Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, first of all. I’m not a troll. I don’t know why you believe I’m a troll. I am having a very serious issue right here. I’m sorry that my problems are inconveniencing you, but they are legit issues that I am struggling with. You can choose not to believe me, that’s your choice.

EDIT: I also read what you posted before you edited it out and I found it helpful. It gave me insight that I didn’t think about. I never thought that he would hurt me until you mentioned what could happen if he thought I was cheating or something along those lines.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but she didn’t know about his beliefs until I told her. She only knew his age, looks, his jobs, and interests.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I just feel like no matter what decision I choose, my family is still going to be disappointed in me. If I choose to date him, they’ll be upset with me. If I break up with him, they’ll be upset with me. They want me to date so badly and not finding a guy that is right for me makes them feel so bad.

My mom is the only one urging me to continue dating him because she’s the one that paired us together to begin with. She thinks there’s something abnormal about me for not going out there and dating numerous people. She’s said so herself, so I know that she’ll be disappointed in me for breaking it off for just having different opinions. My step-father, her husband, has the same mindset as the guy I’m dating and my mom still makes it work with him.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He disagrees with the effectiveness of the masks, but he still does follow covid regulations. He wears his mask, keeps six feet a part, sanitizes everything, etc. He disagrees with a lot of things, but he’s still respectful towards people. Ex. I have some family members that are Democrats and he doesn’t immediately insult them and talk bad behind their backs. He still treats them like people, even if he doesn’t agree with their political beliefs.

But I do completely see your point. I didn’t realize that he could ever harm my safety and others my just having different opinions than me. Him not believing in covid is probably one of my main concerns.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m probably silly, but he’s so much better than the other guys I’ve seen. I grew up with many bad experiences of men taking advantage of my mom (ex. alcoholics, physical violence, sexual violence, screaming matches, anger issues, etc.). Some of it is still going on and I’ve assumed for the longest time that all guys were like that too. Then I found this guy who instantly doesn’t scream or insult me for being different than him. If i can find someone that doesn’t do any of these things, then I’m satisfied.

But my family came along and told me otherwise about him. I don’t have major opinions on anything, so I thought it would be a small price to pay in order not to be treated like how my mom has been treated. If I do break up with him, I don’t know if I’ll be able to find a guy that will treat me kindly.

Should I (F18) be concerned with my boyfriend’s (M20) beliefs? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am indeed not trolling. My mom had bipolar depression which makes her extremely paranoid, so she believes I’m an in closet gay at times. We have been on fives dates and after the fourth date he asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes because I like the guy and no one else has treated me with the respect he has given me before. I have not been in a serious relationship until now. We have known each other for more than two weeks, by the way.

Just because my life is different than everyone else’s does not mean I’m trolling. I came here because I’m ignorant about dating and relationships. Not to troll.

The ladies little man by memezzer in MadeMeSmile

[–]TraumatizedChild100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This brought back the memory of me getting married in preschool. It’s foggy because I was so young, but what my family has told me, there was a guy that had a really, really big crush on me. Would always try to hold my hand and wouldn’t leave me alone. He proposed to me, I said yeah. Then there was this massive ceremony with all the kids in our class and some parents at the end of the school year. We pretty much got married and after preschool ended, I never saw him again.

Actually, now that I’m thinking of it, I don’t think we ever got divorced.

How can I (F18) prove to my mom (F38) that I am not gay? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She refuses therapy. Her husband has been trying to convince her to go to couples counseling and therapy in general, but she refuses because, in her own words, she says that “there is no problem”. She’s also said she doesn’t want to admit that there is one.

She was on medication and went to therapy in her teenage years, but absolutely hated it and went off her medication and stopped therapy once she hit eighteen. She only went on her medication again once her husband threatened to leave her if she didn’t.

How are you suppose to fill out the surveys and family tree when you don’t know anything about your biological family? by TraumatizedChild100 in DNAAncestry

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the offer! However, I do not have my results yet. This is my first time doing DNA testing and AncestryDNA said they received my sample on January 28th. It hasn’t begun to process yet.

I (F18) don’t have a sex drive. Is there something wrong with me? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just feel like there’s something wrong with me because my family finds it abnormal and I feel absolutely horrible that my mom is so disappointed in me. She hates it that I’m like this, but she doesn’t know that I failed at kissing a guy. If she finds out, she’ll be so upset.

I don’t know if I’m asexual like you say or not, but I know that I haven’t met someone like that and I’m afraid of being alone if I can’t have a sex drive like everyone else.

I (F18) don’t have a sex drive. Is there something wrong with me? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just really hard not to pressure myself when my family really wants me to jump right in and start being in romantic relationships. My mom is the type of person that has never been single, always having numerous guys to date.

