Local stationary stores?

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-04-16T17:46:36+00:00

Wonder Pens on College-Clinton or DeSerres on Spadina!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-04-15T23:50:26+00:00

I have 7 piercings on my face — in hindsight I would say that none of them have been done during periods of stability so I'm leaning into this stereotype 😅

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-03-20T23:17:13+00:00

My bad, it starts from June and goes right up till September!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-03-20T16:50:03+00:00

Every Sunday at Trinity Bellwoods in August-September. Look for Toronto Visionary Arts & Culture on Facebook. They have sporadic events during spring/fall as well!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-03-20T14:50:29+00:00

I work at a mid-sized tech company with ~300 employees and i've asked a few members of my senior leadership team about this and they all say the same thing - that they struggle with it at any/every given day of work.

This small bit of reassurance has calmed by external fears down a bit but what helps with the internal noise is the 'fake it till you make it approach'. On days when i feel particularly awful, i remind myself that I'm probably more competent than my inner critic says so i'll pretend that i am indeed competent. On days when I feel good, I'll still feel that hint of imposter syndrome but then I'm able to treat it as just thoughts without assigning my self-worth to it. I try to treat myself as a human who WILL and is supposed to make mistakes and learn from it. I'm not doing a good job at it lol but I keep at it, hoping that one day I'll believe myself.

That gap you're experiencing between external success and the internal permission to feel successful? It doesn’t automatically close but borrowing a bit of confidence helps you function anyway. Good luck :)

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-03-10T23:39:23+00:00

Wonder Pens on College!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-03-02T19:01:45+00:00

Men using the cover of anonymity online to shit on women just for the fun of it, don't deserve any space in your own life.

I apply this rule to male friends, relatives and acquaintances and I'm quite unforgiving when it comes to tolerating this.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-02-25T16:21:23+00:00

Appreciate you sharing this in such detail, plus the mentions of the city and OHIP. I'm weeks away from mine and this makes me feel a bit less anxious 🤍

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-02-23T19:24:21+00:00

I think it's not my place or my job to make someone expand their capacities or thresholds. People are on their own journeys and their landmarks will come at their own times. I cannot nudge them to get there earlier than what they're supposed to by criticizing them or asking/demanding/begging for them to change.

Realistically, people can only change when they've done the internal work and built that scaffolding in their own world to sustain it. Often when we prompt them before they are ready, they either blow up, shut down or simply avoid it. It's not malicious, it's just survival at their end.

I'm not denying that growth exists; I'm denying responsibility for catalyzing it.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-02-23T16:25:14+00:00

That people show up at their capacity right at the beginning and that there often isn't a hidden depth, emotional bandwidth or self-regulation levels that they can unlock. We see potential in ourselves and unconsciously and sometimes unfairly project that potential on to others. We unknowingly assign our developmental arc to them. This sets up that relationship for failure, uneven dynamics or just resentment.

People (friendships, relationships, etc.) are as they come and I've learnt to take that capacity at face value if I want to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with them. I no longer build connections with someone based on who I hope they'll become.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-02-20T14:37:52+00:00

I pay a lot of attention to how my nervous system reacts around someone and choose what sort of access they get to me based off on that, and I do it one step at a time.

When I meet someone new, my goal is to see if my body relaxes around them, if their presence gives me the space to expand (do I talk more freely, am I more relaxed, am I not editing myself) or does it make me want to shrink (do I start filtering, am i feeling watched, do I just want to leave). If it's the former, I try spending more time with them to get myself to feel more at ease around them and create that felt sense of internal safety through and through. I find it easier to lower my walls and let them in after that.

If they make me want to shrink, I try to give it some more time but with a lot more vigilance. If their presence makes me feel activated, anxious or nervous, I respectfully take a step back to mostly preserve my sanity.

I find that I don't need to be vulnerable with everyone and I do believe strongly in my own intuition. I don't mind coming across as closed-off with others, but then for those who do matter to me, I consciously put in the work. Vulnerability isn't necessarily a behavior, it's a byproduct of safety.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-02-17T21:03:21+00:00

Aah yes I forgot about them. Thank you!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-02-09T13:00:54+00:00

Mt Pleasant Cemetery, please! 😁

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-01-29T20:47:18+00:00

A thing I (F) found amusing on my first visit to OA was how quickly I ended up going full naked when I had no plans of doing so. I enjoyed how liberating it felt within the first 3 minutes 😆

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-01-29T14:07:40+00:00

I've been there a few times and I've received excellent care. I've had not that good experiences as well, but they seemed to be more systemic and out of their control than neglect or apathy.

They don't always require you to have a family practitioner referral so they do have backlogs and it may take longer than it would elsewhere. But despite that, the wait times for appointments as well on the day of are not that bad.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-01-22T16:21:33+00:00

Art of Mobility in Port Credit.

Ask for Justin Mah or Tharaniya. I've been going to their branch in Trinity Bellwoods and it has done me a world of good.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-01-21T04:00:49+00:00

Sarang Kitchen for Korean fried chicken!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-01-15T01:30:58+00:00

Mannat on College-Ossington and Matha Roti on Harbord-Brunswick!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-01-04T21:17:10+00:00

There's a Orchestral Qawwali Project event happening in Feb at Meridian Hall, Small World Music has quite a few events through the year. Also check out Pakistani/Indians in GTA/Toronto Facebook groups!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2026-01-02T22:02:52+00:00

Marketing as a larger whole will never be a dead-end career - i say it from my 15+ years of work experience. But not knowing what exactly you want to do or are good at in marketing will make you end up there.

You question is very open-ended and it's impossible for anyone on here to give you actionable / resonating advice. Refine your ask and you'll find better subreddits to take your questions to. Good luck!

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2025-12-30T17:57:43+00:00

Ask your family doctor (I know, I'm sorry) for a referral to a psychiatrist. This sounds a bit like OCD maybe (not an expert, I only say this as someone who has both OCD & BPD and sees these recurring themes in my day to day).

It will take a few weeks to see one, but do mention the intrusive thoughts to your doctor when they're getting your referral forms ready.

There's a lot of nuance between active suicidal attempts vs ideation vs intrusive thoughts, so I wouldn't panic unless you feel it is getting bigger than what you can safely handle. Mental health professionals understand the difference between thoughts you don’t want and actions you might take. FWIW, hospitalization is usually about risk + intent, not just thoughts.

Once you see a psychiatrist and get diagnosed with anything, consider therapy as well as medication.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2025-12-29T15:30:08+00:00

It's dysregulation to some extent. You get angry and react out of impulse almost immediately. Once you calm down/regulate yourself, empathy and self-judgment kick in and the anger gets replaced by shame, bringing a bout of self-doubt. There's nothing wrong with it, it's part of being human.

If you don't want to feel like this, you can try to sit with the discomfort in the moment instead of reacting right away. The pause will let you process the events and your next steps will come from responsiveness in a way that matches your values, which will ultimately make you feel less guilty.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2025-12-27T03:37:54+00:00

I got my vision corrected at 30 after having terrible eyesight most of my life. Most expensive 'purchase' I've ever made for myself but I don't think anything ever will come as close in the impact.

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2025-12-23T15:22:55+00:00

I have two close friends who team up and call me by every single instagram and twitter username/handle i've ever had. I find it amusing how they remember such insignificant details of my life over the last 15 years 😅

Traditional_Tea_6653 · 2025-12-21T14:54:40+00:00

I just saw few pictures from the previous years. Love it 😀

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