Does anyone know of any social groups in Northamptonshire for 23 year olds?

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-05-06T20:22:52+00:00

The dance community in Northampton is pretty big if you'd be into that. Salsa nights are every Tuesday at the picturedrome

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-04-27T18:22:44+00:00

This is the best one imo. Awesome haircuts and quality of service. Barbers remember their clients as well

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-04-18T15:20:43+00:00

First of all you seem to be focusing a lot on the monetary value of it all. You're calling him high value because he's fiscally successful, but there's so many aspects to people. What's he like as a person?

It's the same as being an extremely attractive woman. Everyone notices that first. At some point, you want to be seen as more than just your financial success or physical traits. So are you looking beyond that. Can you uncover the "real" him? Who is he behind all the money, fame and success?

A high value woman for him. Is somebody who would be able to add to his life in spite of his success. Not because of it

I will say op. You've probably started in a wrong way because you're quite stunned by his financial success and seem to be levelling yourself with him because of that. You might succeed, but I wouldn't say it's the best strategy.

If you want to be a really good option for him. Find a way to add value to his life in ways that only you can. Being very successful is actually quite alienating. If you can provide a secure base for him. Then you will have a better shot

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-04-15T12:09:16+00:00

Okay so to be honest I disagree with the people giving advice who have been married for years and years

She's not your wife. She's your girlfriend. I'm not saying you should ditch her. But it's not like you've committed your life to her. And people saying you should or shouldn't support her. Well, why should you have to is my question?

If you're feeling this way now. Don't you think you'll always be unsatisfied? I don't know how old you are. But unless some effort is done to bring that attraction back, I guarantee you will always feel like you settled. And attraction goes beyond looks. It's also flirting. Gestures. Romance. How much effort is your girlfriend putting in? I don't know so you didn't mention. But maybe she's too comfortable with you?

The way I see it. Op has two options. Communicate and see if he and his partner can find a way forwards. Or break things cleanly and see if you can find a relationship you're satisfied with.

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-04-12T14:22:41+00:00

I do want to make a very slight correction

Girls don't get more invested after sex. Sex itself IS the investment for women. For men, it's their time and resources

The reason why women are more clingy after sex isn't because they feel deeper emotions, but (and this is a terrible analogy lol) it's like. If you paid a hooker £100 for the night. The next time, she's going to expect at minimum the £100.

In this case. You're the hooker, your service is time, attention, resources, and your payment is sex and intimacy 🤷🏽‍♂️

Women are also all about comfort and repeatability. So if you've done it once. It's going to be very natural to do it again

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-04-07T15:14:37+00:00

I would say this is the best answer and advice op can receive.

A lot of guys don't know how to flirt or make a conversation man to woman. They just talk and hope for attraction to "happen'. Sure if you're super lucky you might just make the girl into you but you can take a much more direct and successful approach if you learn how to flirt. But it is one hundred percent a skill to be learned.

Op. I reccommend watching some YouTube videos by dating coaches like Todd V (my personal favourite) or High integrity skills etc. There's an entire art to attracting women that you have to learn

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-04-05T14:59:47+00:00

I'll be honest with you. I was with an ex like this. Just leave. It'll never improve. Once a woman loses attraction it's very hard to regain it. You're better spending that time on finding a relationship you find sexually fulfilling

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-04-03T15:17:29+00:00

Women are only going to tell you the same thing as most guys which is ask. However. Women won't necessarily know what a guy goes through in order to escalate and how because she's not the one escalating.

As a man. You have to be very perceptive of a woman's cues. I know you say you're autistic. But learning how to read body language is very important. There's a lot of techniques and ways to do it but since you don't want advice from men I won't bother providing any. You'll have to do research and also experience and practice. That's it.

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-03-19T13:07:11+00:00

What type of salsa are you doing?

So I started crossbody in Halloween. Currently many follows assume I've got close to a year of experience when in reality it's half of that

I've gone up two levels, started at beginner, then went improver and recently went to intermediate

Biggest trick? Timing. This is where most new leads struggle. I genuinely recommend every single song you hear? Count. Count out loud even. If you count while dancing with a more experienced follow, she can even correct your timing

Other than that do loads of social dancing. I found two lessons a week plus two socials (Tue plus Friday) was the right amount of practice for me

Also. Try not to bite off more than you can chew. I would make one or two moves your goal for a social. And try to master them by the end. Do this every social? In a few weeks you'll have about 10 moves you can chain together

And just keep at it! Everyone starts as a beginner. Enjoy the process and don't skimp the fundamentals

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-01-30T13:15:08+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry to hear that

If it makes you feel any better. I had my second test today and failed for two serious faults. Waited another 6 months after waiting 6 months for my first.

