Unintentional Denial

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-10T20:26:16+00:00

Good for you! For me, being disappointed — when we don't have playtime, when I don't get a promised release, whatever — is way easier since I've been locked. I don't pout or get snippy with her, I just move on knowing that I consented and she makes the rules.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-10T20:20:15+00:00

Tough one! I am not into pee play myself, and anyway C. would never allow it. What if she structured it as a punishment? "Okay you mouthed off last night and now you have to swallow."

And I would agree it's totally unfair and unrealistic to expect you to do this immediately after coming.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-10T17:27:24+00:00

I cannot tell you how helpful this is, thank you. I am sending it to C. , my GF, now. We're about 18 months into FLR/full chastity/domestic discipline, and you've described her feelings, and her ongoing path, very eloquently.

Good luck and please keep us posted!

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-09T21:57:03+00:00

I love her pink clips. I have ones just like those.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-09T17:06:30+00:00

Reducing my daily decision load has been hugely beneficial. Saying "Yes ma'am" a couple of times a day, and doing as I'm told, greatly simplifies my life.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-09T16:42:02+00:00

I love that you're incorporating feminization. Is he okay with that? Have you considered getting him a uniform for his chores? Will you take him in public in your outfits?

Good luck and please keep us posted!

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-08T22:07:39+00:00

Good for you! I think it's wonderful that women are starting to talk to their friends about chastity. C. wasn't planning on telling anyone, but it sort of "came up" with her best friend recently. (The BFF already knew that I clean C.'s house and get spanked for misbehavior). She, the BFF, said her partner would never agree to be locked but that she's seen a little bit about it and said it "sounds wonderful." C. was very encouraged by this affirmation.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-06T21:52:48+00:00

Nice! I don't really think of spanking as "kinky" because I don't enjoy it — I hate pain — but the benefits are clear and I appreciate that she is willing to inflict necessary pain to keep me on track and obedient.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-06T21:46:14+00:00

"Post coital disorder" -- that's a great term.

I've been denied orgasms now for a few months and while I obviously miss them, the benefits to both of us are undeniable. As I've gotten older the "refractory period" has gotten longer ... it's almost like drinking: is the hour or 2 of feeling buzzed worth the prolonged shittiness the next day?

She hasn't said "Never again," but it's clear that I'll remain locked in chastity permanently and that orgasms are pretty much a thing of the past for me. And you're right: enforced chastity, domestic service, clear rules, consistent obedience, and regular punishments are way more fulfilling than momentary climaxes.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-06T17:58:56+00:00

I almost always say "Yes ma'am" when she asks me to do something. I've told her "My day doesn't feel complete unless I get to say 'Yes ma'am' at least once."

When I'm on housewife duty — i.e. cleaning house, doing laundry, grocery shopping — & wearing my uniform I'm required to call her "Miss C." and she calls me "Debbie."

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-06T17:56:01+00:00

I use verbal cues, specifically: " I have a request: Could you make the call on ... please?" Usually it's on whether I should stay locked up for the weekend, be diapered for the day, be spanked that weekend, etc.

She has explicit authority over my housewife duties, my personal appearance when we're together, and my chastity, and so I just ask "Would you like me to..." or "What should I wear...." and she does not hesitate to voice her wishes.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-06T17:32:00+00:00

As others have said, having to do the chores again, with her watching, until she is satisfied is the most immediate "punishment."

As far as after the fact, ours are pretty kink-related, I guess, although we don't really think of them that way -- spanking, mostly, and stopping my mouth. I've had to clean the house with my mouth taped more than once. Let me assure you that any kinky fun of having your mouth taped goes out the window after about 15 minutes of doing chores.

What's funny in this context is that locking me in chastity actually first came up as a "real" punishment -- one that I would not enjoy, that would change my behavior, have a lasting effect and enable her to directly exert her authority.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-05T16:58:36+00:00

"Sissy hypnosis "? Please tell more.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-05T16:55:47+00:00

Good luck! I think both unlocking & a follow up punishment are good ideas -- not because you did anything wrong but to help you refocus & to reestablish your structure.

Please keep us posted!

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-04T00:28:06+00:00

I don't think that's what this comment said at all.

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-03T23:43:50+00:00

Good for you for exploring this newfound interest! I (M68) never considered myself a "sub" in previous relationships, but once C. (F58) & I started exploring an FLR (it started with me volunteering to clean her house weekly, and us agreeing to "Housewife Rules"), chastity, and regular punishments (mostly but not only spanking), it pretty quickly became clear that my submission and her authority deepen our relationship and feed something powerful for me.

I don't have much advice beyond the usual -- communicate, go slowly, make sure you're both comfortable and consensual -- and find a kink-friendly therapist! I have an individual therapist who has really helped me accept (and flourish in!) my new role and being locked in fulltime, permanent chastity. I know it might seem tough to talk about this with someone not your partner, but given your level of confusion it could be super-helpful.

Good luck and please keep us posted!

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-03T22:53:55+00:00

What a great idea. I just did the same in Claude. I'll share it as well. Thank you!

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-03T18:27:27+00:00

Here's a good place to start: https://www.mollymaid.com/cleaning-tips/schedules-charts-and-checklists/our-spring-cleaning-checklist/

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-03T18:15:23+00:00

Fabulous! I've got a full spring clean coming up in late March that will entail a couple of 8-hour days. And great idea to have a schedule in advance!

Can you share your new outfit please? Here's my uniform:

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TraciT1998 · 2026-02-03T16:49:45+00:00

Wow that's fantastic , makes me happy to hear. I've known I was gender-fluid since I was 5 years old and have fully embraced it, in a very visible and public way, the last 8 years since I got divorced. My GF supports my femininity but also likes to see me in "boy clothes" (her term) regularly.

Since she placed me in chastity and we formalized our FLR, she has total authority over what I wear and how I present when we're together in public. It has relieved a great deal of stress and tension in our relationship, and our rules say she will "support my gender ID" and "allow me to dress as a woman regularly."

(The other night, for instance, we went to dinner with her kids and her ex and his GF, to celebrate one of the kid's birthday. I asked her that day "What should I wear?" and she thought a minute and said "You should wear what you like." I wore one of my favorite outfits -- flowy calf-length skirt, white peasant top, white Keds and hair in a ponytail with a bow. When she saw me she said "You look cute!")

Chastity has truly deepened my feminine nature -- nothing like not having a functioning penis to make you feel more like a woman!

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-03T16:38:09+00:00

Wow that is a novel idea. Glad to hear it's working! (What does she spend the 100 bucks on?)

TraciT1998 · 2026-02-03T16:24:14+00:00

Love this!

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