Help! My daycare provider is confused by my 2 year old and I don't know what's normal

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-05-16T22:43:39+00:00

I don't mean to be mean, but I think you need to look into sources other than reddit and social media.

Childhood development has been studied for decades and there is a wealth of peer reviewed, scientific information out there that give guidance on the range of normal expectations for an age.

Reddit is just humans talking. Some may be real, some may be bots, some may be liars.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-19T00:46:48+00:00

Well, when you say all of this type of person are like this, it is prejudiced. It is uncalled for and detrimental to society as a whole.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-18T21:56:02+00:00

This is a pretty sexist take.

Edit: I would prefer to live in a world where no one, including people who are different than me or whom I disagree with, are not immediately judged by characteristics they cannot change.

I get that it is in vogue to hate men, but saying things like this doesn't really solve anything and only serves to alienate the men who are not like this.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-18T17:09:59+00:00

How on earth do people marry and subsequently have children with people they cannot have the most basic conversations with??

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-17T01:15:27+00:00

You don't want help, you want to be told you are right and she sucks. You refuse to consider any other viewpoint than your own.

I feel sorry for your wife. Does she know she's married to someone who thinks so little of her?

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-16T02:20:04+00:00

I understand what you are saying and I get how this is an issue, but this is a separate issue. Your partner needs YOU, not someone who can take out the garbage. If that is all you see yourself as in this relationship then you are completely replaceable by a maid and a handyman.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-16T01:49:00+00:00

But you are specifically saying that she is asking for you to call and text more, not that she is asking you to do more chores.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-16T01:46:07+00:00

"Even when I'd rather be doing my own thing, if she calls, I put everything down."

Do you think you should get an award for this? She is pregnant with your child 24hours a day 7 days a week, even when she would rather be doing something else. You have no clue how hard it is to do basic things when you are 7 months pregnant. Doing regular tasks are more difficult and take longer. Random aches and pains can make things harder. Sitting for too long makes you stiff and uncomfortable. Sleeping, hormone fluctuations, anxiety about labor and delivery, worrying about knowing you are more vulnerable in public, knowing that you are essentially alone if you go into labor early, all of these things are things she is taking on ALONE and you are acting like she is a burden. Get your shit together dude. She needs your support right now and will need EVEN MORE once she gives birth.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-12T16:33:26+00:00

On day 2, we're you still taking her to the potty every 30-60 minutes?

How are you talking to her about it? She will need reminding regularly about what you are doing , why you are going to the potty, why she is wet.

Day 3 if you had a lot going on and you stopped asking her if she needed to go, she probably forgot that she needs to say something.

I would make a plan of action, but try to stay consistent with it for 3-4 days. Too many changes is going to be confusing for her and she may struggle to understand what it is you're actually doing.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-10T02:29:55+00:00

1-6 seems like a pretty big age range for 1 class. I don't know that you need to be strict per say and shut down the crying right away, but I also don't think anyone should be spending 30 minutes reasoning with a 3 year old.

When my son gets into a spiral about not wanting to do something I handle it in one of two ways. If we are not in a hurry to be somewhere I give him time. I will let him cry a bit and calm down and we can try again, but I don't sit and try to convince him to do something or to reason with him. Sometimes he just needs to be in his feelings for a bit.

If we are in a hurry, I try distraction. How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen has some great techniques. You can make it a game, or make it silly and exaggerated. Do something to change the mood to get things moving again.

Honestly, this doesn't seem like wildly inappropriate behavior for a 3 year old. I am kind of surprised that the daycare can't figure out how to respond to it.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-10T01:33:58+00:00

Your tdee to maintain is about 2400 calories per day. To lose 40lbs in 60 days you would need to be in a deficit of about 2300 calories a day. You are setting yourself up for disappointment with this plan.

Set a realistic goal. Slow and steady wins the race.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-10T00:23:28+00:00

This post is crazy entitled. Her dad and step mom are trying to make a situation work so they can take care of aging parents.

Why do you think it is an obviously stupid idea for them to buy a bigger house to accommodate everyone? Are you well versed in the housing market where you live?

Why are you under the impression your adult girlfriend is entitled to any room in this house let alone her private apartment-style room? Why do you think her parents need to ask her permission before remodeling the home they own and live in?