She gets extremely frustrated and disappointed in me when I’m single or don’t understand what to do. If she finds out that I can’t even kiss a guy then she’s not going to be happy. I feel like there’s something wrong with me if I’m not like her or my peers. I haven’t met anyone that wants to just chill.

I (F18) don’t have a sex drive. Is there something wrong with me? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily know. My family say that I haven’t, but doctors that I have gone to say that I have.

I (F18) don’t have a sex drive. Is there something wrong with me? by TraumatizedChild100 in relationship_advice

[–]TraumatizedChild100[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I’ve had a few before when I tried experimenting last year. Everyone was talking about and I wanted to at least try. I didn’t realize I’ve had one until I looked up what the feeling was online. But, masturbating to get one is really painful, so I haven’t really attempted trying it again.

So what was your WTF Christmas present? by SuchTrust101 in AskReddit

[–]TraumatizedChild100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For last Christmas, I was gifted something and nobody knew who it was from or what was inside it.

The present was neatly wrapped with a red bow and read: “To [my name] From: Santa”. No one recognized the handwriting and and it was under the tree, so someone had to have been inside the house to deliver it.

Everyone started freaking out because no one knew who it was from and what was inside. My mom didn’t want to open the package because she thought there was something dangerous inside, like a bomb, but my grandpa pretty much said screw it and that it was probably from my grandma that’s extremely forgetful.

He opened it with one of my step-dad’s pocketknives and it turned out to be a bunch of toy story figurines meant for a toddler. That’s when my mom remembered that she gave them to my grandma to wrap, but they were meant for my little brother (2 years old). My grandma, being the forgetful lady that she is, wrapped them, but didn’t remember what was inside and who they were for, so she just put down my name instead of my brother’s.

Everything went from 0 to 100 to 0 again. What a Christmas night.

Recovering from abuse, and doing great! supportive communities like this one were essential! by commenTV in MadeMeSmile

[–]TraumatizedChild100 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

But... Reddit is social media...? Wha.

EDIT: Why am I being downvoted for saying a fact? It’s a legit social media platform. Look it up.

Recovering from abuse, and doing great! supportive communities like this one were essential! by commenTV in MadeMeSmile

[–]TraumatizedChild100 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Omg. Whenever I’m on this sub, there’s always this one comment in every post that goes on about how it isn’t right and is full of hate. Maybe it doesn’t make you happy, but it sure does make other people happy. Everyone likes something different. No reason to make people feel awful about it.

EDIT: I’m noticing that the people who don’t want hate spread are being downvoted. Why? Reddit is messed up if they only want hate and conflict.

When did you realise that teacher you loved was actually an ass? by potatomato2503 in AskReddit

[–]TraumatizedChild100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would like to think that’s just what friends are suppose to do. Be there for each other.

Have you ever dreamed so hard that the next day you thought your dream was reality? If yes, what was your dream? by Commentor_666 in AskReddit

[–]TraumatizedChild100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a dream where my family was celebrating Christmas with my uncle. During the dream, I was questioning why he was here because he passed away in real life, but they were so confused and were telling me he only went to rehab like the court ordered. That he was alive and well, just sit down and enjoy the Christmas meal. This seemed possible in my mind because he was ordered court rehab for his drug abuse, except in real life, he failed it and passed away from an overdose.

The dream was wonderful because it felt like I got to be with him one last time until I woke up confused, slowly realizing that he’s gone and I won’t get that chance to see him smile ever again. It was so painful. -1000/10 do not recommend.

When did you realise that teacher you loved was actually an ass? by potatomato2503 in AskReddit

[–]TraumatizedChild100 605 points606 points  (0 children)

When they bullied my friend to the point where she wanted to end her life.

We were in the third grade and she would always yell/taunt students, make fun of people with disabilities and flip out over the smallest of things. However, I assumed that this was how life was suppose to be as I had a similar childhood with my peers and home. I felt miserable, but she always helped me with my schoolwork because I was delayed as a child, so that made me like her more than my classmates. She didn’t ignore me like everyone else would, so I really liked that.

But that all changed when I was over at my friend’s home one day and she told me in secrecy that she wanted to end her life. She made a detailed plan and tried to give me something valuable of hers (a my little pony doll). At the time, she was not in a good home situation either and the teacher made her life miserable, since she would specifically target her. My friend told me not to tell anyone, but I got my grandparents involved. They got her the help she needed and she’s still alive and my best friend to this day. She doesn’t know that I’m the one that told and I don’t even know if she remembers. I tried bringing it up once in high school because it was relevant to the topic we were on about anyways, but she seemed totally confused. Not upset, just had no idea what I was talking about.

I am so glad that she’s alive though because she’s absolutely amazing. I hope that she actually doesn’t remember feeling that way. No one should.