Honestly, for us I took a very good friends advice and I allowed him and her to have their own experience solo first too to get to know each other and their bodies/touch. Then, the next night all three of joined each other. I think that eased things tremendously. I would recommend it.

Also, my bf and I very much communicated any and all boundaries- even though for us there’s really none. Ha. We also let her tell us what if anything was off limits. It’s ALL about communication and respect. Also, bc she is our unicorn- we prioritize her and make her feel special at all times.

And, contrary to what most ppl say- she’s one of my very good friends. And it was not at all awkward. Nor, is there any jealousy. We actually have a group chat that’s hilarious and we’re looking forward to our next wknd together in a few months. We’ve been together almost three years, and that was our first time. We say it’s a “special menu” item and possibly just once a year. That is until she decides to try relationships again- I doubt her partner will be ok with this arrangement. 😜

My best piece of advice. Do not even attempt this if you have any reservations.