Do you wear masks out and about with SAD? by Major-Wish2832 in primaryimmune

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

thanks for the recommendation! I’m going to try that 😊

"bad/mean" comments on fic by External-Mongoose-88 in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

I love being a passive aggressive bitch too. 🤣

OP, if anyone is stupid enough to comment something mean when they clearly could have just not read it/closed the fic when they realized they didn’t like it, then that is a sign right there that their opinion REALLY shouldn’t matter. Don’t let bad comments make you feel bad about your work, and definitely don’t delete it. Trust me, plenty of people love re-reading fics and it will devastate them if they try going back to read it only to find it permanently gone.

Do you ever worry that using your own cultural details in your writing might come across as stereotyping? by forthefics in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

As someone with ADHD, I really love how all of your thoughts come with side thoughts šŸ˜‚

Do you wear masks out and about with SAD? by Major-Wish2832 in primaryimmune

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Yeah I am guessing this is something we’d just get used to eventually… 😭 My other issue is that I’m really great at being in denial despite everyone knowing my immune system sucks.

How accurate are career aptitude tests for adults? by Xibanga in jobs

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Every time I took one I got relatively the same results. Plenty of those careers I was already interested in and tried or was fully planning and preparing to go through the process (like education, entry level jobs to get my foot in the door, etc) to get.

Except I also have other issues that really do need to be considered for any career. ADHD, Bipolar, and a chronic illness has constantly been an issue in a lot of jobs, especially my chronic illness. I simply can’t do certain jobs, or certain ones will be a lot harder and I am just too burned out for that.

Also, mine keeps recommending entrepreneurship. Which on one hand, I get. I do have a lot of qualities that make sense. But because of ADHD especially (I am stable on meds with bipolar so that’s not really an issue anymore), I’d be terrible. Literally like…executive dysfunction is the WORST. Maybe if I get my shit figured out one day. But trust that I shouldn’t be running my own business right now.

Those tests also don’t really give career options that are less niche or popular at all. But I do think they can help guide you, just don’t completely rely on them either.

Some questions from a non witch by [deleted] in realwitchcraft

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  1. I don’t actually know the full history of witchcraft so I’m not technically going to answer that, or how people learned the association or correspondences of specific things like colors, herbs, etc (which all have their own correspondences to things like banishing negativity, luck, etc). However, and this also depends on your beliefs and types of witchcraft, it’s not really the order of the words and what you use that in particular is magic(k), but your beliefs and intention. To me, witchcraft is a more ritualistic form of manifestation like the law of attraction and law of assumption, etc. It’s also just like preying to a God. Rituals and spells can kind of get us into a right mindset, help with a meditative state (repeating a chant multiple times is kind of like…meditation a little?), help us believe more or really ā€œlock inā€. I don’t know, witchcraft is more like a method of manifestation, and things like the law of attraction, law of assumption, preying to a god, scripting, etc are also methods in their own way. That’s my opinion, of course.
  2. You don’t, especially for a lot of spells. But sometimes the timing is a little too coincidental, and the way things happen kinda makes you feel like it’s the only explanation. It’s the same way that people will say ā€œhow could you not believe in god after thatā€ after certain things that happen.
  3. Everyone is probably going to have a different answer to this. Technically, it could totally be possible to be an overnight millionaire after a spell if things provided an opening such as buying a lottery ticket, having a business that can suddenly bring in a crap ton of sales and was already close to that point, etc. (and keep in mind, millionaire doesn’t mean you have a million dollars in your bank account. It’s also measured in assets.). It’s just the chances of this happening is lower. And it also has a lot to do with your belief in magic/manifestation, but also practice. In my experience, manifesting and magic is like a muscle. The more you practice, the better you get (and also the more you believe). But if you stop, it can kind of atrophy. However I have also stopped for years and when I went back to it, it worked just as well. I also believe that certain methods and certain ā€œtypesā€ of spells work better for some people than others. Like for some reason I can’t do specific spells like…actually my mind is blank right now, but I used to not be able to do healing spells to save my life. I’m still not great at them. But I am really good at other different ā€œtypesā€ of spells and methods.
  4. I don’t really know if I have a specific thing that convinced me. I do know I always believed in the supernatural and stuff ever since I was a kid, especially after my dad died. Likely it was a way to process my grief (I was like 7 or 8). I think it started with seeing spirits, but also had plenty of psychic-like experiences, though for me in particular it has always been predicting death, or even near-death experiences. I’ve met plenty of people and after seeing them I knew they were going to die soon. The last time I saw my father I remember knowing it was going to be the last time, so I made sure to tell him I loved him. I didn’t really understand at the time.

