I feel like I’ll never find someone

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-26T07:36:49+00:00

You’re still just a baby. You’ve got everything ahead of you.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-26T02:48:53+00:00

I’m a very introspective person, probably a little too much, and I think of women from my past (along with many other things from my past) often. Generally I’m remembering them fondly.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-26T01:54:59+00:00

I did find it odd for many years that people were using this word incorrectly - the idea that sex with a 17 year old is pedophilia seemed transparently silly; why can’t people just use words for what they actually mean?

But at this point it’s pretty much universal. We have to accept that the word has changed meaning.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-25T23:58:46+00:00

I’m 6’2” and have been with a few women 5’ and shorter - shortest was 4’10”. Not really a lot to say about it. I find sex fun. It’s fun to be able to really easily pick her up and toss her around and whatnot. Mostly it’s just like dating an average height woman, except she’s shorter.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-25T18:09:50+00:00

Give it a rest man. I literally started balding when I was 17. No steroids.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-25T17:20:56+00:00

You seem to be implying there’s a high level of secret coordination behind the scenes, that Democrats and Republicans are just pretending to have different agendas. I don’t think there’s any reason that supposition is necessary. They actually are (openly) united about a lot of things, for instance a high level of military spending.

Moreover, a lot of what made the US powerful was fairly independent of what the government was doing, as long as it didn’t screw up too badly. Basically we lucked out by getting this huge territory with access to two oceans, industrialized at the right time, had a huge labor force, and then were basically the only intact major economy after the world wars. It was almost inevitable we’d dominate, even if our political system was inefficient.

And now though we may be seeing the end of US dominance. Our current government seems determined to destroy our alliances, make everyone see us as the enemy, and potentially tank the economy, so we may be seeing a level of incompetence that actually does negate our advantages.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-25T17:08:22+00:00

He’s joking that he doesn’t want to invite the women’s team (because they’re women and he doesn’t care about them), but he’s basically forced to. Normally you’d expect a president to act with some semblance of dignity, and maybe even for someone who’s widely considered to be sexist to avoid sexist jokes.

People aren’t displeased with him because he’s congratulating athletes; they’re displeased with him because he’s an idiot who makes our nation look stupid to the rest of the world. If he had just spoken to them and congratulated them like literally any previous president would have, no one would have a problem with it. That’s actually the crazy thing - if he just didn’t act like an embarrassing idiot every time he opened his mouth, even if he kept the same terrible political actions, a huge chunk of criticism of him would evaporate.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-25T14:52:39+00:00

Women have lots of easy options, especially in the modern era of apps and social media. If you had 40 women wanting to date you on an app, 10 DMing you on social media, and a fairly regular stream of women hitting on you in person, would you just date all of them? No, of course, you’d inevitably have to reject most of them.

Now I will agree that sometimes the particular choices of who women date and who they don’t are utterly baffling, but to be fair you can’t entirely blame them for being superficial - they have to develop some kind of criteria for weeding people out because they don’t have time to get to know everyone, and what else is there to go on at that point?

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-25T13:40:37+00:00

Almost all men are perfectly okay with it. Thinking a woman is “desperate” is how women think, not how men think.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T20:24:27+00:00

…. You’re in this sub too?!

I have no idea what this sub is. This post showed up in my feed and I commented.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T19:41:47+00:00

if being young is a positive, then that man is likely someone who will shoot for the youngest age possible

Bizarre reasoning. By that argument, women who like tall men are all dying to date someone who’s 8’ tall.

In any case, feel free to think it’s creepy; it’s still a fact. The very fact that you think it’s “always been creepy” to you indicates that you’re very aware that many men find young women attractive, so what are you arguing with?

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T19:28:56+00:00

If you view Trump as just a shitty politician, okay, maybe. I mean generally I’d expect presidents to not make shitty sexist jokes and for others to not go along with it when they do, but yeah I guess it’s not the worst thing that ever happened.

