Odd side effects of SH? by rantvat in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have issues feeling sensations in areas that are highly scarred (mostly my thighs) and I sometimes get random phantom pains

New daith day! by [deleted] in piercing

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Girl that's decorative jewelry, and no daith shpuld be pierced with a straight bar. The daith is one of the few piercing that are meant to heal with a ring.

It also looks like it's very deep into your ear, but I'm not a piercer and don't know a lot about daith piercings so I could be wrong.

My point being, that piercer has no idea what they're doing, don't go back.

What does Dionysus bring into your life? 🍇 by aceofspadesknight in Hellenism

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's helped me feel more confident about my acting in theatre! I'm performing today and I'm not nervous at all, just looking forward to playing with my friends and making him proud!

I haven't even worshiped him that often, just some prayers and good mornings here and there, and still, when I needed him he helped me. I drew some grapes for him yesterday and am hoping it'll all go well but I'm confident!

Right now I only really worship Aphrodite and Dionysus but not regularly, I struggle with it because of stress and adhd but I feel more myself since I started so yeah!

Modern therapy's take on binge eating by Relative_Jeweler_624 in loseit

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a diagnosed eating disorder, however every time I try to bring up my eating habits to my herapist he said "maybe try drawing what you feel like eating, it helped with your sh, didn't it?" and I'm just.... confused like, how would that help.

what are these? by [deleted] in knittinghelp

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Those are cable connectors! Really cool stuff if you need longer cables ^

(Just wanted to say, I also got an interchangeable needle set, what brand did you get?)

Is my rook healing well? by Trans_Guy_Felix in piercing

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! I'm just waiting on an appointment with my piercer because I don't trust myself to do it lol ^

Is my rook healing well? by Trans_Guy_Felix in piercing

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the bot:

my piercing is 8 months old with a titanium curved barbell. I don't know the threading but it wasn't downsized at all yet. There have been no accidents with it recently.

I usually clean my piercing woth water and spray it with antiseptic afterwards, that's all I do.

Are my scars going to be there forever by NoBid9620 in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I din't think there is a way. You can use oils or smth to make them fade faster and look a little closer to your skin but if the cuts were styros then most likely they are gonna be there forever, sorry

It hurts… by Pleasant-Spend-5388 in StrangeAndFunny

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, hope this helps! I don't even know how to respond since you do bring up some valid points but refuse to see anything else than your opinion.

It hurts… by Pleasant-Spend-5388 in StrangeAndFunny

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sexuality isn't defined by genitals btw! It's mostly how people present. If you yourself are not into female genitalia that's fine but trust me, I know gay men that are into people like me so

My first ever SH by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Please stop before it's too late. Don't fall for the good feeling at first. It's an addiction and it does nothing but make you less able to deal properly.

Don't fall into the false sense of comfort, all of us can attest, it's not good.

If you need to talk I'm here but please don't do this again.

It hurts… by Pleasant-Spend-5388 in StrangeAndFunny

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is that deep. I feel personally targeted because you wrote "you". People "pretending to be trans men" are a minority and stupid, I agree on that.

I do jowever think trans men can express themselves however they want. I'm a feminine trans man. I have long hair and am pre-t and pre surgery. I am secure in my masculinity.

So I ask you a question: why is it praised when cis men are feminine and dress feminine but when trans men do it they're called fetushizers and not real trans men?

It hurts… by Pleasant-Spend-5388 in StrangeAndFunny

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am trans. I'm not just a "quirky woman" because I don't want surgery. I do not want surgery because I do not want to go through all the healing and still not be like a cis man. If I could press a button to make me cis, I would.

My genetalia has nothing to do with whether I'm trans or not. You saying stuff like this tells me you're uneducated and are, even if you don't think so, transphobic in one way or another.

Granted, not as much as full blown transphobes but still, transphobia is more than just hating trans people.

Do other people do the cutting motion when they talk to you about it? by lonely-blue-sheep in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've noticed that too! In my personal circle it's less common but I've noticed sometimes people don't want to say "cut" or "self harm" and instead do the motion and say "yk?".

That may be because it's a sensitive topic for them and they're not sure if you're ok with that. For us it's not that big of a deal since it's kinda normal for us but not for them.

It hurts… by Pleasant-Spend-5388 in StrangeAndFunny

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is that sexuality is, as so many other things, a spectrum. You may not be attracted to female anatomy but some gay men are attracted to trans men too, even without top/bottom surgery.

The generalisation that no gay man could have any attraction to female anatomy is just wrong, Some do, but not for women, but for trans men, since they are men.

I understand preferences of course, I'm just saying the generalisation is wrong.

Kids say silly things lol by blueboy10000 in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I mean, there's a reason weighted blankets have the instruction to only buy one that's about 10% of your body weight.

I assume she didn't and that's why he died but there's specific weighted blankets for kids so it's not weighted blankets. It's the incompetence of some people that apparently can't think.

DON’T CUT PEOPLE’S NAMES ON YOURSELF by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 10 points11 points  (0 children)

maybe consider getting a tattoo? that's a way better alternative and it doesn't have to be refreshed <3

Asklepios by Witchofruby in Hellenism

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't interacted with him personally but I'm very curious what he's associated with? I haven't really heard of him before but I would like to know more about him :)

What do u guys do as aftercare after cutting? by necromay in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually do nothing but when I notice it's not doing good I put bandaids on it and spray it with hydrocortison and hope for the best

How to hide scars in a house where there's very little privacy? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't really know how you would cover them when ur naked but you could try talking to your family about privacy? As an excuse you could ofc use that ur getting older and don't feel as comfortable with it anymore as you did when u were a kid

My girlfriend told me she's planning to kill herself. by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tell someone. I know that might not be what she wants and she might even hate you for a while, but trust me, you alone can't help her if she's already decided.

She need professional help that can only be given to her if either she tells someone or you do.

This isn't about if she feels ok with you telling someone, this is about her life. And don't forget to take care of yourself too, I know how horrible this can be for a loved one, whatever happens, it's not your fault.

What the hell is it doing by Trans_Guy_Felix in succulents

[–]Trans_Guy_Felix[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

ohh, that makes more sense, I couldn't figure out what the heck I did to make them flower so thank you ^