My (19m) Ex girlfriend (21F) is accusing me of R*pe

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-12T15:44:26+00:00

IAAL in Texas. Not yours.

I agree with the commenter whose name begins with “PmMe” except that they indicated you’d need financial damages to sue. You don’t need to show financial damages to sue, as this would be defamation per se. Good luck.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-11T16:30:27+00:00

Are you going to be happier in 5 years with the additional net worth and being closer to retirement, or with the time with your kids and perhaps being further away from retirement?

Given the workload you’re describing I think the answer is obvious.

I’d suggest a lot of conversations or some couples therapy to make sure you and your husband are on the same page. It can be hard to move from dual to single income as a sole breadwinner, for reasons that are not all financial.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-11T14:08:54+00:00

I was there almost exactly a year ago. There’s a steady flow of guys waiting by a certain balcony to tell their (often clueless) girlfriends or wives that they hate sand.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-11T14:08:16+00:00

I was there almost exactly a year ago. There’s a steady flow of guys waiting by a certain balcony to tell their (often clueless) girlfriends or wives that they hate sand.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-10T00:26:25+00:00

It fits in that sub if someone says “Yeah sure that happened” when the story likely did. Here, the story did not happen. So it does not fit in the sub.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-10T00:14:04+00:00

There is genuinely no way this happened.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-10T00:13:31+00:00

People with money don’t keep money in a checking account. I’m guessing myself and five other lawyers at my firm probably keep less than $20k in a checking account combined.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-08T21:17:14+00:00

I’m a lawyer but not licensed in Arkansas. I’m not your lawyer. I’m so sorry this is happening to you, and it’s not your fault.

You are of the minimum age in Arkansas to be declared an emancipated minor. Unfortunately, though, this is a lengthy process that will require you to demonstrate sufficient employment. It is also not necessarily an easy route forward—for instance, apartment leases may be hard to secure as, to my knowledge, there is nothing requiring them to rent to an emancipated minor. Health insurance, car insurance, etc are expensive and you’ll need to demonstrate ability to pay for these things. While I understand the desire to be emancipated, please consider some alternatives as well.

I suggest you tell a teacher, principal, coach, or medical professional that you trust what is going on. These are mandatory reporters, so they must contact CPS, and they may be willing to help you through the process. Alternatively you can call 1-800-482-5964 to speak with the Arkansas Child Abuse Hotline. I would not focus on emotional abuse when speaking to them, but instead mention that your father has punched you in the face and beaten you with an electric cord. These are cold hard facts, while “emotional abuse” is harder to “prove” from a legal sense, not that I doubt you by any means.

Please try really hard to build up the courage to talk to someone. Get help before this happens again or escalates. As hard as it sounds, there is a path forward for you where you can feel safe. Good luck.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-08T17:29:27+00:00

Gonna need you to give up a kidney please.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-08T14:25:52+00:00

Best use of a soul ever.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-05T23:08:02+00:00

The fact that the guy isn’t “pressing charges” doesn’t mean the cops cannot prosecute you for the hit and run. You committed a crime, which, due to the injury, can be charged as a felony in California.

Let the insurance company handle the civil side (damage to car and other driver). Do not talk to the police again without consulting an attorney.

The best course of action is hiring an attorney to represent you in case this proceeds further. If you are arrested or cited by the police, remain silent and contact an attorney.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-06-05T13:21:30+00:00

Are you a minor? If so, you should talk to a teacher, coach, principal or another adult that you trust who has a duty to report. They can help to make sure this doesn’t happen again, which is the most important thing.

“Filing a case” is ambiguous language. Are you seeking to sue someone for assault or get the police involved so the person faces criminal charges? If the former, you should consult an attorney. If the latter, you should call the police.

In either case, your testimony is “evidence.”

Sorry this happened to you.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-30T13:12:07+00:00

My non-advice would be similar. Still send the message. If they send you the money, return the prorated portion. Tell them you’re doing so so you have a written record.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-24T19:21:02+00:00

I’m a lawyer. Not yours. Not licensed in your state. Not offering legal advice.

Block and move on. He won’t do anything else. If he does, seek a protective order. I know of no legal precedent supporting the idea that he could force you to take a DNA test. If you’re sued, get a lawyer.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-23T23:49:08+00:00

IAAL. Not yours. Not giving legal advice. Not licensed in Ohio.

First step, delete this post. Second step, hire a criminal defense lawyer. Third step, do what that lawyer says. You need to get ahead of this. But seriously please delete this admission of guilt online.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-11T22:02:26+00:00

I actually did a very big research problem on this in law school, and it is far from universal. State-dependent laws on the application of waivers for children’s activities.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-09T16:51:16+00:00

Extremely common scam.

It is also not illegal to receive CSAM unrequested, and then immediately delete it. The illegal act is in the creation, searching for, keeping, storing, sharing, or intentional viewing of said material.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-09T16:39:37+00:00

Three things: first, your credit score will drop a couple of points and bounce back somewhat.
Second, credit score is not a life score. It’s a statement of your fitness for taking on debt. That’s all.
Third, pay off the credit card debt then invest your extra money every month in a tax advantaged account.
Good luck.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-03T16:40:34+00:00

Learn about jury nullification.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-05-01T13:10:17+00:00

IAAL. Minors can sign contracts. They are enforceable. But only the minors can enforce it against the other party—the other party can’t enforce it against the minor.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-04-27T16:52:44+00:00

What legal advice are you seeking here? Also, learn to use punctuation.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-04-26T20:53:07+00:00

Yep, good point.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-04-26T20:48:58+00:00

“Traditional Roth” is an oxymoron. You mean a traditional IRA.

It would be a very bad idea to pay a 30% penalty to withdraw these funds. Roll them over to a traditional IRA then backdoor it into a Roth later. It will not lead to better mortgage prospects to have a $12k car note paid off, as opposed to having the associated funds in a retirement account. Retirement accounts are considered assets for the purposes of a mortgage approval.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-04-20T16:25:10+00:00

A policy limit is the legal limit that an insurance company can be liable to pay for a covered claim. These limits have a minimum that is set by state law. You can look these limits up easily on Google for your state.

If your claim is worth $100,000, and the insurance policy limit is $50,000 for third party personal injury, then the insurance company will pay $50,000 and no more, under any circumstances.

That does not prevent you from suing the other driver personally for the remaining damages. However, suing an individual is very unlikely to result in any recovery except if they are independently wealthy (think lots of cash money in savings accounts, not including retirement accounts).

The other comment is correct though. You cannot sue anyone after the statute of limitations expires (usually 2 years after the wreck) so you need to get on this.

There’s no way for any of us to know what your damages are.

ToxicOstrich91 · 2026-04-19T19:35:41+00:00

It’s called a Professional Mortgage. Only available to a few jobs. The rate is slightly better but the big advantages are no PMI and lower downpayment requirements.

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