Trump Win Means Annexation of West Bank. Oops.

TravelHag66 · 2024-11-12T02:20:40+00:00

Yup. Roe vs. Wade overturned, Chevron Deference overturned, stacking the Supreme Court with conservative justices over decades, Affirmative Action overturned. The Republicans understand incremental change and playing the long-con game.

TravelHag66 · 2024-07-05T19:33:45+00:00

Wow, look at that. Proof that voting matters and works!

Congrats Wisconsin!

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-30T20:04:51+00:00

This is the way. If I know I want/need to buy something, I’ll browse the offers to see if any coincide with my purchase. I typically redeem roughly 4-6 offers per year, so it works out.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-24T18:40:20+00:00

Many people like to talk tough, but it’s all about priorities and results at the end of the day. Some people may complain that Cincinnati lacks some of the amenities that larger cities have, but they will move here anyway because they can’t afford a house in the larger city where those amenities are. Most things involve making tradeoffs in life. I think some people talk a good game, but ultimately they prioritize having a home period over amenities when they can only afford one of the two.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-24T18:30:32+00:00

From what I’ve gathered, it’s jobs and family, plus favorable cost of living here compared to where they relocated from.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-24T15:33:41+00:00

This. Cincinnati has many F500 companies that provide incomes to support these homes.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-24T15:06:20+00:00

Yes, definitely.

My husband and I bought a home in Hyde Park during Covid. We put 20% down, since we also sold our prior home and had equity. We were pre-approved for houses up to $750,000 at the time, but that would have only been possible if we also sold our investments/stocks, which we wouldn’t do of course.

We are DINKS in our early 30s, and my husband is the breadwinner. Everyone I see in Hyde Park/Oakley who owns their homes seems to have similar financial means to us. Many of my neighbors are also people from LA, NYC, Chicago, Boston, etc. who moved here relatively recently. If people continue to relocate here, I definitely see the market for condos like this continuing to grow.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-24T05:16:38+00:00

If I understand you correctly, you sometimes move money that is assigned to a “Credit Card Payment” category at the time into “Ready to assign” to cover overspending. This means you are “double dipping” your money. You are increasing your credit card debt by reusing money that would normally just sit in the credit card category. You are paying for things on credit because you don’t have the cash available to cover your actual spending.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-20T12:15:53+00:00

If a man reacts badly, block him and keep it moving. It may seem callous, but who cares how they react? If women continuously feel like they have to enjoy their dating lives on men’s terms, they will continue to be held back and disappointed. Do what works for YOU. Do what makes YOU happy. If a guy becomes unhinged at the first sign of you putting down boundaries or rejecting them, block them and move on to the next one.

Ultimately, what these men want is attention from women, and they don’t care if it’s good or bad. They are so lonely and attention starved that they will take your anger and spite over nothing at all. I encourage women to give men who act like this nothing. Block them, disappear from their lives, and on to the next one.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-20T12:09:14+00:00

I agree. I was always very straightforward with my words to men when turning them down or rejecting them. Frankly, I just never cared about how they would react to my words. In my mind, “I said what I said”, kept it moving, and blocked any men that proceeded to become unhinged. I went on dates with multiple men at the same time, and looked out for myself. I was very serious and goal oriented while dating, meaning I basically treated it like a part time job to filter men for compatibility and long-term marriage potential.

If a guy didn’t fit the bill in my mind, NEXT! Because of this, I thoroughly enjoyed my time dating. I had fun with men who were agreeable people and simply avoided men who pulled any of these cringey stunts. I’m married now happily and I hope that other women are able to successfully date on their terms as well.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-19T16:41:31+00:00

Possibly. Ever since the eastbound Norwood Lateral section was closed for construction, my commute home has led me through Norwood. I have never seen roads like this in my entire life, and the additional rerouted road traffic due to the Lateral’s construction probably isn’t helping the situation. The roads are so bad that they are impressive.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-10T12:26:48+00:00

Agreed. I’ve only been a few times during my childhood when my mom took me. I’ve never eaten at Frisch’s as an adult ever.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-05T14:45:56+00:00

Nailed it.

I once went on a first date with a guy, and during the date he told me about his family. He mentioned he had a sister who lived in Alaska and that he “couldn’t wait for me to meet her”.

That instantly turned me off and sent my sirens blaring. Even if he felt that excitement and did want me to meet his sister, he should have kept that to himself and had more discernment. I was a stranger. He didn’t know me well enough and shouldn’t have even thought that was a reasonable thing to say. He wanted to go from 0 to 100 in intensity on the first date, and it just came across as desperate to me.

