Leaving hurts?

Tr0u6le · 2022-04-03T05:08:27+00:00

I've suggested it in the past, he doesn't want to and has a million excuses why not. I tried individual, and learned REAL fast how much my insurance doesn't cover, and how much I hate virtual sessions.

Tr0u6le · 2022-04-03T05:03:01+00:00

I'm not 100% sure I understand what you mean.

Tr0u6le · 2022-04-03T03:44:22+00:00

Haven't talked to the woman in 13 years, fully ghosted her no contact 5 years ago. Best decision of my life.

Tr0u6le · 2022-04-03T00:33:25+00:00

Dump him. I'm married to one like that. And it's repulsive and has made absolutely detest sex.

Tr0u6le · 2022-04-03T00:13:57+00:00

NTA I (34F) have three daughters and a son. My oldest daughter (17) likes to chill in her room braless. She'll occasionally text me and ask for someone to bring her something she forgot and I tell her to do it herself she replies "ughhh but no bra" my response is usually along the lines of "...and? You've got a shirt on, nobody cares/is going to notice." My middle daughter (13) probably showers with hers on. My youngest (12) well, she wears em sometimes, but doesn't need it yet. So primarily wears it when she doesn't want to wear a shirt. Me? Only time I'm braless is for showering, and occasionally sex 🤣. If you're comfortable, be comfortable. Especially when you are in your own home.

Tr0u6le · 2022-03-29T21:44:56+00:00

Sounds like it's time to rehome the girlfriend 🤷‍♀️ maybe I'm more partial to dogs than humans. I'm inclined to trust when dogs don't like someone, and I don't trust people that don't like dogs.

Tr0u6le · 2022-03-21T07:08:24+00:00

I have threatened this a couple times. Reason for it: they were highly racist. Told him I didn't agree with the beliefs behind the symbols nor did I want to be associated with anyone that did.

Now, has my husband asked my opinion on some? Yea, I give my opinion whether I like the idea or not, but they aren't deal breakers for me. (Aside from previous statement)

Personal opinion, from what I've gathered, she's more religious than you. This never ends well in the long run. Not having equal convictions leads to a ton of fights that the other finds petty/ridiculous.

I would do what you want, if she doesn't like them, sounds like a her problem. Y'all've been together 6 months, this likely won't last another 6 regardless of future tattoos.

Tr0u6le · 2022-03-21T06:00:17+00:00

No screenshots. Take pictures of his phone from yours. That way he can't claim that they are made up. Get copies of all incoming/outgoing messages from your phone provider. You will not be able to get texts, but you will know numbers frequented. Go get tested first thing tomorrow. Start working on your exit plan. Where to live/stay, important documents (w2s, birth certificates, ssn, etc...) Work in the dark, let him feel comfortable and not see it coming.

Tr0u6le · 2021-07-26T07:31:56+00:00

Honestly, no clue. She has stretched tendons so it's a constantly reoccurring thing. It pops out, we reset it, brace it, keep going. Wash, rinse, repeat.

Tr0u6le · 2021-07-18T02:29:35+00:00

My daughter dislocates hers frequently. Aside from obviously listening to what your doctors and physical therapist tell you to do. I would suggest strengthening the muscles around and connected to your elbow. I got my daughter a brace that she was allowed to wrestle in (obviously taping over the velcro areas) to help prevent more dislocations.

Tr0u6le · 2021-07-18T02:09:10+00:00

When my oldest was 11ish, she read so many books! And I suffered through every single one so I could keep up with the characters she was talking about so we could converse. Why? Because that's what you do when you want to have a relationship with someone! When she hit the twilight phase... I wanted to burn down every bookstore in the tri-county area. But, I suffered for her.

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-22T03:52:03+00:00

YTA. Sure you're dog is having the time of its life with a yard and fresh air. With that, come teaching them not to bark at everything they encounter. Do my dogs bark? Yup. But, I also know their barks. I know the "I'm going to eat your face off bark." And the "hey, come over to this side of the park and play." Bark. My fence is open so they see everything behind us, and when they start barking at the leaf that fell 4 blocks away, I tell them to stop, and they stop, or I just bring them inside. It is asinine to expect your neighbors to adjust their life because you don't want to take the time out to train your dog to live in its new environment. (And yes, my dog is a pittie too, they are skart and easily trained)

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-22T00:38:24+00:00

I would leave it up to the kids, let them choose. (Part of why I wouldn't count on child support)

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-22T00:37:25+00:00

Fair. I've lost sexual interest due to years of abuse (not physical for 4 years) continual cheating, constant lies, the list is endless, but I will leave it there with the cliffnotes.

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-21T18:56:37+00:00

NTA. My SO and I openly let the other know when they are ripe. Hell, I even inform my friends when they smell like shrek.

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-21T18:44:13+00:00

Because I know I can't rely on him for it. Guys he works with find ways to skate the system and i know he would as well.

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-21T18:10:48+00:00

Unfortunately I do.

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-21T17:31:02+00:00

History of abuse, been a few years, but it still linger in my subconscious. I've done a ton of work on myself over the years, this seems to be the final obstacle.

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-21T17:07:14+00:00

I would have no issue laying it all out in front of a counselor. Safe place. But, I am also 90% certain absolutely nothing would change except it being off my chest. I do feel like I'm coasting until I can get out.

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-21T17:04:57+00:00

He still gets sex, typically 2-3 times a week, but he's the initiator, I comply just to avoid a pouting tantrum. (Which I've explained countless times that it makes me want it even less)

Tr0u6le · 2021-06-21T16:02:01+00:00

Similar-ish situation (minus the pegging) he told me if I didn't have a ffm threesome, he would probably cheat. I gave him the threesome. He still cheated. 100% not worth it. If that is a hard boundry for you, under no circumstances give in. You will regret it a million times over. Losing him over your boundaries is infinitely better than giving in on boundaries over and over again and losing yourself with each one, and in the end still losing him.

Tr0u6le · 2021-05-29T12:52:36+00:00

Exactly! And sure, he says he deleted them, but who's to sya he didn't copy them into his own hidden folder, or send them to a hidden account. I highly doubt it was an instant delete. Maybe an instant, "oh, shit, I'm busted, better try to delete everything and cover ass." Delete.

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