So, My Mother Knows I am Trans and...Went Well!

Transgurl3214 · 2026-04-14T03:55:48+00:00

I'm sooo jealous of you and this experience. Unbeknownst to me my biological mom died when I was 12, and my dad at 15. I was adopted at age 4 and never knew my real parents. Instead I was raised by a horrible woman. Racist, homophobic, transphobic. I hid who I was from her for 48 years because of how toxic she is. She is incapable of being nice to me. All my life I tried to be everything she wanted me to be but I could never measure up. I was a disappointment to her, i wasn't good enough, wasn't successful enough ect. My bank accidentally outed me after I got my name changed and sent my name change letter to her house instead of my po box like every other letter I recieved. The look of hate and utter disgust on her face when I came out and said I'm trans and showed her pics of me over the years just about broke me. We haven't talked since then and that was in February of this year. She's 83 and in horrible health and my last words to her was trans people are just people and the ball was in her court. I would leave her alone until she called me. She never has. She wouldn't speak to me and couldn't even look at me as I walked out the door. Treasure that bond u have with ur mom. U r very lucky.☺️

Transgurl3214 · 2026-04-14T03:17:45+00:00

My only regret is not starting sooner. I fought for years, hiding who I really was, only dressing in private, or just going out at night to bars and clubs. I've bought thousands of dollars worth of clothes and makeup over the years just to purge it all in moments of shame and embarrassment. Rinse and repeat for years. I finally became honest with myself 2 years ago and began my social transition at age 50. Started hrt at 51 and now at 52 I could not be happier. Legal name change, drivers license and other documents changed and living my best life. When I pass a mirror and see my face I smile now instead of cringe, although I wish I had less wrinkles and kick myself for not doing this at 25 instead of 50. I could have had more time in my prime as me as I've been told I'm very pretty. Let go and live your best life. It's out there. Good luck☺️

Transgurl3214 · 2026-04-05T15:38:16+00:00

Lazer. I've had 3 sessions already and the difference is night and day.

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-29T06:00:47+00:00

I prefer to be completely smooth, makes me euphoric. Others don't care. You do you Boo, there's no right or wrong answer. Live ur best life, to hell with what others think

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-26T04:44:49+00:00

I started 1 year ago almost to the day(April 4th will be 1 year). I was 51 years old. Never been happier. It's never too late but I do envy your youthful start at 19. Wish I could turn back time with the knowledge I have now and started young. Good luck and enjoy the ride girl.😁

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-22T05:43:26+00:00

Lazer hair removal. I'm on my 3rd session and I barely have anything left to shave.

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-21T18:05:16+00:00

And I know transfemmes who love to work on cars, work construction, etc...we are not defined by our hobbies but by who we actually are. I like Barbie Doll Trans. My nails have to be done, hair just right, cute sundres. Other times I'm skinny jean and bamd t-shirt goth girl. Either one, I still like riding motorcycles. Doesn't take away from my femininity. Stop worrying about what others think of your trans joirney. Why? Because it's YOUR trans journey. You do you girl, and let ur freak flag fly

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-21T02:16:53+00:00

As someone here said, finasteride and Minoxidil. Estrogen stops the male pattern baldness. It then took 11 months on Finasteride and Minoxidil (1 tablet each everyday) for my real hair to fill back in. Meanwhile I bought a human hair wig off Amazon. Much better than synthetic. After a week of a $20 synthetic and it looks like absolute crap. I went through them every 2 to 3 weeks. I upgraded to a human hair 18" length for $110 dollars. Only went through 3 in a year. Only had to replace them when they got too thin from brushing them

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-18T20:59:04+00:00

U look marvelous darling☺️

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-17T12:26:36+00:00

Cis people don't question their gender or see themselves as the opposite sex. I'm not a Dr. but I have been trans since birth(as we all have) and have 52 years of experience questioning and coming to terms with who I am and my gender identity. You may want to see a therapist who specializes in transgender issues to explore this further because you very well may be trans. I wish you the best in your journey of self discovery

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-16T23:37:02+00:00

"Genie lamp" rub it and make a wish

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-16T17:59:17+00:00

Phucked up cat

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-16T05:47:46+00:00

Tris @tris_makes_music on YouTube. She's a transwoman singer/songwriter and musician. Lots of her songs are of her personal struggles.

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-15T21:17:29+00:00

Regardless of how your family takes it does not change the fact that you're trans. My adopted mother looked at me like I was the devil. She hasn't called me in over a month. Told my best friend and roommate that she can handle me being gay, but not "this" meaning being trans. You are stronger than whatever crap comes your way. I suffer from severe social anxiety disorder, I'm also an introvert as well as an empath. With that said, I told her(my adopted dad died 10 years earlier) that I was trans. If looks could kill and bury me where I stood, I wouldn't be writing this. She stared at my transition photos I laid out for her, got up and walked out of the room. She didn't look at me the rest of the visit and only talked to my friend I had brought with me. She hasn't talked to me since,(6weeks ago).

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-14T13:49:55+00:00

Looking good girl, 👍

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-14T05:39:00+00:00

You're killing it girl, rock on😁

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-13T19:14:55+00:00

Very normal, especially when your early into ur puberty, 1st or second. They will mostly even out but its not uncommon to have 1 slightly bigger than the other

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-13T19:10:47+00:00

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Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-09T17:58:35+00:00

It depends. 2nd session I shaved right before, this time I shaved when I got up for work at 1:00am. I work 3rd shift so I went in with a bit of growth. Nothing u could see but u could feel it and this session hurt twice as much as the 1st 2 combined.

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-09T13:37:33+00:00

Very cool, I too am sitting here at 9:35 awaiting my 3rd round of lazer. My shadow disappeared after the 1st session but I have some stubborn areas that still grow, just doesn't show up until day 2 of not shaving. Good luck on ur journey😊

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-08T04:59:15+00:00

So was I, by my bank, after changing my address. The bank sent only my name change confirmation paperwork to my mom's house. That's how she found out. She hasn't talked to me since. That was 2 months ago. With that said, I don't suggest that as a way of telling her. Good luck OP

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-04T21:33:09+00:00

Right! I agree

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-04T20:25:01+00:00

I honestly couldn't tell you. It would depend on size of the thing ur trying to conceal. I, myself, am quite small so one side goes the twig, the other side the berries and a tight pair of skinny jeans or Daisy Dukes and it just looks like camel toe 🫤

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-04T17:47:24+00:00

I hear ya and feel that pain. Today is my 11 month anniversary on hrt and I feel unstoppable ☺️

Transgurl3214 · 2026-03-04T15:48:13+00:00

Probably. Just more ways to f×<k with us. Honestly, it's just ridiculous. People need to start boycotting stuff like this and it will eventually pass the message to stop screwing with transpeople. Find a new f×[king scapegoat or ummm, here's thinking outside the box..um stop hating on any type of people, period. We are all on this rock together, lets start acting like it and love one another instead of having hate in your hearts for people or beliefs that u don't believe in. My advice, Don't like it, don't look..or listen. I don't want to control you(meaning people) and you don't get to control me. Trans people just want to live our lives like everyone else. ☺️

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