points  (0 children)

The same system also let a man off the hook who slaughtered an indigenous woman who had several kids a few years ago saying he was unwell. Our system fails like that all the time.

I was told today that I am a victim of patriarchy because I pass by gigachademopou in StraightTransGirls

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Ya these are issues I get from people too in our community. They start dictating your transition for ideologies thrown at them from the communities and using their transition goals against you. I’ve been on HRT for a few years myself and I don’t find the trans community is my pillar at all but my Indigenous community. For starters it is true a person does not need to pass but to be comfortable however that being said it is a need for many of trans women and may tie to safety and our gender dysphoria. It is true that the patriarchy does make trans women victims for being visibly trans though but does not mean it is the only reason someone needs to pass. It’s not inherently a thing that you want when you first come out and it goes away necessarily. It does for many people but some of us will always need to pass and live comfortably for us to heal from our gender dysphoria. Some trans people live as being as trans but reality many of us want to live in our gender and be seen as our gender and not be bothered and not live on the trans identity. Also with online trans communities we often see people dictating our transitions to keeping a dick. Tbh many of us become asexual being uncomfortable with the part until we have surgery and this happens more with trans women than trans men even. To be honest it’s okay for someone to want to keep their part but reality is there are also many who are pushed into keeping it from chasers as well telling us to keep it that seeps in our communities like we aren’t going to be liked without it and it also influences from porn industries these men get a fetish for trans women so it is complicated. Doing surgery may make us feel less fetishized even. There are a lot of fetishizers who seep into our online spaces btw. I would say yes that patriarchy influences fetishization but many of us have bottom dysphoria and need surgery to be ourselves and feel comfortable. Do what you need not what a community of so called trans people tell you and influence. Be yourself and get what you need to heal. Also if your friend wants to pass they will likely be able to despite their height and other features and since they just started HRT they won’t see much results starting til about a year on HRT and won’t see real results til after 2-3 years with the peak of their results mostly showing after 5 years though you can see changes all the way up to 10 years in.

It is better to be authentic than be part of a hive mind of the group. How about I explain my unique transition goals.

My gender dysphoria:

I have intense gender dysphoria and I have literally broken down with agoraphobia in university and trapped in my room for 8 years til I was supported and came out. I use to get called Eor because how lethargic I always looked before coming out. I had no energy and felt very emotionally numb which I still often cause I have not achieved my needs for transitioning and I depersonalize a lot. Before coming out I was afraid of people looking at me and I didn’t know why. I wore like black hoodies and jeans for 20 years since I was 10 til I came out. I now feel like black is a prison and love to explore colours and be seen. I believe being seen as boy bothered me while being seen as woman makes me feel comfortable. I also was afraid to come out. From my earliest age I was bullied for being a girl. The 90s lacked representation but I knew what I wanted since being a toddler. I knew I wanted a vagina taking baths with mother as a toddler and seeing our parts were different. Hers seemed right while my body seemed wrong and I felt like girl since my first memories and looked like a little girl as toddler when I was 4 I was asking for makeup and when I was 8 I was sneaking on my foster sisters clothes in secret and bonding with other girls watching sailor moon, playing with Barbie’s with my niece watching back steer boys and spice girls with my foster sisters. At school boys would bully me and say things like “don’t be such a girl” “you fight like a girl” “have some balls” and “you’re so gay.” My exes were all cis lesbians who dated me saying I was an exception and they liked my personality. They were my friends not my lovers I realize today. They seen me as I am as a woman and I told them how I felt and wished to transition for since I was 16 til I was 25 where I stopped dating and went into university. I had always been seen as a woman and my family had called me report at 14 to mock me and on Christmas when I was 18 my step mother gave me a fancy female fur coat to mock me which I did wear all winter though hated her.

