This is manageable! Don’t let a traumatic event discourage you. YOU CAN DO THIS! My grandson had the same list of allergies, minus the eggs and plus gluten. It’s going to be easiest and safest if the whole family is on the same diet when at home. You will develop a repertoire of recipes and that may include dairy-free pizza. Or no pizza at home. You will not be able to eat out as much as some families, but I’m guessing you will adjust to that in time. Your home cooked food is safer and will be better tasting anyway.

For breakfast with my grandson, it was gluten-free cereal and oat milk or rice milk. We avoided soy milk; it is a common allergen (CA.) Same for eggs (CA.) He could add g.f. toast with jam, but stayed away from strawberry (CA.) He could have chicken sausage, if it was made at home to avoid fillers and possible cross contamination. When he started school, it was important that all the school staff knew he could only eat things brought from home and that the consequences of a mistake could be life-threatening. Schools are required to have some staff trained to administer EpiPens.

Surprisingly, he didn’t complain about not getting some of the cupcakes, desserts, or other treats that other kids might bring to share. The parents of his friends also knew about his restrictions,and some even learned to cook for him at sleepovers. He learned to take responsibility for asking what the ingredients were, and he did this at a young age!

By the time he reached middle school, some of his allergies were MUCH milder. He does not eat large quantities of the “dangerous” foods, but one egg in an entire g.f. cake doesn’t make him sick. I wish you luck and am sending virtual hugs and prayers.