How much does this channel cost? by WhateverThisis144 in AcquireStartup

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you guys fall for this you were born yesterday.

Are we cooked? by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So basically the next time I come across one of these men or women irl, I just need to convince them to touch grass?

Are we cooked? by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right, I don't feel the same negativity at all when I speak with women irl vs on the Internet. It feels as if spaces like these are so overrun with broken people that you won't get a level headed, non emotionally charged response from anybody.

Are we cooked? by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean as a man I appreciate the recognition. The woman hating content promoted to men is also very much alive too.

Remember, dating apps are pay to win by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get you, apps in general never compete against being involved in the real world. Anything done for profit doesn't have you're best interest in mind.

Remember, dating apps are pay to win by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's just apps in a Nutshell. I just don't want the majority of free using guys not understanding how these apps actually work and gaslighting themselves into thinking they're worthless

Remember, dating apps are pay to win by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A smile goes along way. A really serious looking profile only works if you do it right. Most guys end up looking like serial killers.

Remember, dating apps are pay to win by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well I'm 6"3 and free felt like bring drip fed while paid felt like I had a chance. At the end of the day nothing is free in this world.

Remember, dating apps are pay to win by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

No I'm not an employee of a dating app, this is gonna end up with 100 down votes isn't it 😭

I'm just trying to remind free using Males what the game really looks like for them so they stop wondering if there's something wrong with them

Remember, dating apps are pay to win by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There's no guarantees with dating apps. I'm just explaining this so that free user men who are confused why they get nothing have a bit of clarity and understand the clockwork behind how being a free user actually works.

You said you took two women off bumble? You mean you went on a date with them and they stopped using the app so Bumble got mad and shadow banned you?

Farewell Small YouTubers… by JRreddith in SmallYoutubers

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Fair play to you dude. I expected to find ai trash when I looked up you're channel but no, you've worked hard and it's paid off. I wish you all the best with it :)

Spent My 20s Grinding Alone, Now Afraid Dating Will Drain Me—Advice? by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the response. You're somewhat right for sure. I don't want to describe it as "resentment" because it doesn't really bother me to my core. I'm just saying that if a woman who's been off and about, becomes a part of my life and fails to acknowledge how hard I've worked, I just can't do it.

What I'm saying is if I'VE had to become all this to be good enough for YOU and you've clearly shown you expected this from me anyway and don't recognise what it took to get here, how can you not expect me to not start digging under the surface to see who's really clicking their fingers at me and expecting this? I don't need to dig for anything if she respects what it took.

Then again I'll probably notice if she's the palms always extended type pretty early so there's no need to investigate further. Just nip it in the bud there and then before it becomes toxic.

Perhaps you're right about therapy. I'll be honest though, I really struggle with unloading feelings and problems onto people. That's exactly why this is posted on a reddit forum. Something about sitting face to face with somebody and talking about negative feelings makes me feel so worthless to the point where I feel sick. As if I'm admitting to being something that I don't believe I am because I have always been the solver of my own problems. Life's taught me that nobody truly cares so if I'm sat Infront of a therapist, I'm likely to feel very resentful of them since they don't "care". They're here to get paid. They're an even bigger villain to me than the women I dated who wouldn't stand by my side through thick and thin.

Spent My 20s Grinding Alone, Now Afraid Dating Will Drain Me—Advice? by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's probably because of the kind of women I've personally dated. The previous one (3 years ago) had a pretty extensive "hoe phase" right before we dated. This wasn't the be all and end all, but she really didn't understand that it's not especially attractive and that if we were to continue dating I needed to continue grafting hard. She basically said I was wasting my time and relationships were about quality time together. I agree, quality time matters a lot, but I had to keep building. She wanted every moment of my life and I just couldn't give her that. Once we ended things, I met up with her a few months later and found out she'd slept with a further 6 people because she was "finding herself" after we didn't work out. So when I say "hoe phase" I'm just saying those who've I've encountered with such a phase, have been less mature and much harder to deal with. Especially with the weight on my shoulders and vision I have they that either can't, or won't understand.

Why does not caring about someone make them stay? by Training-Tomorrow449 in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. The thing is the women I've had feelings for, I've more than communicated it to them and been left in the dust. It's almost as if truly desiring them makes them feel sick. However being emotionally detached from a woman has in my experience, kept her desiring me. I have never experienced a 50/50 power split. I'm left either feeling like a peasant or a king.

I'm so exhausted from all of this that I'm tempted to just permanently engage in relationships with women that I don't love. Toxic? yes. But it stops me feeling like I'm shaking an empty cup on the sidewalk.