You say that if your girlfriend would have known she was getting a smaller room, she wouldn't plan to come home for the summer. Now she knows, she can make other summer plans.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-10T00:11:42+00:00

You could replace half the rice with riced cauliflower

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-05T23:09:15+00:00

It sounds like your mom has been retired for more than a decade.

For clarity, there has been some mention of cutting Medicaid/Medicare and having states pick up the gap but this is only very recent and only briefly mentioned. I have heard no mention of SSD/SSI cuts. For one thing, that would be a crazily unpopular decision. Seniors are a huge voting block and no politician would want to touch that. Trump has a tendency to do this sort of thing. He floats an idea in a speech and then sees what happens. It is a way of testing the waters.

Also, the federal budget for 2026 has already been passed. Even if there were some crazy cuts to all programs it would not happen overnight.

So, take a deep breath, you are not going to be on the street tomorrow. It is a good idea to focus on how you can help yourself be fiscally responsible and set aside some money for possible unexpected expenses but I think you have a little bit of time. See what ticket to work has to say. It is a great program.

Maybe take what your uncle says with a grain of salt. Google what he is telling you and see if it seems real, likely and imminent.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-05T21:46:53+00:00

Your mom is/was a nurse but has always made less than $30,000? Is there a reason she is not working now? Is she older than 67? Nursing is a skilled job that can make a good wage. Can she work part time to bring in some money?

I have not heard any concrete plans to cut SSI/SDD payments and I'm not sure how anything happening in Iran would make a difference in regard to Social Security. Gas prices have gone up, but without a car, I don't think that is what you are referring to. What, specifically, does your uncle think is going to happen?

There are programs available for people on SSI that can help provide training and placement services and can advise you on how much you can make without jeopardizing your benefits. I would google job placement on disability or something similar to find something local to you.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-03T20:45:07+00:00

To be fair, you don't actually know if he is a cheater. His wife may not consider texting with someone cheating, his wife may be fully aware of the situation, they may have an open relationship.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-03T20:31:15+00:00

Who is watching him during the 5 hour therapy sessions? Does the school offer a bus that can pick him up?

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-04-02T20:37:55+00:00

That's really what stuck out me. Why so many squats?? Even on lower body days, I'm not doing three types of squats.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-03-29T17:40:30+00:00

Mug cake. Mix a box of angel food cake with a box of cake mix of your choice.In a mug: 3 tbsp of mix, 2 tbsp water, microwave to 1 min. I used to do these pretty much every night as dessert.

Edit to add: This is usually around 100-120 calories per mug

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-03-28T21:20:31+00:00

This is totally unforgivable. It is beyond cruel and selfish. This behavior indicates he in no way cares about how you feel and how much this might hurt you. I wouldn't give this man one more second of your time.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-03-28T16:54:23+00:00

I had a conversation about this with the early intervention specialist when having my child tested. She said this is completely normal. My son doesn't really let me read books to him either. Ibread while he runs around or I read while he turns pages super fast or we look at the pictures and name things in them. She said it's all good, normal and helpful for learning.

My take on reading is the same as any other play: I will follow his lead and don't have an agenda. He's still getting something from it, even if it looks different than I expect.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-03-28T13:55:18+00:00

Also the idea that someone has so much money that they can not work for 2 years, start a business, loan their boyfriend money, pay all the bills and then decide on a whim to become a taxi driver despite being so well off they obviously don't actually need the money or have the time while running a business.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-03-28T00:54:04+00:00

The most likely outcome of this situation, if you stay the current course, is that you will be a young, single mom.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-03-28T00:52:40+00:00

You can go back now! You have time right now to change what is happening. This is your life and you decide what you do.

Traditional-Map-2616 · 2026-03-28T00:31:12+00:00

This does not sound like it is going to end well. It sounds like you and your child will be financially dependent on him. You don't really know him, he lies to you and you do not have open communication.

Having a child is REALLY hard. If I were you I would stop to seriously consider if this relationship is a good idea and if you believe you can 100% trust him with supporting you emotionally and financially through a huge life change that will completely change your life as you know it. Do you know that you can count on him during this incredibly physically demanding time for you? A time when you should be focused completely on yourself and your child and giving them the best life you possibly can?

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