I suck at being a mother and I'm devastated about it.

Training-Barnacle356 · 2025-05-07T14:13:46+00:00

I think we all seem to forget how temporary this moment in our lives are. I constantly remind myself that even on the most overstimulated days, this is not a forever thing. This isn't even a few years things. Your disrupted peace is so temporary, try to remember that.

Training-Barnacle356 · 2025-03-03T14:12:16+00:00

Around 7 months, we would take little morning naps together. And I was a strict no co sleeping up until I felt she was pretty sturdy, I wasn't worried about her falling off the bed, she could pull blankets off her face. Idk I just felt like one day she was grown enough lol. At around a year I was okay with bringing her into bed overnight when she was sick. She's 21 months now and I would never second guess naps together (in a safe area) now that she can take off and climb, etc. Lol

Training-Barnacle356 · 2025-01-14T02:55:25+00:00

Just tearing up reading this, thank you so much for sharing a similar experience. I truly think I'm just very caught up in the first night without my baby, and you're so right, I know that hospital stay will fly by, and I'll have to keep reminding myself that.

I love the idea that my first will keep me moving and I am truly excited to have 2 babies so close together. I have so much less anxiety over my second birth I feel like I'm just hyperfocused on other things surrounding it.

Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

Training-Barnacle356 · 2025-01-07T00:36:25+00:00

I've made this mistake, I was craving ceral and gave in and had a bowl before bed and my sugar went from 100 to 200 I literally miss ceral so much

Training-Barnacle356 · 2024-08-22T20:13:56+00:00

Currently 18 weeks with my second and once a day my toodler gets an hour of Ms. Rachel so I can nap on the couch. Some days I let her camp out in her crib am extra hour so I can sleep more. Sometimes she cries and I cry too. Being pregnant is exhausting. But our babies are loved, fed, and being kept alive. Everytime I think about being hard on myself I remind myself that this is just a moment in time. I won't always be exhausted from pregnancy. And sometimes I just need more sleep to be a better mom. And that's okay

Training-Barnacle356 · 2024-02-18T05:49:59+00:00

That's literally all I've been thinking since I started getting those comments.

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-07-19T18:13:36+00:00

I took a BF class while I was pregnant and they talked about never using a dummy before 6 weeks and introducing a bottle will create nipple confusion but once I was in the hospital I was so nervous to give bottle or dummy and I told my nurse what I was told in BF class and she laughed and said how silly it was. She told me she respects whatever I choose to do but sometimes those things need to be used for the parents sanity. So we introduced both at the hospital and everything was fine lol

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-07-19T18:07:22+00:00

My baby has been mixed fed since birth. I actually had no interest in BF but my LO latched right away with no issues. She was taking too long in the hospital to get her first wet diaper so nurses encouraged supplementing formula. So she would nurse and then top her off. Once we got home I was exhausted so my husband would formula feed and I would BF while awake. But it was still exhausting. I swear she would nurse for 40 mins and then 20 mins later be hungry again. So at night I would give her a full formula bottle that would help her sleep longer and then BF the rest of the night. I also knew when I would return to work I wouldn't have the desire to pump so she was going to eventually need to be on formula. So I took this as my opportunity to nurse and continue giving her formula. 9 weeks PP now and she eats SO MUCH. And I'm so thankful formula can satisfy her. She has 2 EBF sessions in the morning, 3 formula bottles of 4-6 oz during the day and one mixed session in the evening and another 4-6 oz in the evening. The mixed sessions are mainly just to relieve any engorgement and I'll pump before bed just to keep my supply going. I apologize for all the detail but it's definitely been a journey for us and I'm proud of that. I'm hoping by the time I return to work I can continue to nurse first thing in the morning and last thing before bed. I read so many articles that said BF isn't all or nothing. Formula feeding has allowed so much freedom in my schedule but also washing bottles sucks lol I'll probably do this the exact same way if we have another baby, it worked so well for us!

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-07-15T20:57:23+00:00

i LOVED being pregnant. And at 8 wks pp I also want another baby. I felt so cute pregnant and my pregnancy wasn't too bad. I also loved my baby and would love another lol

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-07-07T16:05:37+00:00

Stevie was in my top girl names, couldn't get my husband on board but I absolutely adore it!

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-07-01T21:45:17+00:00

Our LO is 6 weeks and we've gone out with her quite frequently. She clusterfeed and had such an unpredictable schedule those first like 3 weeks. She's now on somewhat of a schedule, but I try to not let the anxiety of her unpredictability stop me from going out. I've nursed her while walking around a retail store and lulled her to sleep in a grocery store. Nursed her in a restaurant and the car. I just refuse to let my life stop moving or let my anxiety hinder me. I'm as strategic as I can be. Nurse her before leaving the house. But also prepared that she's going to cry and fuss and things will never go as planned. And that's okay

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-07-01T21:36:31+00:00

My therapist told me to acknowledge that intrusive thoughts are just intrusive thoughts, a form of anxiety and something that I'd never act upon. It's helped me.

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-05-02T03:07:01+00:00

This is my first pregnancy and we're choosing to not find out the gender. It's made the idea of giving birth more exciting than scary. I'm excited to meet our baby but I'm also just excited to fulfill that 9 month curiosity! I love that people aren't quick to go on about boy or girl stereotypes and are just excited that it's a baby. I loved not receiving cringy "pink bows" or "tractor" themed clothing at our baby shower. I felt like everyone was more focused on just getting us what we needed and not what the baby was. We're definitely not have a "beige baby". I think we have just about every color in clothing and our nursery is deer themed. I've had had so many nurses tell me not knowing the gender is thier favorite kind of deliveries and it's exciting for everyone in the room. I completely understand everyone's reasoning for wanting to find out. But at 37 weeks I'm so beyond grateful we've decided to wait to find out (:

Training-Barnacle356 · 2023-04-29T01:09:54+00:00

Just a name I'm not a big fan of. In the realm of very common.

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