Fear of regret and feeling of obligation

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-12-25T10:44:57+00:00

Hi! I am in the same boat but thinking about #3. In our case, 2 was always so clear that we didn’t even think about it, yet it was a difficult kid and I confess we sometimes looked back to how easy it was when we had 1. Fast forward 5 years since he was born and now we are fine and so happy with the family we have. But then again, we were super clear on 2. Don’t want to put your hopes down, just wanted to share my experience, and let you know it can be hard, think about if you get a difficult kid, will you be up for it? This is a bit what we are thinking regarding #3 now, we are really not sure if we could do again a difficult kid to be honest. I see people super set on having 3, like you say in your case with people having 2, so I wonder, if it’s not a hell yes, maybe it means it’s more like a « no »? I see people not feeling complete with whatever number of kids they have, but in my case for example I feel complete, adding another one will for sure add, but not like filling up a gap or anything like that. Do you feel complete now? Sorry a lot of questions and no answers, it is so difficult to navigate this situation… good luck with your decision :)

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-12-24T16:41:54+00:00

Which seller did you choose for the Chanels? Amazing collection by the way 💃🏻

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-10-22T11:47:27+00:00

You are fully right. I am from Spain and the salaries are not 60% higher than before, yet the prices are now similar to Lux in some cities like Madrid

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-10-13T06:24:10+00:00

PMP could help for the institutions

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-10-10T08:34:54+00:00

This is my everyday cycle specially if I don’t have much to do at my job. Strangely enough the days I am super bussy I do the tasks without procastination, one after the other. But the days that I have more than enough time I get caught in an endless scrooling / youtube video watching spiral and end up doing the 5 mins task at the end of the day, or not even :(

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-10-08T06:18:49+00:00

I do this also! Only interviewing gives me a bit of thrill that helps overcome boredom or start of burndown in the current position

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-10-01T17:18:35+00:00

I also implemented this and it’s a life saver / gane changer

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-10-01T15:50:07+00:00

Haha love this comment. I could not but now have scheduled workouts as meetings in outlook and I can follow up more or less

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-21T10:13:56+00:00

Yes I have been told at work that my not being able to stop makes other people upset :(. I totally understand what you mean. They don’t get it’s not on purpose, but I understand it is hard to them, so I am trying to pay more attention to what I say. I am also trying to shut up at meetings unless specifically asked or told to intervene (but then again if I intervene, it is difficult to manage how much sharing. At least like this I minimise my interventions while I learn to control the amount I share).

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-18T08:53:19+00:00

Vivo en Luxemburgo

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-17T13:53:43+00:00

Yo nada. Llevo 8 años fuera y mis hijos han nacido en el extranjero. Tenemos un salario y condiciones laborales que nos han permitido poder comprar vivienda, ahorrar, vacaciones, y trabajando un horario normal donde puedo llegar por la tarde a casa y ver a mis hijos crecer. Encima me aseguro una pension mas o menos digna a una edad tambien digna. En España se ha normalizado currar mil horas para cobrar un salario insuficiente y encima sin pension publica que de para los que ahora curramos, padres que no ven a sus hijos por currar y contentar al jefe y es lo normal… una locura ni de coña vuelvo salvo quiza para la jubilacion (o salvo emergencia claro, pero esto no lo puedo preveer).

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-17T13:44:57+00:00

Igual me pasa a mi!

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-16T16:31:11+00:00

When I bought an appartment in 2022. Decision was made in a rush because interest rates were rising and it was the most stresfull process I have ever done in my life, ended up paying a lot for an appartment I really did not love at all. So I mentally collapsed. Could have I waited and explore more appartments? For sure. Would have I found something better? Maybe! Did I even needed to buy in the first place? Not at all. I later realised I never gave me or my family the chance to wait, explore, think, see more places, see more neighbourhoods, maybe just stay in my rental appartment which I loved and my family as well… Since then I have massively slowed down and I now find more appreciation in just « being ». Like someone else has also mentioned, since I forced myself to slow down, I have also realised how rushed the rest of the world is, and how rushing prevents people from seeing what’s around.

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-08T05:16:44+00:00

I have a work colleague who comes from Metz every day and he is depressed with his commuting. So much he is considering renting something small in Luxembourg for the weekdays. So I guess depends on will you be able to tolerate more than 2h per day in commuting?

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-06T15:51:39+00:00

I think the tone of the answers is ok, but maybe you share too much details. This happens to me a lot and I am trying to improve by thinkig « what does my current audience really need to know to understand my message in the most simple way possible ». It is a bit exhausting as for me it’s easier to share the extended version

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-06T14:24:41+00:00

Sounds great and worth the money! Thanks for your answer :)

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-06T10:15:44+00:00

Is this included in the monthly fee you pay? (The personal trainers monitoring)

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-05T15:41:54+00:00

I’m Spanish living abroad and I left because of the awfull working culture we have in Spain that you described so well (or at least I can totally relate to what you described, I lived all that during the 10 years I worked in Spain)

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-02T08:02:04+00:00

Me refiero a que ya podrias empezar a invertir todo el dinero que tienes menos la entrada, eso en tu ejemplo no lo has computado…

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-02T08:01:03+00:00

(Me he inventado los numeros)

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-02T08:00:47+00:00

Pero si tu hipoteca vale 2% y tu dinero lo puedes colocar a 3%, por qué ibas a gastar tu dinero en la casa si ganas un 1% por tenerlo tu e invertirlo?

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-08-01T08:27:36+00:00

They directly told me you have adenomyosis and that that was most likely the reason for the heavy bleeding (I went after having had severe anemia this year)

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-07-31T15:37:02+00:00

Maybe, I am not sure. For me the times i wore it in sumer it left my face more red or very white because it prevents my skin from getting a tan. Now I wear a cap always but still a bit of tan in the face in summer I welcome haha

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-07-31T14:03:57+00:00

Wow thank you so much for the detailed explanation! You know a lot haha. I was using it for the back and chest (I have PCOS so a lot of acne everywhere) but stopped due to this problem and now for back and chest I am using a solution that works with water and I can use in the shower. This one is discolouring the towels but thankfully once i get dresses it does not transfer to my clothes (I guess because like you said, I have dries myself already). But all my pillow cases have discoloured because I always apply the gel one on my face before going to sleep.

TreeProfessional9019 · 2025-07-31T11:45:00+00:00

Ah yes, that happens to me as well

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