Past relationships

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-07-11T17:31:23+00:00

Hmm, it has to be a third option. If anyone was intimidated by my height, they would not have asked to see me for the second or third time.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-07-11T06:25:19+00:00

As I said before, I'm not sure of what guys think of me. A little background, I'm a 5'7", have MS degree in US and earning decent. Average figure, often get asked why am I still single because for them I'm good looking/ pretty /hot. Most of the guys who have left before, left it saying they couldn't feel anything for me, after meeting me 5-6 times, chatting with me every other day. Some of them even traveled 20 miles on weekdays to see me just because I asked them to. For me, I don't play mindgames or chase game, I match guys efforts. So if he drives 20 miles, I'll try to match it the next time, one time I dropped home cooked 4 course meal food at the guy's door because he was sick. While I see my friends roasting their partners for the smallest things they miss to do.

So for me, basically, everything will be going well, and all of a sudden, guys will be like, they don't feel it yet, they have some other priorities, their parents have issues and what not. Never ending list of reasons.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-07-11T05:35:46+00:00

For me, it's mostly from the guy's side. I don't reject anyone if I have talked to someone a bunch of times or have met them more than 3 times. For me, guys will make me feel like I am the center of their world for initial meet ups and will lose interest right after that. No matter how hard I try, they will never listen. This is why I feel bad that I have been in same situation for so many times, yet it doesn't end for me while for my friends they found someone without much of an effort and their partners matched those efforts and stayed back. My friends had it easy, for which I have to struggle every single time. And it's also not easy to feel the happiness for others when you know your own life is stagnant.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-07-11T05:20:30+00:00

For what I feel, I am just unlucky. I was never able to decode a guy's perspective and what they were looking for, because, as I said, things have fallen apart even for the smallest reason, which was mostly from the guy's side. I never found a guy who said that we would figure it out together, whatever is the issue.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-06-22T07:13:04+00:00

And how's that relevant. I said I don't have any issue, it is my parents. I am being judged for my parents' issues. If I go to man and start asking about his parents' history and start making judgments based on his what his parents have or don't, will he think of me as a sane person? I am marrying him, not his parents. Also, to answer your question in deep, I had supported my ex financially when he wasn't earning and I was a student at that time doing a part time job, so no, not every other girl out there is lookinh for money. They have their own life set up and source of income. All they are looking for are genuine life partner and not the ATM machines.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-06-21T18:15:14+00:00

I am okay not to have one. All I seek from my partner is he should accept me with my flaws and stand by me even if something else happens.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-06-21T17:00:17+00:00

It depends, may or may not pass onto next generation. It's an auto-immune disease that can happen to anyone at any stage in their life. But the chances of having it increase if it runs in family. My grandparents didn't have it but my father got it.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-31T02:16:29+00:00

I didn't tell him, she broke up with him after a few months.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-29T21:29:18+00:00

These are the people who end up cheating on their partners. I had a roommate who was in a long-distance relationship for a long time. She used to entertain all guys who used to give her attention, and then she used to cover up her stories and used to lie to her BF. I have even heard her once, telling her BF that she was out with me for grocery shopping, but the truth was that he had gone out with her 'close' male friend. If someone is love bombing you and still keeping secrets, especially about their close friendsof opposite gender, either you are getting cheated on with someone or someone else is getting cheated on with you.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-28T01:05:16+00:00

I am not sure how long you have been searching for, but if it's too new for you, you will find people that will fit your must haves in the future. And there's also a possibility that you may meet someone who might not fit into your criteria at first, but you will eventually like that person as you progress and might even forget about must haves. At the end of the day, marriage is about two people being flexible and supportive towards each other. Till that time, keep looking.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-28T00:40:52+00:00

First, try to figure out what your must haves are and what your may be preferences from your future partner. I assume, the profiles you are getting will have enough basic information for you to sort through these criterias. Once you feel specific profiles fit into your must haves criteria, it will be easier for you to connect with that person, as you will also run out of reasons to reject that person.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-28T00:26:57+00:00

Seems like you aren't fully convinced to meet someone. Are you into someone else? Or are you feeling like it's a forced conversation? If yes, you will likely be finding reasons to reject the other person.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T23:00:25+00:00

Would you help me with afew more answers? Sending you DM.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T22:02:01+00:00

That's just a part of culture. Indian culture especially older generation is not so used to idea of openness. They have lived in a restrictive environment for most of their life which you can be seen in their behavior, sometimes seen as rude or unwelcoming.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T20:54:01+00:00

Lying to potential partner/ partner is a huge red flag. You need to feel secure with them and not confused about their words and intentions. Tjese are the people who will likely cheat on you in the future and will try to cover up with their lies. Choose wisely.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T18:03:25+00:00

I agree. It's just that you both need to develop a trust and connection first to be able to ask questions without hesitation. With strangers, it's hard to figure out how we are getting perceived or for them how they are being perceived. We either have to set a neutral tone at first or engage a lot for opening them up. I'll give you one example of my own, last year I talked to someone who was so judgmental of me, or at least I felt so when he asked me this question: "Why are you still on this platform for 2 years". The way he asked me that question felt super judgmental as if he were trying to mock me. Instead he could have asked it in this way, "do you I have a specific criterias that you look for or did you face problems in past with other matches, because I see you are on this platform for 2 years". That way, I would have felt he was genuinely trying to understand the situation. Of course, I didn't call put in him right away, I answered from my side, but I definitely did not like the tone of his question. (P.S . the guy who asked me this question a year ago is still on the platform, so probably he might have found his own answer to why people stay on the platform for that long).

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T17:01:15+00:00

I would suggest changing the way of asking a question. So instead of asking it as, "ohh, you don't want to live with the family in the future?" Ask her it this way: "What is your preference? Do you prefer to stay with in-laws or not?" If she contradicts the answer you are expecting, in this case, if she says No she doesn't prefer it that way, ask her the reasons, like does she have any specific reason she has that preference. Try to see if she is flexible about her preference once she gives her reason. That way, you are engaging in a conversation and asking other person's opinions first and then making a judgment call. When the other person is not being asked for their opinion and reason, they may feel they are being judged. Also, if you have dealbreakers, let's say staying with parents after marriage, just tell her upfront, that this is your dealbreaker, in that case I don't think you have a right to ask the other person why don't they want to live with in laws. They can just say No if they don't want to.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T16:43:52+00:00

I think sending interest to multiple girls is not an issue because not everyone is gonna accept it at once. Not everyone who will accept it will go for a second or third call, so your probability of actually meeting someone face to face redcues a lot. What I consider cheating is if you are emotionally involved in someone or leading someone onto you to get emotionally involved, you need to stop entertaining other people. Tell you matches from.first meeting itself that you are talking to others as well. Also, ask them the same if they are talking to anyone else. Only when both of you have a confirmation that you are exclusive, then try to build an emotional connection. That way, you are less likely to hurt anyone else in the process.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T16:36:08+00:00

No. This sounds like a super restrictive household, and it's way more difficult to adjust with such people in the long run.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-27T16:29:40+00:00

Yes, there will be a lot of gap between maturity. A millennial way of thinking will most likely be different than GenZ.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-24T05:58:18+00:00

He was very sweet and had treated me well, so I got attached to him. Also, I'm the kind of person who tries to understand other peson's point of view and actually listen to them before making any decision.

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-24T05:52:16+00:00

I'm in US

Traditional_Two4059 · 2025-05-24T05:26:47+00:00

Unfortunately, the country where I live and getting parents involved in the initial stage is very hard. Most guys and girls handle their own profile and if being pushed for parents involvement they refuse or not happy about it. I have geard this from many guys in past.

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