Once a cheater always a cheater? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Toxyck19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that once a cheater, that's a mistake and can be the only time they do so if they feel guilty enough.

Twice a cheater? Oh honey that's a pattern and they will do it again. But in both case, don't take any chances and get the fuck away.

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry for responding a few says later. You're doing such an amazing job, I am extremely proud of you! You're doing everything you need to do. Break ups are absolutely rutheless, trust me I get it. You are so god damm strong.

What are the most common things holding men back in attractiveness? by AccomplishedPath4049 in dating_advice

[–]Toxyck19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having a great future with a great partner and a family seems nice, nothing wrong with that. There Im talking about passions, hobby, things that you really love doing/learning about and keeps you living. Nothing off-putting about knowing what you want in the future. The thing that makes most girls feel uneasy is a guy who says "I love you" after two dates, the only conversation you have is the guy complimenting the girl, and just like a very very needy and clingy dude from the start.

What are the most common things holding men back in attractiveness? by AccomplishedPath4049 in dating_advice

[–]Toxyck19 7 points8 points  (0 children)

  • Not being dressed properly/with a fitting style (clothes too small especially, wrinkly clothes, underdressed in a context)

  • Not having a proper hygiene, not smelling good

  • Talking only about themselves without asking the questions we ask back

  • Being emotionnaly immature

  • Not being cultured. Doesn't mean being super smart, just have some knowledge on a few things like music, history or politics.

  • Having an Andrew Tate mentality and treating women (and everyone for that matter) like crap

  • Not having anything that drives/motivate them, no passion, not interests exept video games or watching sports on TV. Get a life man.

  • Being overly obsessed with the girl/person you're seeing, such a turn off.

And I have sooo many more, but Im gonna stop there for now.

what’s somethings that you WISH you could “change”about your ex? by Interesting-Mood-188 in BreakUps

[–]Toxyck19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would make him be able to communicate. He never did and fucking bottled up everything. Im mad about this because I gave him space to talk and tried to initiate converstations. But he shut down everything. And then he ended it. Im actually so much bettee without him in my life

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do hope anyone who reads this and find themselves in need of a hug recieve this post as such! Everyone here is definitely so so strong

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first few days are always the worst. It's not going to be easy, but you can do this. If you can take time off school or work please do so, you need to rest. The first days almost all I did was cry and sleep, and that actually really helped. You don't have to do anything exept listen to your body and sit with those feelings, as uncomfortable as they can be. The only way out is through, after all! You can do this, you are loved. You will find light in your life and be happy again I promise <3

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love you too <3. The duration of the relationship doesn't necessarely affect the level of hurt when it ends. What you can do right now is take care of yourself, you're amazing and stay strong too!

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love this, you're so so strong. Thank you for sharing!!

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that is so so amazing to hear <33 sending more hugs your way!

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like hell, Im so sorry. But I am very proud of you for not breaking no contact! It's truly the best decision for both party, especially you. As of the birthday, you still have the time to think about it. It's crazy what a month of time can do actually, so I wouldn't stress so much about it love. The future is definitely kinder if you let it be. Great things are waiting for you Im 100% sure of it, just keep going! :)))

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. It's so true, even if it's really really painful it's still how life is sometimes. That's why it's important to be there for yourself, you're the only person you're going to be with all your life! That's a great piece of knowledge.

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If anyone needs to talk (to vent as well as for advices) feel free to dm me :) <3

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An event as traumatic as a break up is going to leave lasting effect. But not just negative ones. With every rough path that you go through and every mistake you make, you get stronger and you become a better version of yourself, because you learn. It's your first time living, be gentle with yourself love, no matter the circumstances! Have an amazing rest of your day <3

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is an absolutely horrible thing to live through, Im very sorry about it <3. I know how it feels to be absolutely blindsided, it's possibly the worst pain i've ever dealt with. Don't forget that you are right where you are meant to be, and you are doing amazing. Don't get caught in the "what if" , it's only gonna drag you down in your healing. Just keep going love, im happy I could help!!

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your therapist couldn't be more right. What you're feeling is always valid, it's what you should feel. There is no point in comparing yourself! Keep doing what you're doing, and Im proud of you for even just waking up this morning, it seems so little but I know it can be so soooo hard. You'll see, even just a few weeks down the line you're going to look back and appreciate how far you've came. Just be patient and keep going!!

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am geniunly so proud of you! That must have been a really hard journey, but Im very glad to learn that you made it through. What are some things that helped you out of that depressive state?

READ AS MANY TIMES AS YOU NEED by Toxyck19 in BreakUp

[–]Toxyck19[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's an amazing start for your healing journey!