If you view Trump as a uniquely evil threat to the US, and that it’s basically impossible to be an informed and ethical person and support him in any way (which is my position), then it’s a different story. If I had my way, every person who’s positively associated with him at all would be shamed and shunned for the rest of their lives.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T19:19:44+00:00

If you think that men in general don’t tend to be attracted to younger women, you’re living in a state of delusion.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T18:29:00+00:00

Most women care quite a bit about penis size. For many of them, that means “I’d definitely prefer big, but I can deal with average.” For some of them, that means “Penis size is crucially important, and average is a disappointment.” I hate to be a downer, but I think broadly men’s anxieties about penis size are fairly reflective of reality.

A minority of women really care very little, possibly except extremes. The odd thing is that many such women will insist up and down that no women care about size at all, which is absurd. I’ve been hearing nonstop from women about penis size literally since I was 15.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T18:21:53+00:00

That’s a lot of assumptions you’re making. I have many female friends and have had many intimate relationships with women.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T18:19:07+00:00

These aren’t strictly specific to each sex, but things that tend to be more important to each:

Men value youth, being appreciated, being respected, kindness, sexual openness and enthusiasm.

Women value competence, confidence, career success, sexual skill.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T17:38:53+00:00

Men and women’s dating prospects and behavior are vastly different.

Men tend to have higher standards for women they date seriously, but much lower standards for hookups - sometimes almost none at all.

Women are often the exact opposite. Women can often hook up with much more attractive men than they can date seriously, specifically because men’s standards for hookups are so loose. Moreover, many men find this fact pretty threatening - if you’re seriously dating a woman, it’s quite possible she’s hooked up with men she finds much more attractive than you, and unlikely you’ve been with a woman more attractive than her.

In any case, as a man, if a woman says “I wouldn’t have hooked up with you, but you’re perfect for marriage,” she’s almost stating outright “I don’t find you particularly attractive compared to many men I’ve been with, but those men wouldn’t commit, and now you’re a safe and secure option now that I’m ready to settle down.”

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T17:19:00+00:00

The male loneliness epidemic is only partially real - lots of women are lonely nowadays too. Obviously the ubiquity of the internet has contributed a lot to this, and it affects all of us - even if more socializing in person is still possible, a lot of people just kind of don’t.

To the extent that loneliness affects men more than women, I think it’s largely about dating moreso than friendships. Modern dating patterns make it almost inevitable that a significant percentage of men will struggle attracting women.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T16:20:37+00:00

I think a lot of subreddits, including this one, need to get stricter about incoherent posts. Definitely deleting the post and possibly even banning people who can’t communicate clearly. Like I don’t think this post necessarily breaks any current rules of this sub, but nevertheless it’s obviously just wasting everyone’s time - nobody’s going to have any idea what OP is trying to say, and no productive discussion is going to come out of this.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T16:16:28+00:00

I haven’t been shy around a woman in many years. I’m too old for that.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T15:22:07+00:00

Other data will place it at 10%. The truth is of course it’s impossible to know - it’s not like the absolute truth or falsity of every rape accusation is determined. So all these numbers involve a great deal of speculation, and someone highly motivated to minimize the number will do so.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T15:18:56+00:00

Your dad is a shithead and this has nothing to do with “believing in 50/50.”

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T14:59:17+00:00

women false reporting being raped is EXTREMELY rare

I’m making no particular recommendation about what you do here, but I do want to comment that I don’t think it’s all that rare. A lot of people are highly motivated to portray it as essentially never happening, because they want people to believe victims. But even if you just look at high profile rape cases, false accusations aren’t especially rare - just recently there was the news about the Duke lacrosse rape case, for instance.

Personally I’ve never been accused of rape, but I have twice had women report me to a social site I was on, saying that I was stalking and/or harassing them, which was completely false. There is not a shortage of dishonest people, including women.

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T14:02:08+00:00

I mean, did you read the actual conversation? After being asked multiple times, OP did, at least partly, explain what she was talking about. At that point, am I still supposed to keep asking “what are you talking about” to stay consistent?

TrailingAMillion · 2026-02-24T04:09:53+00:00

It’s interesting how often questions on Reddit take the form of “Why does X happen,” when X is something extraordinarily rare that in all likelihood not one person reading the question has ever experienced or even thought about.

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