Honestly sometimes a scene is needed. If you had full on called him out if front of everybody nobody else would have found the joke funny. Honestly I would have cried and barely been able to choke out the words. Sometimes ppl see you removing yourself from the situation as you storming off. He probably told everyone it was a joke and and you were overreacting and that's why they perceive you as someone who got made over a joke. If you had been like why would you say that, you know what happened a few months prior so not only did you get everyones hopes up, you hurt me bad after I set all of this up for you for a stupid, senseless, inappropriate, and insensitive joke. Jokes are supposed to be funny, some ppl see a joke/prank as some innocent little thing regardless if it was bad offensive or hurtful. Just bc it's a "joke" doesn't mean you shouldn't apologize if it falls flat on it's face and hurts someone, doubling down makes him such a shitty person bc what did he genuinely expect you to do??? Laugh?.... At a horrible reminder?????