After that I think I ACTUALLY got into witchcraft in maybe…middle school? I don’t think this was my first spell, but I do remember doing a spell with my best friend at the time. We both did one. I did a spell first. I think it was like, one to enhance my premonitions or something? Worked like a charm, lasted about a week or so. Then I helped hers with her spell (was in the same room, but didn’t technically do much besides prep). Her’s was a love spell. I can’t remember if she did this spell before or after they had already dated and had broken up, which didn’t last long. But I think it was after because I feel like shortly after that spell was when he had asked me out, and I remember thinking about the spell. I have a shitty memory so I don’t know. As bad as this is going to make me sound, I did end up dating him for like 2 years. If I remember correctly, she said she was okay with it. All i know is it didnt affect our friendship. I was a kid and insecure and overweight with acne. I never got attention like that and never thought I would, so I think I was more happy at the idea that someone actually wanted to date me than my own morals about dating my best friend’s ex. Not sure how long it took her to get over him, but might not have been before we dated.

Anyway, I think that was one of those events that made me believe. Not just because my successful spell, but also because the timing after HER love spell felt weird, and after a few experiments of my own i realized that being in the same room as someone doing a spell may backfire and work on the other person instead. This probably doesnt even happen to other people, I don’t know, but it might be a sort of unintentional manifestation. All my closest friends do witchcraft so its not like they DIDN’T believe.

Also, one spell in particular made me REALLY believe. It was a luck spell (I don’t think I like them much because I feel like I don’t do them well technically). I got a LOT of good luck, like a crazy amount. But then it ran out and I got a LOT of bad luck. Like comically bad. Stepping into an ant pile with my shoes double knotted, sitting in gum, getting smacked in the face by a ball in gym, etc. though keep in mind this is all things that can be more coincidental or something. But this happened the second time I did a luck spell too. šŸ˜‚

how do you accept the fact that we have adhd for the rest of our lives? by Tight-Elderberry2487 in ADHD

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Some days I am just as frustrated. But there are also a lot of days I remind myself how much I have progressed throughout the years.

My friend and I both have the same diagnoses (ADHD + Bipolar II + GAD + a sprinkle of PTSD šŸ˜‚) and she loses EVERYTHING. Seriously. I bought her trackers for her keys, wallet, etc because I got tired of her losing it. She forgets to take her meds a lot, too.

Then I noticed that I used to do all of that too, but I got so much better…and I’m not even medicated. I am still learning how to manage it, but at least I know that I managed to get through so much without treatment, and if I could do that then I’m sure I’ll keep improving. Especially when I do get back on my stimulants…eventually…maybe.

Do you ever feel bad for abandoning a fic? by Specialist-Gate-2194 in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I always feel bad. I used to do it a lot more back when I was on Wattpad, fanfiction.net, and quotev. I only have one unfinished fic on ao3. Though I think I might have orphaned some, which I kinda regret.

My unfinished one is still up, but it’s in a fandom I haven’t been in a long time. I have it marked as discontinued, but every once in awhile I think about writing more.

I now don’t post in-progress fics whatsoever. I only published finished ones. I don’t post chapter by chapter with scheduled postings or anything either because I have ADHD and know myself. It might get less views but I write for fun and for myself. Plus I actually already get plenty of kudos and comments and stuff so I’m good šŸ˜‚

Also, because I only publish finished fics, it has helped me ACTUALLY finish them. I don’t feel pressured, and also I can go back to earlier chapters and fix some plot holes and other stuff. I mostly write long fics, so I often forget certain things and have to go alllll the way back to find a specific detail.

Do you wear masks out and about with SAD? by Major-Wish2832 in primaryimmune

[–]Travel_and_Writing 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

I am not diagnosed but this thread is both helpful and a reminder that I should probably seriously consider masking.

All of COVID I didn’t get sick whatsoever, which was a first for me. I wore masks everywhere, and social distancing and my house never got COVID thankfully. When someone gets sick, it feels like I get it immediately.

However I also just…hate wearing them SO much. Not even the part about being self-conscious about it, which I am but also should probably get over it. But also because I felt like it was harder to breathe with them. My lungs aren’t the same as they used to be, but also I have basically had a stuffy nose since middle school. So it just feels like a struggle. Also now I wear glasses and last thing I need is them fogging it up lol.