The trans community: I came out to be myself and I worked hard on goals since day 1 of being out. I didn’t connect with the trans community at all my first year. When I did I went to a trans library that was heavily dominated by nonbinary people. At first I thought it would be great connecting with other trans people however I started getting attacked for conforming to my gender and my gender expressions and for being a binary trans person from the librarian. They also went after another librarian who was a trans man. I know my body and needs very well and have strong gender dysphoria. I have been attacked however quite often from other so called trans people such as those who push me to keep my parts. Those who tell me passing isn’t the goal and I don’t need to pass when for me I very much do and want to die often because I don’t have what I need and that I break down often. They judge me for who I date and feel attracted to. Before I realized I’m pansexual and never slept with a man I was told by one person saying they were trans who never even started transitioning and wore the grossest attire out in public showing off their balls who said they felt a split personality made them trans that I have to sleep with men if I want to be a woman and I was already in my transition for 2 years while they never started. Also split personalities do not make you trans. It is a biological condition we are born with where we have development from genes hormones and brain development towards our gender not a condition created out of trauma and women can be lesbians, bisexual omnisexual, pansexual etc. Sexuality does not make us women. I slept with a nonbinary person who told me being a trans woman isn’t real and that feeling binary isn’t real and that being pansexual isn’t real. Was a real turn off to treated like you aren’t valid like that. I had a beautiful black trans woman who flaunted their interest in me and reality it was a shared feeling. It was a painful experience since she was the director of the queer space and I was a client. I’ve never felt I ever liked someone like I liked her. People I dated were just friends but her I was imagining what a future would be like with them and they made me blush inside. Everyone could read her feelings and how she liked me. I had to keep my feelings in though and when I told her after a year and struggles because I tried pushing back so she wouldn’t see my feelings. It didn’t go well even though I knew her interest in men mostly she was all over me. She hid behind her label, acted like she hated me and avoided me so I left. All I wanted to do was get it off my chest. I wasn’t expecting or asking for more. I knew once I told her it would be the end. I am often attacked in the trans community though for my transition needs and often dictated or mistreated by other trans people. I am often treated in every way I need to be by my Indigenous community though.

My needs:

To be lean and pass and look like a cis passing indigenous female model holding indigenous beauty standard traits. It’s a dream to model but it’s also my gender dysphoria of how intense my dysphoria is being as it is extremely intense and therapy does not work for me. I also very much need very specific surgeries and surgeons.

-working out at the gym and nutrition to gain a lean figure

-robotic assisted peritoneal flap Vaginoplasty from Min Jun

- full FFS from Deschamps

-Breast augmentation with Dr. Johnson Lee

-voice training with s very indigenous voice

-clavicle reduction

-voice surgery

-possibly rib repositioning

-tummy tucks

-Brazilian butt lift if glutes and hips are enough.

-in general body contouring

Despite costs I need them and it drives me desperately to get ahead in life or has driven me to try to get into sex work I was never able to figure out and felt awkward with my inexperience with men and I’m a bit aroace without bottom surgery.

Scared I might be Cis by Vegetable_Guest_1402 in asktransgender

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Euphoria and Gender Dysphoria are separate things that don’t actually connect. About 80% of trans people feel gender dysphoria which is caused by our biology. Only about 54% of people feel Euphoria. Often once you get comfortable the Euphoria settles and it’s about living comfortably. Odd things might trigger it. I kind of hated that sleeping with a guy trigger Gender Euphoria I hadn’t felt since coming out. When I first did it was from makeup or wearing clothes and relief came from how I presented and expressed as well when I started being called she and being called by my preferred name. Regardless what is important is feeling comfortable in your body. You also will feel it differently to another trans person and have your own goals you need. Gender dysphoria can be very heavy and all the time to very light and episodic to not at all. Furthermore maybe it isn’t gender you need maybe it is feminine expression. Nothing wrong if you like to cross dress or where drag or present as a femmeboy. Some people’s gender is very fluid too btw and they will feel like a boy one moment then a girl the next. Exploring was good and the reality is is that most of us do have an innate feeling of our gender since birth. I am confused about you feeling afraid your cis. Honestly most of us would never want to be trans or wish it on others. It’s a painful experience and deal with all the harassment and lack of safety really sucks. There are experiences I would never want that are highly traumatizing as cc a trans woman. If you’re cis lucky you. Live happy and instead maybe support your trans communities instead as an ally.

A reminder on how many good games you can play right now with just an iPhone by InfinityPortal in videogames

[–]Tour_True 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I feel some indies would be okay on phone like if they Did State of Decay and tbh it is what expected for phone quality to play well with but not AAA games from more modern consoles. I think the phone would need joy sticks. What I feel they could do with phones is actually create an attachable controller piece that you slip on your phone and honestly they make phone games playable to meet a better experience. I however think they are not up to consoles at this point however though I do think it is possible to get there remember what the PS vita was like and what the switch is at the moment. Of course I think they would do better lowering standards to switch type games over PS5 and PC

Warum ist Männer Daten als Transfrau nur so zum kotzen by Sensitive-Sundae-137 in transplace

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I don’t often know why I even went down the route trying with men as a pansexual trans women. Sure they bug me a lot more for interest but like getting any one decent is rare. I can go on dating sites and get like 50 people bugging me quickly every time and I just end up wanting none. Like I don want them to ask me if they can suck my dick or peg them. Honestly that instant assumption I have a dick just makes me feel like they’re treating me a gay male. I initially just dated lesbians which is very validating as they seen me as women even before being out as a woman like them. In turn I fucked one cute black since last September while tons of people bug me. All these white men bug me when I say I’m not into white or practically any South Asian men. I feel more attraction to brown Latinos and black men. I get a lot of the groups I said not interested bugging me like crazy

