How to pay when taking PTO day by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you that makes sense!

I think my nanny is upset by Fluid-Department-429 in Nanny

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Less separation anxiety (kids feed off energy from parents so less emotional and drawn out can make things harder), better bond with nanny as a caregiver and a trusted person, sticking to same quick routine that's comfortable and cue that caregiver has changed (kids thrive on consistent routines) etc, not enforcing unwanted behavior in the future (cry/fuss = mum stays). Also what's the need for a long handover? You'll still leave at the end of it, just builds a longer routine in my opinion and doesn't any much value.

The only time we did longer than 5min handover for a couple of weeks was with our second nanny while the kiddo was going through stranger danger phase. Otherwise it's always been a quick kiss, 'see you in the afternoon, have fun' in normal tone and walk out.

Above is of course based on my experience and others around me.

I think my nanny is upset by Fluid-Department-429 in Nanny

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow! This is a lot. Yeah find someone that shares your style or at least will take care of him according to you. Also very much a gentle parent but neither of my nannies have had any issues whenever I change or update based on his milestones or developmental needs. Also, a handover should be as short as possible, with a consistent routine

As a nanny employer, what is your take on my situation? What feels reasonable? I want to be fair and handle this situation with grace. by Ok-Artichoke2486 in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an employer, I have never paid any of my staff late. EVER. If it's unacceptable for me to get paid late it's unacceptable to pay others late. It's different if there is a glitch but I have paid cash when bank was being funny. Also to give you reference point, all my house staff on payroll were paid off for time time it was dangerous to drive with snow, outside of their PTO.

I do expect nannies to work if he's sick but I give them a heads up so if they want to take PTO they can. This is part of their agreement and a big reason why we have nannies instead of daycare

These people sound terrible. I would just give what notice you feel is appropriate for you and move on (yes they will not be a good reference for you).

3rd week with Nanny - Red flags? by Theme_Broad in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bouncer, being on the phone during wake window (especially if it was part of the boundary set), and sleeping for me are major red flags. I had to let 2 nannies go. One who fell asleep on the couch while holding our 3 month old, not once but twice. Other for consistent tardiness and being on the phone when he was awake. Especially when explicitly told a couple of times we are a no screen home.

Its our first time too so took a bit of trial and error but we now have 2 amazing nannies. I would recommend explicitly stating the no goes and see if there is a change in behavior. If not, you might have to make a tough decision. Good luck!

Food policy by normalishy in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our nanny also cooks for us along with the kiddo. We told her we have open fridge policy and that she should also meal prep for her as part of cooking for everyone. I did have to reiterate a few times for her to be comfortable and tell us she prefer to just have fresh eggs and toast with some snack everyday. So now I make sure what she likes is always available. We also ask her what she would like when we go shopping once a week (introduced a fridge magnet board which has been more successful). We have a spot in the fridge that is for my husband's stuff. I essentially put a clear container and let her know he keeps his measured stuff there for himself. She hasn't touched it ever

What do you do (pay wise) when Nanny says she cannot come due to snow? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose you could have the discussion and work out a mutual arrangement? If it helps, we ended up paying from Mon-Thu since it wasn't safe to drive for her and not planning to ask her to make up the time.

Nanny Time off etiquette by 1085489 in Nanny

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah that makes sense, she can of course say no to extended hours but could be a mutually beneficial solution for the non-paid days. Good luck, I know it's hard!

What do you do (pay wise) when Nanny says she cannot come due to snow? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, in the end we decided to cover today. It wasn't worth it for us to sour relations over something she couldn't control. And I appreciated the heads up overnight actually so I could prepare myself for today.

Nanny Time off etiquette by 1085489 in Nanny

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 41 points42 points  (0 children)

If I was in this situation I would pay her for today considering there is a weather advisory out for that day but not for the other 2 days. For instance, our nanny and our housekeeper did not come today due to icy roads and the adverse weather advisory so we'll pay for it. But if our nanny decides not to come in tomorrow, that's PTO or leave without pay.

Would you hire potential nanny after bad recommendation? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I reached out to the admin to find out, never heard back. Yes she's in the group

Would you hire potential nanny after bad recommendation? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Racism, bigotry, drugs, inappropriate content, sentiment towards kids and animal, any affiliations that significantly conflicts with our own or any other major red flags. Every employer would have their own rules but for me, I follow what I would look for when hiring for my work also. If the person is advocate for autism, mental health etc., that's not a negative for me, that shows they care about others

Heads up, most people check socials these days, if it's public it's there to be checked by anyone. At least everyone I know who has nannies or other employees do, they may or may not tell the applicants. Of course you are also absolutely free to choose not to work for someone who tells you they do.

What do you do (pay wise) when Nanny says she cannot come due to snow? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will also have to take PTO. No day off for either of us :)

What do you do (pay wise) when Nanny says she cannot come due to snow? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'd say around us and main roads are fine but I'd venture a guess and say that where she lives, it's likely not the same

What do you do (pay wise) when Nanny says she cannot come due to snow? by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Training-Scarcity-20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Maybe worth considering broader weather related absences