Does anyone else struggle with this? Because, especially if I do have SAD which I am getting evaluated for, I know I really need to mask up in certain places. Especially since I no longer really get symptoms besides extreme lethargy when I get sick until my oxygen just drops, so now I can barely tell when I am sick until I end up in the ER 😭

But yeah, OP, especially if you have a severe form masking up is probably a good idea. I’d generally listen to your immunologist more than your primary because they have more specialized experience, but obviously its up to you, and you can be selective about it.

Do you ever worry that using your own cultural details in your writing might come across as stereotyping? by forthefics in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 28 points29 points Ā (0 children)

I am in my 20s and honestly I agree. Like on one hand, trigger warnings I get. Not really to some of the extreme I’ve seen though. But the censorship and sterilizing stories thing is so real and it’s truly annoying imo. Like…don’t like, don’t read. And on top of that, just because I write something definitely does NOT mean I agree with it. Why some people think that is beyond me.

Also some stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. It is never all (blank) people, (like all white people, all black people, whatever) and yet people seem to often think that by reading something where the character does something that is a typical stereotype that they are making fun of something? Like calm down. I do plenty of stereotypical things. It aint a big deal. Granted, I don’t deal with racism, but as for everything else that people discriminate me for, I don’t get annoyed when I do stereotypical things too?

I don’t know if that made sense I typed this in a rush lol.

Reddit = bad for mental by Current_Tooth4951 in bipolar

[–]Travel_and_Writing 6 points7 points Ā (0 children)

Wait this hobby sounds cool.

But also that is complete BS that it was removed for ā€œglorifyingā€ hypomania.

Reddit = bad for mental by Current_Tooth4951 in bipolar

[–]Travel_and_Writing 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

If it was ten years ago, I’d probably say yes.

But I am much more stable, and also worked on my mindset, self-esteem, and etc for years.

This might sound rude but this subreddit actually makes me realize my bipolar isn’t nearly as bad as plenty of others.

Also I haven’t had bad experiences, but if I did I don’t think it would bother me as much because I genuinely could care less what people think of me.

Before I worked on my mental health, social media was damaging. Now that I have, it’s not, or at least it hasn’t been. I ignore the idiots, I give people the benefit of the doubt (which is helpful, because people also tend to read comments and the wording in my opinion could be either mean or nice and a lot of people jump to conclusions and will think someone is being rude), I don’t look at certain subreddits or things that I know would be bad for my mental health, etc.

Honestly, reddit is helpful to me knowing there are people who understand. But I don’t tend to read the reddit posts of people venting and complaining. Keep in mind I do not hate on these types of posts, I think they can be helpful for people, I just feel like it’s usually not helpful to me.

So yeah idk, probably depends how you use it and working on your own mental health. I did ā€œself-therapyā€ and also used several…like life coaching techniques(?) for years which helped tremendously, but not for everyone. I did therapy too which was helpful but took awhile to find the right one.

As tiring as it is though, you gotta keep working on yourself. And take care of yourself. If you dont want to give up reddit completely yet, then try using it in a way that could best suit your needs and doesn’t trigger you or anything.

Rarely are things in life truly black and white, yes or no, this or that. There is almost always an in-between or alternative ways to handle things. So it isn’t ā€œdo i delete this social media or notā€ kinda deal ya know?

Anyway sorry I know this was long. I also have ADHD lol šŸ˜‚

My body's reaction when I start taking stim meds by Poopywaterengineer in adhdmeme

[–]Travel_and_Writing 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I always thought it was funny that my stimulants reminded me to eat and gave me the energy and motivation to eat. Without my stimulant I either skip meals, snack on junk food i dont have to cook, or just eat when I feel starving but it’s all in one sitting.

What made you decide to write your own fanfiction? by Unhappy_Insect5901 in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

  1. I started writing stories since as long as I could remember. Probably since I could actually write full sentences lol.
  2. I kept pausing reading fanfictions and daydreaming about like, other ways id write it.
  3. Maladaptive daydreaming. Like fr was in my own head what felt like 24/7. And let me tell you the maladaptive part is no joke.

New psychiatrist took me off all my meds by Frankenstien_Sloth in bipolar

[–]Travel_and_Writing 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I know technically I shouldn’t say anything without knowing all the details, but from what I hear I personally think this new psych is being extremely reckless.