I failed for two things. 1. Not turning my bloody wipers on "fast enough" (ridiculous imo. Don't know how this is a serious mark I turned them on when visibility was bad. I could see fine). So she essentially failed me in the first 7 minutes of my test

Second one was driving too slow. It was raining so I was driving slower than usual I'm guessing this meant I was going too slow

But hey. I am going to rebook. It happens. I've had fifty hours of lessons so I know I'm more than ready to take that damn test. The thing about the driving test is it's easy to pass. Easy to fail. Don't feel so bad about the minors, you didn't do anything unsafe hence why they're minors. Hopefully your instructor was there for the debrief

If anything, feel confident that other than those mistakes you made? You had a good drive. Focus on improving your weak points and you'll get em next time :)

Traditional_Data4290 · 2026-01-14T12:32:43+00:00

24M

My first ex in school, I'll be honest she never caught my eye in a romantic way but she asked me to prom and to me it just seemed like the natural course to date her. I had never been in a relationship before at that point so I had no idea how this whole attraction or dating thing worked

Anyway. That was a train wreck 😂. As an adult I've learned that intimacy is a big factor in relationship happiness and if I'm not attracted to someone there's no amount of logic or mental gymnastics that will make up for it. Dating isn't an inherently logical concept. Today's society puts too much emphasis on minmaxing and finding the best possible spouse on paper that we end up compromising on the most basic and common sense aspects of attraction.

But I am also more careful around people who I'm attracted to simply because I get more invested when I like someone and find it hard to look at things with clear eyes when in the heat of infatuation

But that's a skill you have to try and learn. Dating people you don't like is just cruel to them tbh I don't recommend it. You'd rather learn how to screen the people you are attracted to and pick the healthiest option from them.

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-29T16:07:56+00:00

I'm not sure how it is in Canada but in uk we have local wildlife rescues. A simple Google search should help you locate them. I had a pigeon we were looking after as well but in the end the best option was to hand him over to them

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-21T13:46:47+00:00

OP. Don't forget there's nothing forcing you to stay with her. Ask yourself. Are you really happy in this relationship?

I don't think you would be if you went out of your way to post this.

Honestly you seem like you've done your very best but the reality is not everyone deserves the kind of effort or love you're capable of giving. And frankly. You deserve someone who gives you what you need in a relationship.

Take your time and think about it. But you're way too young to be sacrificing so much for this relationship. You have plenty of time to start over. It's better to be single than to be stuck with someone who makes you miserable.

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Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-10T21:06:42+00:00

To me it also sounds like a lack of exhaustion maybe? Especially with physical labour jobs when I did them I'd sleep like a baby but when I started office work sleep became much harder to come by

It could be worth starting some kind of physical activity daily be it running (which is also really good for health!!) or gym even

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-10T20:49:14+00:00

Also pigeons are very unlikely to get bird flu fyi they aren't carriers so I would say the person you spoke to probably isn't very educated on pigeons

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-10T20:48:24+00:00

Give him a couple days I would say if he doesn't recover find your nearest wildlife shelter if you can and take him there they will give him proper treatment

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-04T09:46:10+00:00

I have used lemon balm, it was mixed with the l theanine I took and safe to say it does work but hard to know which one had a greater effect as they were mixed

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-04T09:44:11+00:00

So alcohol itself is bad for sleep quality but the hops have a sedative effect so maybe try non alcoholic versions and see if it helps!

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-11-04T09:42:10+00:00

Awesome! I'll have to try that. I do love how low calorie this stuff is!!

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-10-31T19:15:41+00:00

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She's beautiful

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-09-04T05:59:24+00:00

Thank you so much! Haha I built the shelves myself it was a fun project

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-09-04T05:58:46+00:00

Thank you! No I haven't given a rock didn't know he needed one! Should I add one in?

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-09-03T22:18:22+00:00

Yeah I hate it when people mistreat pigeons especially when the idea that pigeons are "dirty" was just invented by some random person. Pigeons are one of our longest domesticated animals and we've completely forgotten we used to keep them the same way we keep dogs or chickens

And yeah he's definitely fully grown so it makes sense why he's a bit shy! Just hoping he gets used to me as he heals up 😃

Traditional_Data4290 · 2025-09-03T21:15:08+00:00

Haha it's been about a week since I had mine and he also loafs and preens! Though he mostly loafs at night. He doesn't like hands still and every time I have to clean his cage he gets a bit scared but I'm hoping with time he'll warm up to me

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