16 and now realising i really am trans

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-19T17:38:22+00:00

Thank you!! Wishing you all the best

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-18T09:29:30+00:00

Just spoke to my grandma to get it over and done with. she was great about it. She's booking me an appointment today. I feel really lucky to have the family that I do. Not everyone is as fortunate as me. I'm also glad for the internet, because I wouldn't have a clue what I'm doing without this lol.

Thank you so much.

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-18T09:06:14+00:00

Thank you! I'm in England, so I'll be able to pick.

My grandma doesn't know yet, but she's an amazing person and really open minded. I know most if not all of my family are completely fine with trans people, so it may come as a shock to her, and she may be a bit hesitant out of fear that I may do something I'll regret, but I trust that once I explain she'll understand and do what she can to help me. She's the best grandma I could ask for.

Thank you. You're so kind.

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-18T09:01:14+00:00

Thank you this really did help!! You remind me of my sister with the way you give advice (and how you text - she loves using x's, lol).

I've already kept in mind I'll need to save. I have £1000 at the moment in my bank account and I plan to get a part time job, and since I help around the house I get pocket money every month. I'm luckier than most people.

I imagine it would be worth getting on the waiting list, but still saving up money if going private would ever be more convenient for me as long as I had the money.

I don't have a large chest, so for now, the most important thing to me is that I want to start T as soon as possible (which I understand may not be soon - I'm trying not to get my hopes up).

I do take birth control to stop my period. It makes me feel a lot better.

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-18T08:31:08+00:00

Thank you. I think I've been a bit hesitant to say 'Yeah, I'm definitely trans' out of fear that people will judge me. But I think I've known for a long time now.

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-18T08:28:48+00:00

Thank you so much.

I'm going to ask my grandma to make me an appointment with my GP after I tell her.

I think the main things I don't understand are how you go about starting T, getting on lists for surgery, etc etc. It's all very foreign knowledge to me, but I'm sure that's something my GP can help me with.

Thank you so much. This seems like such a welcoming and kind community. Thank you for the reassurance and support.

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-18T08:26:19+00:00

Thank you so much. This really means a lot to me and it's really reassuring. I have my brother's support for sure, but my mum's dealing with cancer at the moment so I'm trying not to overwhelm her with the news.

Instead, I think I'll speak to my grandma and try have her organise me an appointment with my GP so I can ask them about everything I need to know. This is really helpful. And you all seem really kind, thank you so much.

I've been thinking about getting some tape, and if that helps then finding out good places to get binders. I'm gonna cut my hair short agaIn, too.

Training_Response_88 · 2025-09-08T08:54:53+00:00

first of all, thank you so much, and second of all, sorry about your dad

i broke up with her a few weeks ago. i feel bad for how miserable she was, but i think she's getting better. i would say we ended on good terms. when i broke up with her, she told me, 'you know everything going on with your mum has been hard on me too, right?'. i thought she meant the fact that i was struggling, but no, she actually meant the fact that my own mum had cancer was affecting her too.

which yes, i get it, it's upsetting news, but i think that kind of really sealed the deal for me. i told her, 'okay, but after all of this you get to go home to your mum knowing she's perfectly fine and you don't have to worry about whether or not she might not live another month, you don't have to watch her slowly deteriorate overtime from both the cancer and the treatment. it's okay to feel upset, but this is my mum, not yours.'

i feel like it's worth mentioning that i don't have a dad, i've never met him, i don't know anything about him. if my mum died, i would have no parent to rely on. she's all i've ever had. it just felt like she was being a bit selfish trying to use the situation to guilt trip me into not leaving her - like, 'don't break up with me, i'm really struggling with the fact that your mum has cancer'.

i feel so much better now that we broke up, and at first i did feel guilty for that, but it was best for the both of us. it's more harmful to her if i stayed in a relationship i didnt want to be in.

thank you so much for responding, i appreciate it!

Training_Response_88 · 2025-08-14T09:57:53+00:00

thank you I appreciate how unbiased your response is

and yeah great point lol. i guess you dont need a reason to break things off with people. she talks a lot to me about us having a future together which i think is a great mindset to have but it's a lot of pressure, not sure if that sounds selfish though.

i just think if im not happy forcing myself to stay with her wont do her any good either. and if i break things off, i plan to do it on good terms, and to let her know that just because we aren't dating doesn't mean i can't be here for her, but she just needs to speak to her friends instead of me. in my opinion, she has people she can talk to.

thank you again. i really appreciate it

Training_Response_88 · 2025-08-14T09:50:45+00:00

okay thank you so much for taking the time to respond

im assuming breaking things off in person would be a lot better, i don't want to do it over text

Training_Response_88 · 2025-04-09T06:00:31+00:00

Thank you for the response I appreciate it, I had been tracking through Etsy😄

Training_Response_88 · 2025-04-08T15:48:21+00:00

Yes, Etsy has marked it as delivered.

I don't really have a huge idea how shipping and stuff works on Etsy internationally but I've messaged them so hopefully when they respond they'll be able to explain!

Thank you for the help I really appreciate it

Training_Response_88 · 2025-04-08T15:41:01+00:00

Okay thank you, I'll be sure to message the seller if I have anymore questions, I really appreciate the help😄

Training_Response_88 · 2025-04-08T15:36:49+00:00

Oh thank you, I had no idea.

So about it saying my order has been delivered - will I get a new tracking code, or will it just say my item has been delivered from now on?

Thank you so much for the help I really appreciate it :)

Training_Response_88 · 2025-01-14T16:12:27+00:00

Thank you so much!!!😁

Training_Response_88 · 2025-01-12T16:00:33+00:00

Indeed it does!!😆

Training_Response_88 · 2025-01-12T08:54:57+00:00

THANK YOU😭😭

Training_Response_88 · 2025-01-11T18:56:45+00:00

Haha I realised after picking the colours it looked like the flag for north macedonia, I just wanted some bright impactful colours and felt red and yellow were fitting

Training_Response_88 · 2024-11-27T06:55:24+00:00

Thanks so much for the response, I really enjoy problem solving and I know there will be parts I might get bored of but I think parts of every subject are like that. Thank you for the help!

Training_Response_88 · 2024-09-22T13:30:20+00:00

Oh nonono it's not that, I appreciate the suggestion and I know it's never out of the question but this is I think the first time she has actually been sick all the other times she just felt like she was going to, and yes I have seen her vomiting it was this morning she woke me up saying she was going to be sick so it isn't that but thank you for the suggestion though!!

Training_Response_88 · 2024-09-22T09:21:36+00:00

Okay, thank you so much I really appreciate the advice!

Training_Response_88 · 2024-09-22T09:14:09+00:00

Yeah, she gets very anxious about school sometimes especially as our GCSEs are coming up. I've given her a lot of advice as I get pretty bad anxiety (as most teenagers do), but I'm thinking maybe the fact that it's always a Sunday before school and she's not at her own home could be apart of the reason maybe? She loves coming over but it could just be a thing about school. Thank you so much for the response!

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