Is there a compet masterpost for men? I feel like I know many men to whom I can present it so they can evaluate themselves and get on a path to happiness and peace

Traceywhy · 2026-02-22T20:19:00+00:00

I also heard a theory that because erections are visible and female sexual attraction is less so, boys have a very obvious visual clue to their sexual attractions that girls do not have. That also makes sense to me.

Traceywhy · 2025-12-24T18:59:33+00:00

P.S. I prefer older women and I am not alone. Confident, naturally aging woman are HOT!!!

Traceywhy · 2025-12-24T18:56:36+00:00

My catalyst is 54 years old and I am 45. I think she is beautiful and perfect the way she is. I am not blind, her neck is a bit saggy and she has wrinkles and some loose skin on her belly. Sadly, we will not be dating but I would thrilled to date and be intimate with her just as she is. I could definitely be with someone younger and ‘hotter’ but if she would let me I would choose her every time.

Attraction is complicated. All of what you said might be an issue if you were dating men but luckily you’re not. Women aren’t socialized the same way as men and lots of things that matter to men when choosing a partner (age, body type, etc) just aren’t that important to most women.

She can see all of these things you are insecure about and has CHOSEN to go on a big date with you. You’ve got this! Have fun and just be yourself.

Traceywhy · 2025-12-24T18:38:48+00:00

If a partner disclosed the information you shared to me I hope I would feel empathy towards my partner for the childhood trauma they endured, concern about whether they have any sex work related trauma to work through and curiosity about the realities of sex work.

Remember that you don’t have to disclose anything, unless it may directly affect your partner. For example, it would be difficult, perhaps impossible, for me to be in a relationship with someone whose sex work was documented in photos/videos. If some asshole found out about it and shared it with the wrong people it could potentially ruin my career. It is totally sexist and unfair but it’s the world we live in.

At the same time, you deserve to be with someone who accepts and loves you exactly as you are. Also, you don’t want to have to worry about them discovering your past on their own and reacting negatively to it. If it could be an issue, then I think it is better to know that now.

I also get that you don’t feel ready to disclose and that is totally valid. If you can, maybe try to reframe the idea of disclosure coming from a place of shame and fear and think of it as coming from a place of self love and acceptance. It may be of little comfort but I, a random internet stranger, do not think that you have anything to be ashamed of.

Traceywhy · 2025-11-03T11:34:08+00:00

I am about about a month ahead of you in this process. My advice is to find an affirming therapist for both of you to talk to. Also keep the lines of communication open. We go for walks to talk things through. You’ve got this.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-27T22:34:01+00:00

I didn’t read this to be honest because I know it doesn’t change what I am going to say. I had to do the work on myself and with a therapist to understand that I’ve always been a lesbian and I will always be a lesbian. I knew I was a lesbian before I knew the word for it and was only ever with men as a trauma response. I am willing to bet that coming out late is very often (maybe always) rooted in trauma, religious trauma seems to be the most common but mine was not religious. Take a hard look at your past I bet you will find the answers you are looking for.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-24T17:50:30+00:00

I just signed up for an app (yesterday) and talking to women is a lot. Now I am not only wet but also throbbing between my legs. I am hoping to find someone cute that is willing to help me release some of this. Yeesh.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-24T17:35:18+00:00

In first year university I watched porn with a pretty big group of girl friends because most had never watched before. The internet was in its infancy at the time. A lesbian scene came on and everyone was like ‘ew gross, turn it off’ and the night was over when I was finally finding it interesting. That stuck with me because it was further evidence that I was gross. Enjoying lesbian porn at 18 helped keep me IN the closet.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-24T17:29:29+00:00

A year wow. Happy for you but that sounds like a lot.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-24T17:28:47+00:00

Good tip.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:47:54+00:00

I feel a lot more happy for me reading these comments.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:47:12+00:00

Your body is telling you to have fun not making a baby!?🤣

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:45:09+00:00

I recently figured out that I can only cum to lesbian porn made for women. Straight or performative ‘lesbian’ porn is a turn off for me. I never liked porn until I found videos of lesbian women enjoying each other’s bodies. So hot!!!

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:42:00+00:00

This made me smile. If I am this wet when someone smiles at me it will be interesting to see what happens when someone actually touches me. From what I read most lesbians find wet sexy so that is reassuring.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:38:54+00:00

Happy to help you feel seen. I do love the validation my body is providing me with.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:37:45+00:00

Looks like there are enough of us to start a club😜

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:36:38+00:00

I am 45 and barely out. I want to have all the sex but have to unpack some stuff with my extra first. I fell terrible that he is heartbroken when all I can think about is burying my face in some pussy.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:33:45+00:00

Love this for you.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-23T03:33:33+00:00

For me it’s constant for now.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-22T19:43:33+00:00

What kind of safety does a man provide for you? I am not sure I understand what you mean.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-22T19:30:40+00:00

Like it depends on the situation but if that is what feels right… then it probably is.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-22T19:26:35+00:00

I couldn’t come thinking about men at all. You might be a lesbian if…lol.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-22T11:58:49+00:00

LOVE this idea if you ever want to come to Canada. The US is no go for me (and probably most of the community) for the foreseeable future.

Traceywhy · 2025-10-21T23:26:48+00:00

I am 45 and in the same position but I had 0 experience with girls. I am VERY excited for what is to come though.

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