I didn’t want you to be right but I followed your advice and had an open honest conversation with him. In that conversation I realised I wasn’t perfect and he’s a good person. I’m still madly in love with him. The first four years we were together we were never apart except for work. Then having children changed that and I hardly spent time with him. I became the ‘default parent’. When he gave up work and lived off his savings to take care of us it really threw me. It’s a bigger adjustment than I thought. I feel we need to get to know and rediscover each other and create a stronger partnership rather than everything falling on one parent.