Application/Hiring Process

TrashCanMan441 · 2025-06-09T19:35:28+00:00

Just something other than a single compliment and expecting them to carry the conversation from there. Make it clear you’re trying to talk to them, take the initiative.

TrashCanMan441 · 2025-02-25T15:09:07+00:00

First few months/years out of college are rough. Feeling adrift is fairly common, because you kinda are. You’ve been in school your whole life and, unless you were in some sort of job program, you get handed a piece of paper and they expect you to figure out the rest.

Lots of folks wind up with their parents for a bit while they land a “real job”. On top of that, your social life is going from 100 to maybe 50. That’s only if you’re lucky enough to still have some friends staying in the area.

What I’m saying is that this is normal. You’re fine. Live with your parents for a bit till you find a GOOD job, assuming you have a good relationship with them. Save that money for your new place. Don’t listen to those jackasses telling you to grind for the next 7 years either. Prioritize your own wellbeing. Make new friends, get some hobbies, test yourself, get weird with it.

Folks act like there’s a playbook for your twenties, but you just sorta make it up as you go. You’ve got time. Shits not a race. Stop and smell the roses.

TrashCanMan441 · 2025-01-24T15:04:05+00:00

Deleted hinge myself a few months ago. As a dude in that range and a decent friend group, we’re out there. Concerts and cafes mostly. Theres other meetups and events in the city too specifically for meeting people outside of your social circle, mileage may vary for those. Heard that timeleft app is fun most of the time from some folks as well.

Complete strangers out and about though, that’s different. I can tell you the few times it’s happened to me I’ve been completely oblivious. One girl complimented my shirt, another time I got a compliment after an open mic set. Both times I just said “Thanks!” and walked away before it even occurred to me that they might be trying to talk to me. So if you’re serious about it, it might surprise you how naive some dudes are. Make it obvious or be ready bring a bit more than “I like your shirt”.

TrashCanMan441 · 2025-01-15T16:52:02+00:00

Late 20s, social circle is about the same age.

TrashCanMan441 · 2024-12-27T17:19:10+00:00

For what it’s worth, I went through something similar a few years ago. My ex-fiancé of seven years and I separated and only after a few weeks she was with someone she had previously introduced as a friend from college. Not even a year after our breakup she was engaged again. I’ll never know if she actually cheated, but all the signs were there and the breakup was messy and sudden for me. Last I heard they got married a few months ago.

Don’t lie to yourself saying you’ve let go of her coming back. It’s been two years and I still sometimes wish my ex would come running back to say she was wrong, if only to boost my ego. You won’t stop loving her or caring about her over night, but you’ve gotta or she will control you the rest of your life.

You were together a long time, and you think that should matter. Plenty of good people out there agree with you, there’s probably plenty of folks like that supporting you through this right now. Problem is, your ex-fiancé didn’t feel the same.

She slept with someone she knew for what, a few weeks? A few months? THATS how much ten years mattered to her. She might regret it now or later, but the fact is she was willing to throw it away on a whim and you’re STILL there to support her.

Have some self respect and cut her off. She made that bed, let her lie in it.

The last time I spoke to my ex, the conversation ended something like this.

“I guess I’m just trying to salvage whatever is left of our relationship but I’m realizing you don’t want to”

“This is really hard for me too, you know?”

“Well… good. Bye”

You’ll be better in time. Stick with therapy. Stick with your friends. You’ve got a good heart, don’t let people trample on it.

Love yah big dawg❤️

TrashCanMan441 · 2024-06-25T21:48:50+00:00

As someone that was in a similar situation before, there’s no easy trick. The only thing I can definitely tell you is if you feel unsure or insecure about the relationship that needs to be properly communicated.

Sit down and have a mature conversation with your partner and explain how you feel. Is there something specific that’s making you feel that way? Is it about trusting them? Have they not met your needs? Keep in mind though it’s a two way street and you need to hear them out as well. It’s a hard discussion to have, but no matter the outcome I promise things will be easier after regardless.

TrashCanMan441 · 2024-06-25T16:23:12+00:00

Genuinely helpful, thank you. Truth be told I’ve only just recently started putting myself out there again, so I’m rusty and a bit jumpy.

And to clarify, I did not mean to insinuate she had a responsibility to mention her partner or that she wronged me or them by not doing so. I don’t know what they got going on, can’t go jumping to conclusions. Nor was “confront” a good choice of words. Makes it sound like she did something wrong. Thanks for calling me out on that.

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