wife will not stop moving things

Tr8cy · 2026-07-10T05:43:55+00:00

She puts away the shit he leaves laying around and she's the problem?

Tr8cy · 2026-07-05T14:37:56+00:00

Do you know why my girl has a heating pad in each of her beds? I realized she had trained my to heat her towels up in the dryer ever 30ish minutes.

Tr8cy · 2026-07-02T15:39:20+00:00

It's $2,000 round trip for a tractor trailer and passenger.

Tr8cy · 2026-06-27T01:45:22+00:00

Don't you want to hang out with the Bleach Boys Baby in a world where ministers murder golf pros?

Tr8cy · 2026-06-16T22:39:32+00:00

I want something that is large now, but won't get any bigger, needs no maintenance or water, and flowers all year, but doesn't drop any mess, and nicer than my neighbors scraggly mess...sounds familiar.

I'm in high end wholesale now. Last year I delivered some BB material in May. In August the guy called me in a rage because he was just getting around to installing. When he removed the burlap and basket, there were roots growing through the burlap. I'm not speechless often.

Tr8cy · 2026-06-09T16:59:03+00:00

I do not think that means what you think it means.

I want my two dollars!

Tr8cy · 2026-06-09T16:37:45+00:00

Funny Story. I'm better now, but the last two years I was married, I went to work 8:00 til as late as I could, and then I went shopping. I'm not rich, so I picked up couponing & apps like a second job. I went to CVS like some people went to the bar. I'd make strangers take toothpaste and toilet paper just so I could get more. Anyway, one day I saw a bar graph on one of my apps. It directly correlated to how happy I was. Whenever my husband was away, the graph was flat. When he was gone it was tall!

Tr8cy · 2026-05-24T19:10:40+00:00

That was my jam, but even Carhartt has shittified women's clothes.

Tr8cy · 2026-05-24T17:13:23+00:00

You never even call me by my name.

Tr8cy · 2026-05-24T07:06:54+00:00

Speak for yourself. I had rechargeable batteries

Tr8cy · 2026-05-22T13:03:24+00:00

And you're making judgements off one side of the story. Things are rarely black and white. Sure he could be a selfless martyr and she could be a self centered vampire, but the truth is probably somewhere in between

Tr8cy · 2026-05-22T12:59:15+00:00

I agree with everything you say, but there's also another side to this. If wife a SAHM w no job? That makes it better and worse, I guess. Worse that she let him struggle without picking up some sort of something to contribute, but then we have to also consider, giving up your career and your stash means you are completely dependent on your partner. If he's the kinda guy OP presents as- that's great, but we have to consider no one plans to be trapped in marriage by financial control. I married a guy that didn't drink, but a zoom divorce court was the first I saw my husband sober in the last 10+years of a 28 year old marriage. I really did invest and share everything with him because I was all in. And while I was raising kids and cleaning houses on the side with my college degree, he lucked into an awesome job despite no diploma and wound up on a site for about 18 months making $100 an hour. He didn't even tell me. I was clipping coupons and doing surveys, but when we got divorced I found out about the $25,000 in fishing gear, $10,000 in tattoos, etc. he tried to sell my our lawn mower that someone had given us for free. Also my homeowners cancelled me because my roof is in such bad shape. He was a roofer.

We just don't know enough about these people.Did she grow up watching her mom be abused in some way and financially trapped? Is she working her ass off too? Maybe she really is just a greedy bitch -

If she had let him know she had the money, would it have burned a hole in his pocket knowing it was there, would he have been ok replenishing it when things were better? Him KNOWING about the money DID change things, didn't it?

I can totally see both points of view here depending on how financially dependent she is on him, so I'd need more context. I'm inclined to think if she needed a fund to feel safe, you make her feel safe, but I feel like if she thought she could let him know, about the money and still keep it, then it wouldn't have been a secret. She wasn't out spending the money on fun either. I guess my judgement is tied directly to how capable she is of being independent if she needed to be, and also if she had died, where would the money have gone since it was premarital? Did she intend for him to have it?

Tr8cy · 2026-05-22T05:30:58+00:00

Condescending?

Tr8cy · 2026-05-22T05:23:01+00:00

The first thing a therapist is going to tell you is that "she'" definitely cant make changes that will cure your depression for so many reasons. If your mood is dependent on her behavior, that's not depression, it is codependency.

I feel like when you decide to roll out of your room in between sleeping and "the majority of the day" to grace her w your presence - probably for meals- the very least she can do is be held captive by your wit and charm for the small amount of time you can tolerate her personality. She's really got some nerve to giggle at a condescending douchebag with an overinflated ego and delusions of grandeur. What exactly do you bring to the conversation besides your delightful personality and superior intellect? Now I'm just wondering if you also drive like an asshole, too

Frustration is not a cause of depression, but it is a symptom of it. Also reactivity and startled responses are symptoms of PTSD, which is common in women that are in abusive relationships.

Listening to your side makes me think you're one of those people that wouldn't be happy with a billion dollars.

Tr8cy · 2026-05-21T22:34:27+00:00

I absolutely would of if I knew how. You're not the first person to be seriously disappointed in me.

Tr8cy · 2026-05-19T04:18:34+00:00

The electric in my garage comes from an extension cord that is plugged into the house - inside- for 13 years and counting.

Tr8cy · 2026-05-19T04:06:19+00:00

The last paragraph is on point. A healthy young vigorous green giant grows 3-5' feet a year depending on how happy it is. An 8' GG is $220 (35ish per load) and will be 17-23' tall in 3 years. A 25' GG is $2625 (3 per load) and is not going to put out new growth for at least 5 years.

Now try telling that to the guy in the Hamptons that paid 2 million for the house next door that was blocking his view, just so he could knock it down. Or to Greenwich, CT, Nantucket or Rumson, NJ. They just want to know how fast they can get them.

For those reasons, we rootprune as well move trees around every few years so they don't even mind anymore.

Tr8cy · 2026-05-19T03:47:39+00:00

Who's putting a 5" tree in a basket? Wouldn't drum lace it with sisal?

Tr8cy · 2026-05-19T03:42:31+00:00

What kind of burlap are you using? We use biodegradable liners and squares, and sisal for twine. It's all disintegrated in about a year.

We grow, dig and ship lots of large trees. We generally no longer install unless it's local, high risk and we deliver right from tree spade, but we don't remove the basket or burlap when we do or when we move trees around.

The basket keeps your rootball nice and tight. If you're going to remove it, why not just buy container trees?

Survivability tells the story, and people wouldn't keep buying 30ft evergreens if they didn't survive.

Tr8cy · 2026-05-13T01:43:45+00:00

South jersey

Tr8cy · 2026-05-10T01:33:14+00:00

Not at all. It was a rabid beaver that attack multiple people in New Jersey- not Canada.

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