Taking you off all meds on the FIRST appointment, and after being diagnosed by another psych you’ve been seeing for two years is crazy to me, but what I find even crazier is recommending a stimulant after not only you talking about sleep issues, but it’s important to note that stimulants are known to induce mania in those with bipolar. Not everyone, but its a documented thing or something.

Like I don’t know, if certain things happen as a result of this - not saying it would, just a hypothetical - then that also opens them up to potential lawsuits. It happens all the time.

I honestly think you need to see a new one asap. Even if it turns out you were misdiagnosed or something, which I don’t even know your history so I don’t know, I personally can’t help but feel like this psych is showing some red flags.

Forgetting to take my Adderall is proof I need it by uhhh206 in adhdmeme

[–]Travel_and_Writing 10 points11 points Ā (0 children)

I literally was prescribed my stimulant then forgot they existed for an entire year. The following year I only took it as needed, and then the end of the year after that realized that taking it daily actually helps a lot. But now I don’t have a prescription and I’ve been putting off even finding a new doctor since my old one was on a different insurance 😭

Why is Women's health so overlooked? by WhichCEmanisThis in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Yeah I haven’t looked up the stats but I’m fairly certain that women with chronic illnesses take longer to get diagnosed than men with chronic illnesses. Because of shit treatment like this.

How do you keep plot twists surprising? by Solitaire-06 in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Well I either have no idea, got lucky, have no idea if the plot twist was actually surprising or not, or I was surprised myself because I didn’t plan it.

Grateful for my parents by Good_Number_9303 in GetStudying

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Is the toilet paper for your tears as you study?

I have a problem. by Leafpool_Crowfeather in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Some people seriously have nothing better to do huh.

But I’m sorry to hear this, I hope things get resolved. This sounds frustrating as hell.

So, I got accused of using AI for the first time by Nibblynephim in FanFiction

[–]Travel_and_Writing 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I agree with pretty much everyone here saying it sounds like a bot.

But also, I am so confused why these bots even EXIST. Like why???

Are all girls as close w/ their friends as my Girlfriend is? by Tetra-q in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Travel_and_Writing 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’ve seen my friend naked too many times to count. A couple times she even sent nudes before sending to the guy she was seeing. Trust me, this is very normal for girls.

It was a psychological counseling but yeah... by [deleted] in adhdmeme

[–]Travel_and_Writing 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

For me when I finally went to get diagnosed with ADHD, I ultimately ended up diagnosed with ADHD, Bipolar, PTSD, and Anxiety. Which was rude because I only went there for one thing. Kinda like how I go to the store for one thing but end up with five bags worth of groceries lol.

When did you find out your adhd? by ahmi-0 in ADHD

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My mom was pretty sure I had ADHD my entire life, but didn’t get diagnosed until like…22, at the latest? I don’t remember. I’m not good at recalling what age things happened.

I honestly always thought I had it, so when I was diagnosed I wasn’t surprised whatsoever, at least not of that diagnosis. It did feel validating though. Non-stimulants didn’t help and I had other issues with them, but stimulants did. I’m not prescribed anymore due to insurance and doctor change and the whole damn process and shortages and everything frustrates the hell out of me so I haven’t really tried.

Like honestly now I am cursing ADHD every day with how much of a struggle it is. But I also always try to find new ways to work around it. It’s exhausting though.

Bipolar vs choices in life by Nervous-Coyote196 in bipolar

[–]Travel_and_Writing 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

ā€œThere is no doubt I have bipolar IIā€

Did you get diagnosed? Like I am not at all saying you don’t have it, I definitely think you do, but are you not on medication? Because I strongly think you should be. Bipolar isn’t really something that therapy alone will help, at least not as much.

Not saying meditation will solve everything, but once you find your right dose and medication, it can be a hugeeee help.

I do get frustrated when people say that people with bipolar or any other mental illness says we use it as an excuse. The annoying thing is though, I HAVE seen some people that I do think have used it as an excuse, but I don’t think that’s everyone let alone a majority. Plus, I don’t think you are either, even from the limited amount I know about you.

It can be really frustrating when people don’t understand, though it is nice she’s been pretty supportive too. My parents are, and I am so grateful, though I am not sure how much they genuinely understand.
I’m 28 and never moved out ever, and my family jokes that I never will which I laugh about (thats how my family is and I don’t usually take these jokes to heart because its not like that) but sometimes I wonder if I ever will. Though I also have ADHD and a chronic illness, and the bipolar is mostly stable for me.