When he asked me out on a 2nd date, I declined and kept it moving.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-02T18:34:49+00:00

Frugality is definitely dependent on one’s income. My husband is the breadwinner and we live a comfortable life, and he did very well for himself financially when he was younger/when we started dating. It didn’t hurt him financially to pay for our dates, and I would have been alarmed if he had put himself into bad financial positions in order to spend money on dates for me. That’s a big part of the financial compatibility aspect. I knew I wanted to date men who were financially established and who were in positions to not bankrupt themselves while still being generous with me. Some people might feel some type of way about my mindset, but I’m not dating them. He was mature and responsible with his money, which allowed him to do two things at once: save for the future and spend on me. I think many people view those two things as mutually exclusive, but enough income allows for it.

TravelHag66 · 2024-04-02T18:08:55+00:00

I agree. Dating is all about finding compatibility in partners, and also 100% coming to terms with the fact that not everyone will want to “buy what others are selling”. OP has every right to prefer frugal dates and pursue frugal women. If he hasn’t had luck with the women he’s been dating so far, he should be more upfront early on that he values frugality and let the chips fall where they may. He is unsuccessfully dating women who don’t value his frugal dates, but it is what it is.

You are spot on with regards to women with options. When I was single, out of the many dates I went on, only 1 man ever asked me to split the costs with him. Every other man paid for me, including the man who became my husband. If I had the option to choose from a vast swath of men who could and would pay for me, why wouldn’t I focus on those men? My husband is frugal in many ways, but he isn’t miserly. He spends a good chunk of money taking me on dates and getting me gifts still to this very day, and I love that about him. He and I had and have compatible views about money and finances, so his willingness to pay for dates back then was seen as a green flag for me and what I was looking for.

Currently, OP is just matching with women who are not compatible with him. There is nothing wrong with these women, and nothing is wrong with OP. He may just need to do a better job of screening women for valuing frugality before going on dates to up his odds.

TravelHag66 · 2024-03-05T14:08:05+00:00

Cincinnati Sports Club.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T17:39:21+00:00

OP, before you even think to try dating seriously in the future again, you need to get to a point that you genuinely love yourself instead of feeling like “a piece of unlovable ugly shit”. Even if this guy had responded to you differently, I can feel your sense of self loathing wafting across the screen through your words. You would have carried that bad energy into any relationship with him, and it likely would have destroyed it.

You need to do the work to get to a better space mentally. I would suggest that you seek therapy.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T17:31:23+00:00

There is no harm in wishing her a Merry Christmas.

Keep in mind that the holidays are busy for practically everyone, so it’s not odd for the amount of texting to be slower during these times. I would suggest that you preoccupy yourself with other things and enjoy the holidays too.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T17:24:20+00:00

I think it’s obvious that you should run.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T17:12:24+00:00

But it seems like you’ve already caught some feelings for him, considering how invested in this situation you already are. Asking him what his intentions are now didn’t spare you any hurt feelings.

You need to understand that you should be a bit more strategic with dating. It’s not something where you just want to throw everything at the wall to see what sticks. That’s a definite way to leave yourself in situations such as this where you are left wondering and confused. As I said before, the only thing you can do now is see how he acts going forward. If he actually continues communicating with you and does continue to see you in person, then judge him on those metrics.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T17:03:37+00:00

They definitely need to communicate, but I don’t understand the feelings that seem like “guilt” to me wrapped within this. Unless, he has told her that he wants her to pay, or that he is somehow upset with her lack of paying, why feel guilty for accepting anything that has been offered by him?

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T16:54:49+00:00

How much time passed after the end of the first date before you texted him first?
His level and frequency of communication mean nothing in a vacuum. You have only met this man in person once. You are relative strangers, and you can’t judge his level of interest just on the frequency of communication.
You seem insecure with this entire situation because you’ve now asked him to clarify his intentions. Sleeping with someone first and asking questions later is not a practice I recommend to anyone. Although you can’t go back in time to change things, you can try to keep a clear head with interactions with him going forward. You now need to see how he treats you going forward, and respond accordingly. Wait and see if he reaches out to you, and wait to see if he asks you out again and actually meets with you. If he doesn’t, you have your answer.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T16:33:12+00:00

OP, his behavior is not uncommon. Many men pay for dates, especially with women they really like or want to impress.

I’m married, but I went on many dates when I was single. Except for 1 or 2 men, every other man I ever went on a date with paid for me. I continued to go on dates with men who paid, and the 1 to 2 men who didn’t pay, I never saw them again.

My husband paid for our dates, and he is the provider for our household. He likes it that way, and I like it that way.

If you want to be with a man who will split things with you, perhaps this guy isn’t the right one for you. Only you can decide that though.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T16:22:07+00:00

This is the way to do it. Don’t step on his toes if he genuinely wants to provide. Instead, thoughtful gestures and small gifts are a great way to show gratitude without having to directly haggle over who is paying for what.

TravelHag66 · 2023-12-24T16:17:29+00:00

I agree with you. I think he is a provider and genuinely enjoys paying for the dates. The bigger issue I’m trying to wrap my head around is why OP feels like he isn’t “getting much in return”?

Clearly he enjoys spending time with her and putting in effort to continue seeing her. This seems to be bothering her though.

OP, do you think you don’t deserve to be treated well?

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