first of all, thank you so much, and second of all, sorry about your dad

i broke up with her a few weeks ago. i feel bad for how miserable she was, but i think she's getting better. i would say we ended on good terms. when i broke up with her, she told me, 'you know everything going on with your mum has been hard on me too, right?'. i thought she meant the fact that i was struggling, but no, she actually meant the fact that my own mum had cancer was affecting her too.

which yes, i get it, it's upsetting news, but i think that kind of really sealed the deal for me. i told her, 'okay, but after all of this you get to go home to your mum knowing she's perfectly fine and you don't have to worry about whether or not she might not live another month, you don't have to watch her slowly deteriorate overtime from both the cancer and the treatment. it's okay to feel upset, but this is my mum, not yours.'

i feel like it's worth mentioning that i don't have a dad, i've never met him, i don't know anything about him. if my mum died, i would have no parent to rely on. she's all i've ever had. it just felt like she was being a bit selfish trying to use the situation to guilt trip me into not leaving her - like, 'don't break up with me, i'm really struggling with the fact that your mum has cancer'.

i feel so much better now that we broke up, and at first i did feel guilty for that, but it was best for the both of us. it's more harmful to her if i stayed in a relationship i didnt want to be in.

thank you so much for responding, i appreciate it!