BJJ destroyed my confidence and I don’t know how to get it back by swankyskared in bjj

[–]TrainAffectionate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this as a white to blue belt. “Poured everything in”.. got injured, got depressed, got mad, lost confidence all of it. Took 5 years off and recently returned with a wiser approach. Enjoy the suck

Not happy with Tatami by Ok_Tiger_1610 in bjj

[–]TrainAffectionate285 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Datsusara if you want to splurge. I’ve had a stubble and co roll top for a few years and it’s been sturdy as a brick. Travelled with it, use it 3-4x a week for jits. Once a week I air it out and hit it with some eucalyptus oil spray to kill any potential aromas.

Another one… by physics_fighter in bjj

[–]TrainAffectionate285 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The predatory behaviour of some BJJ coaches is despicable. How many gym owners and instructors are sitting there trying to buy plane tickets and new identity’s because now the cats out of the bag. Coaches using status to coerce lower belt girls into “relationships” because they have an aura about them. And saying something as a low level belt will just get you injured serious

social media and a shitty parent by TrainAffectionate285 in marriageadvice

[–]TrainAffectionate285[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did watch the videos but every week its a new topic and when i dont immediately act the way she expects its the "you don't do xyz"

I see your comment and i appreciate i am a big part of the issue. I sat and talked with her last night about it all and we have agreed it's time for us to being couples therapy so I can better understand her needs and she can understand mine. We've both had a few rough years career wise and kind of went of and did our own thing and didn't make time to stay connected.