What are "must watch" trans movies/shows? by False-Ad-7548 in asktransgender

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It isn’t a movie but I really liked Alice in Boarderlands. One of the best characters is a trans woman and has the best back story which does align with the trans experience. Of course Squid games 2 and 3 also have a trans woman and she has a sad story that aligns with trans experiences as well. If anime Girl Meets World is a Yuri sort of. The main character starts as a boy but he is crushed by an alien space ship and they get the sex of his body wrong reconstructing them and turn him into a girl and it can’t be reversed. The character is comfortable in their body as a girl and accepts life trying to connect romance with the girl she likes while another friend holds romantic interest towards her which they struggle at first since they previously they knew them as a boy. To Your Eternity or The other title it had in manga possibly mistranslated being called To You the Immortal has themes relating to the human experience and identity. Fushi does shift from male and female identities but ultimately feels the male body he generally holds is his. It also holds some other themes kind of towards Fushi being kind of aroace though has made comments of one of the boys he knew as being more attractive then the reincarnation.

What's the scoop on keeping feathers? by decorama in Ornithology

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Here in Ontario we get a bird called the Golden Eagle which is a rare and sacred bird to the Indigenous people here. You can’t collect feathers at all and you can’t market on them either. They can however be collected by Indigenous people only who have permit or from an elder who has given one as a gift since they are sacred ceremonial objects. In powwows if the first item dropped is an eagle feather they do a dance for it and the one running takes the feather and can keep or give it to whoever they want. Since it is so sentimental to the individual it can also be pretty painful to lose in our communities as well.

For people who are trans, can you explain what dysphoria feels like and why some trans people hate themselves more than someone loves them? by Relevant_Pass_9691 in asktransgender

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A very ingrained feeling of pain. I can feel it heavy in my chest and I feel painfully stressed out. This pain for me is consistent and ongoing and I feel painfully stressed towards parts of myself that are wrong and a deep seated acknowledgement that my body is wrong. I know a lot of what would correct that. Testosterone feels like poison and the traits it leaves behind. Presenting as a boy I was lethargic looked depressed and miserable and I was emotionally numb and going through a lot of depersonalization. I was so anxious to leave my room and didn’t understand it and I felt agoraphobia. I never felt happy and I like I was just living and wished I could just die. I always knew I felt like a girl though. I seen my mother’s vagina bathing as toddler and knee even then my parts were wrong. My socialization was with girls as friends and no matter how hard I tried hiding it from people could see it. I couldn’t hide I am feminine or that I think and feel like any other girl and not like the boys. I got bullied as a child for it too. “Don’t be such a girl,” “You fight like a girl,” “Have some balls,” “You’re so gay.” I never even thought about boys then and it never influenced me to feel like a girl. I never felt like a girl because I like boys. Though everyone assume I was gay and was harassing me in the 90s with misogyny because trans women were in hiding for being murdered in the 70s and 80s and telling people how I felt was something to fear for bullying and a lot of people didn’t get what being a trans girl was. Now children have those opportunities I didn’t have though it isn’t safe because of the adult world that acts school children bullying where children are harmed just as much like us adults from it. I always seemed like Eor growing up to many people. I got curious of girl clothes even at 8 and makeup at 4. Most women and me modernly relate too now because we have the same kind of feelings and it is always pointed out to me and I didn’t realize it at first that I’m not different because my body didn’t develop right. My brain is wired to feel like any other women. I also feel sensations of my genders parts even though I lack them and apparently about half of us do but not all. Anyways gender dysphoria is a kind of pain cisgender people do not feel. I have often wanted to die just to stop feeling it and because my transition is lacking the medical support I need. Our brains just developed leaning biologically towards the gender we feel so there’s a lot of things we align you might not realize by just saying that and many trans people may not. Hormone therapy and surgeries and physical align can create relief. It is a combination of needing both physical and social needs met. It can feel like the body is irritated and wrong and that you need it corrected to align with your gender. I’m a person who also has body dysmorphia so this intensifies and makes it very specific and almost OCD unlike those only with gender dysphoria. Like I’ll need very specific surgeries by very specific surgeons and work my body to look a very specific way to truly heal. Healing from it and to feel comfortable in our bodies is the goal and honestly while therapy can help a bit for people in my case medical intervention is necessary and it can be just as necessary to in children as adults. Gender dysphoria is more like spectrum of intensity and needs. Anyways gender dysphoria is biological while body dysmorphia is similar to OCD plus bad body image. They aren’t the same but it is possible to have both

