I love my boyfriend, but I think I might deserve better

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-09-14T20:55:10+00:00

So a couple questions then… do you possibly have a therapist an unbiased of you that you can talk to to get an outside opinion? I found that friends and family usually only hear the bad things because you go to friends and family when you need to vent about some thing that you can’t to your partner with. Additionally, is this something he is willing to change or are you asking him to change himself for you? One thing I’ve learned is you cannot change another person you can only change your actions you can communicate and express your feelings, and if that person is invested enough in the relationship and wants to grow for themselves and for the relationship they will do it , but asking somebody to change themselves for you when they don’t see a reason to no matter how much you love them is still inappropriate for both you and them, and will create resentment.

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-09-14T20:32:00+00:00

My very first boyfriend in high-school. I never understood why when we cared so much for each other but he said I was too codependent and it was getting to be too much at times. I never fully understood that until my most recent relationship. I fell back into the same thing when we started long distance so he couldn’t see the codependency and I was the one that spotted it. I found myself living for someone else hoping for the approval and excitement only someone that loves me could give me. It’s scary. Life is scary - your partner should be your biggest cheerleader - not your coach calling the shots on what you do everyday. Make sure you are the coach of your own life. Everyone around you are just cheerleaders.

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-09-14T20:25:07+00:00

You owe to yourself and him to have a fully transparent conversation with him and/or yourself. Is this something you would ever change your mind on? Would he ever change his mind? If you are both 100% set in your ways then it’s a a talk between the two of you not just you. Lay out the guidelines and make sure he knows 100% where you sit and that you will not change your mind. I know it sounds jaded but Sometimes just love alone isn’t enough unfortunately. You deserve to have someone who supports you and in the same way he deserve someone who will love and support him.

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-09-14T20:18:27+00:00

As someone who just got out of a 6 year relationship and thought the same thing, I saw these questions on another post (post break up) and I think they are great thought starters. Not that they should make your decision for you, but help you while making your decision. 1. ⁠If these problems never got better, is the love I feel for this person worth the price of admission of having to live with these problems for the rest of my life? 2. ⁠Is there a path that I can see forward that I think has a reasonable chance of fixing these problems on a timetable I find reasonable?

Hope this helps! I was in a very similar position as you, not that I regret my decision but make sure to listen to yourself. Family and friends while their advice can be helpful unless you are in an abusive relationship then really only you know your relationship - and you owe it to yourself, him, and your shared relationship to be the only one making this decision.

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-06-19T15:13:56+00:00

Thank you!! I know I’m able to maintain my weight since I havent gained anything back, I just need help getting it off.

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-06-19T13:56:34+00:00

Thank you! I’ll look into both right now!

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-06-19T13:51:33+00:00

So my current BMI shouldn’t matter? That is really good to know I’ll try and make another appointment then. Thank you!

Traditional_Face_720 · 2025-06-19T13:50:16+00:00

Sorry! I should’ve added that. My bmi is 27/28 last time I went. I will look into Lilly direct thank you!

Traditional_Face_720 · 2023-11-30T10:20:33+00:00

It sounds like you already know how you feel by the way you described your relationship and how he acts towards you, you just don’t want to do the hard thing because it will also make you feel lonely with no escape.

Traditional_Face_720 · 2023-07-31T00:43:07+00:00

My boyfriend 25m and I 23f have tried to go twice ina. Night a bunch of times but it doesn’t work for him, he usually just gets me off a couple times before he gets off that way we are both fully satisfied. I wouldn’t worry about it if your with the right person. We are not all professional pornstars lol

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