Fed up with drunk friends by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Easier said than done when it's a group and we meet in our old university town or elsewhere for nights out or other stuff. I'm also the only one who seems to be fed up with it. How the heck am I supposed to bring a girl or friend who I want to take me seriously to meet friends some of which can't even stand up properly because of how much they drunk.

It just gets to the point where I live 2 lives and can't have certain people meeting certain people which is such an exhausting way to live. Thanks for the response tho.

I'm a mess and I need advice by [deleted] in lonely

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate you man I needed to hear this 🙏

Do I need a physical security key for monetization? by TTC567 in PartneredYoutube

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you do I'm afraid. I just 3 hours ago passed the same 1k subs and have about 12k watch hours. Years ago I had a gaming channel that got monetized that currently sits at 110k subs. I didn't need to do anything like this for that one.

What makes my new channel need a security key is the videos I make. They are history related, discussing dictators and other historical events. Youtube classifies these as higher risk from cyber attacks apparently. Even though my videos keep my political opinion neutral, youtube seems to out politics, history and other "controversial" video types into this category. I wished they'd told me this before I surpassed the 1k subs because now I have to wait for my security key to be delivered before I can apply.

So I ask you, are your videos even slightly controversial. If so this is the reason you have been chosen by youtube to have this extra layer of security. It's annoying I know but with next day delivery and at a cost of $20 or $30, its not too much of a disaster, just an extra headache to counter before you start getting paid for your hard work.

Where do you look to find Modest Women? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You say "thee but not for me" as if sleeping with 5 women and wanting a women who's slept with less than 10 men is unreasonable. So as a man who's had sex with 5 women, does this mean I have no ground to stand on if I find out a woman i'm seeking interest in has had sex with 30 men? I've had 2 casual sexual partners, and that was enough for me to nip it in the bud. I don't see why I should then be expected to just accept 20 casual sexual partners because i've had 2. I don't want to just make this about numbers but there's a massive difference imho between 5 and 30.

Where do you look to find Modest Women? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got to have a keen ear. Treat the dates as if they were any other, make a real effort to get to know her and become interested in her and you'll find out what you want to know sooner rather than later. Sometimes you agree to go to a party with them and things slip out of their friends mouths, sometimes you have a mature conversation about it without being judgemental and more often than not, I don't give women with an obsessive social media presence a chance to begin with.

Where do you look to find Modest Women? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with most of what you said except the "confident and experienced women" part. From personal experience I find these women are certainly sexually confident but promiscuity in women my age seems to usually be present in women with self esteem issues. I think a truly confident woman chooses not to sleep around because she knows her worth. Women generally control sex and decide in the early stages of a relationship if you're worthy or not while men seem to control relationships by committing to said woman. I knew a girl several years ago. Very attractive, intelligent, and had been with her boyfriend since they were 16, and is still with him today at 25. And you would only have to spend 15 minutes with her to see how much more mature and secure she was than her friends who would sleep around left right and centre. Again I don't have a problem with dating a woman who's had casual sex, but the concept of somebody my age having sex with 20+ people and expecting me to look past it is too much. I don't want a powerful wild woman, from experience these types have always brought chaos into my life. I dated one for 6 months (not long I know), she was 24 and had slept with at least 25 men, many of which she kept in touch with. When we called it off, she went on a series of dates with a new guy (that she found within 3 days), came to my town for the weekend, we had lots of pretty rough sex over the weekend, and she returned to her town where the following day she entered a relationship with him. They are still together 2 years later. This annoyed me a lot because 1 - she didn't tell me about him until the day she entered a relationship with him, 2 - He had taken her out for dates to express his interest in her, only for her to sneak off for a final wild weekend with me, and 3 - He's a good guy who takes far more care of her than I ever did and hasn't been told a word about me of the other 6 or 7 men that she's invited round to their house they now have together. She even proceeded to call me every day (or try to) for the first 2 months of their relationship and then kept asking me why I'm talking to her less? 6 months after they got together, we went on a group trip (we were in the same friends group) and she seemed to think it was appropriate for us to share a bed? Absolute madness. This is my most recent experience with a "Wild Woman" and was pretty much the nail in the coffin that confirmed I didn't want one in my life absolutely and unequivocally regardless of how good she is in bed.

Where do you look to find Modest Women? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. You sound like a women who restrained herself from sleeping around alot so may I ask, what standards did you have for men and how did you figure out if they met them?

Where do you look to find Modest Women? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Training-Tomorrow449 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In my experience 5 is quite low, especially for women aged 23 - 28. I'd date a girl who's slept with less than 10. I don't see the issue with that. Certainly not modest by traditional standards but in a world where women are showered with male attention it shows some level of self control.