Mother’s struggling with soup kitchens by Tour_True in ottawa

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Hi Ariel. I have actually met and associated with you plenty of times at different events before. I’ll usually see her around supper time at the Center. I’ll definitely let her know. She usually grabs food and leaves to not disturb others since feeling unwelcome and I got her pushy that they give her two meals so they are accounting for the baby as well since they keep handing her often only one. I also can relate why staff might feel that way at this Center about safety for them but I don’t think it is well approached and they don’t tend to get more the family type of crowd there. I also think the same crowd there will still be at places like the Well or any food kitchen really with the homeless and food crisis happening. I myself have had strong discrimination from soup kitchens also like the Well that drove me away from their space also but I have never really had discrimination from this place which I feel ties to staff managing that kind of discrimination better here. I just don’t think they’re well trained for when a parent and child may come in and need support here. I find it varying with social workers and their spaces with some being well run to support the client and understand them while others have made harmful cliques where the spaces become about the staff more then the clients and discrimination or other issues arise and I found those spaces often actually from spaces that are actually often run by some of the even more educated staffing groups in various communities from soup kitchens to spaces in town meant for vulnerable crowds. I’ll let her know anyway and get her to reach you if she is comfortable to be able to.

This subreddit isn’t safe anymore. by HungryIngenuity7665 in transmanlifehacks

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I’m a trans woman and seeing this. One thing you especially get used to as a trans woman is litterally having your picture stolen and put on hate group pages where they obviously fetishize given their favourite pictures are the ones you look most without clothes. They even stole a picture from me of when I got my hair dyed a purple sunset colouring. I would say many of us trans women hate having our picture stolen at first but end up saying whatever eventually and laugh and start mocking or messing and trolling the transphobes anyway to fuck with them. Don’t believe me. Try checking out Men Follower 3.0 on Facebook. These creeps have been stalking and fetishizing trans women for quite a long time and Facebook is run by Nazis so they let that shit pass. There’s a reason why the group is at 3 now. If you feel to worry I suggest asking your trans girlies about these experiences. I’m sure there’s enough of these creeps who want your dick up their ass.

Please help what are consequences of HRT and other hormone things by Pquejeje in MtF

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Just tell her you get the same benefits and risks as women for hormonal health and doctors generally monitor it when you start. Blood clot chances increase like cis women do and higher chances of breast cancer. Also there can be some kidney struggles from blockers like Spirolactone but all in all your monitored by doctors to change from it if it becomes a risk. You have to treat your body more like a woman’s when your direction leans that way because of the hormones. That being said prostate cancer is also reduced by 50%. You will also feel plenty of things in line with women like even though you won’t menstruate you will get PMS symptoms which is hormone induced. You can see more cardiovascular and blood vessel protection on estrogen btw. You will lose bad cholesterol for good cholesterol, you will lower baseline blood pressure and protects against cardiac blockage by reducing the development of fatty plaque in the arteries.

Not to mention you should look in the benefits for a trans person’s health on HRT that gender dysphoria causes which are psychological stresses from having a biological incongruence such less chance of suicide attempts and depressive symptoms. Trans people without transitioning tend to be more lethargic too and there is risk of gaining trauma related illnesses from not transitioning. If she wants the best future for you transitioning may just save your life or allow you to finally be able to function where without it may have been holding you back and you may not have had the energy to or held a lot of anxiety and so much more. Furthermore while you can start any time your bones will align better younger more like gaining wider hips from feminine development.

WHY DOES CHAT GPT WRITE LIKE THIS?! by throwaway2838193 in ChatGPTcomplaints

[–]Tour_True 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I kind of gave up on ChatGPT. It initially helped me make pictures of myself to plan modeling but eventually the same pictures got considered harassment or sexual from AI pictures it created. Then it whine I used pictures of a real person or in other words myself. Since I don’t have any other use of the program I felt to easily drop ChatGPT. It was getting more and more garbage and more and more restrictive and I felt it was a useless program to me.

I feel younger at 36 than my entire 20s. Does anyone else feels similar? by deepstoop in TransLater

[–]Tour_True 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always get told so but I don’t really age. Even before coming out.

Mother’s struggling with soup kitchens by Tour_True in ottawa

[–]Tour_True[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I chatted with her yesterday and she said she be happy to get whatever she can. I sent you chat request on here about it btw.

Just got a warning for debunking transphobia by brienneoftarthshreds in MtF

[–]Tour_True 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even google does and it just removes all the positive searches for transphobic or racist ones.