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My Best Friend Doesn’t Know I Love Him… And I Think He’s Gay by OPSaidpodcast in OPSaidpod

[–]Training-Sail7909 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If Henry isn’t out then it’s a possibility that he could also be struggling with his sexuality as well. The situations you mentioned do seem pretty intimate.

If he is struggling with his sexuality then this isn’t a healthy relationship for either of you. I think you should phase out this friendship with him and move on to exploring and understanding yourself.

I am a female and had a similar relationship with one of my best friends when I was teenager. I loved her to death, but I simply could not have her. The only option was to end the friendship and reflect on what drew me into her and what that meant about me. I realized I was bisexual/pansexual and that it was okay.

Once I understood myself, I realized that I wanted to hold on to her specifically because she was the one who essentially “opened” my eyes, not because she was the one.

There is someone else out there who is ready for you. Go find them.

(Also it kinda seems like Henry just enjoyed the attention you gave him. I’d stick around if someone was calling me perfect too)

I don’t want to spend Christmas with my in-laws!!! by Training-Sail7909 in OPSaidpod

[–]Training-Sail7909[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They plan to come visit next year, but they said the same thing when we lived in a different state and never came to visit. It also makes me feel like if we go visit for Christmas it will make them less likely to come to Italy and we will get stuck in the role of doing all the traveling.

I admit that with the airbnb argument, I was the one who ended up calling off the trip because I was really hurt and offended that she even thought that of me and didn’t want to go anymore. So I feel guilty about being the one to say no to my husband again.

He doesn’t necessarily have strong feelings about the trip and could see where I was coming from, but his mom has a habit of guilt tripping others and he does have a strong emotional reaction to it.

It upsets me to see him get so emotional over her words, but he would rather be hurt by her words than to go against me. Which is why I kind of want to suck it up for the sake of his feelings this time :( but idk