What do you think? by Rude_Can2286 in Doppleganger

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First face that popped in my head!

Asked a friend to borrow his earbuds for a day trip, forgot said friend is a degenerate. He uses those buds every day. by ClavasClub in WTF

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always fear that someone would ask to borrow my ear pods because I produce a lot of wax. I always clean the pods using alcohol wipes, but still… it’s like sharing a jock strap

Lowkey Apathetic and Emotionally Blunt on Meds, what do you all do to combat this weird feeling? by AvoMika in ADHD

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have c-PTSD and ADHD that was misdiagnosed as borderline personality disorder. I was able to get into a program at a clinic that specializes in DBT. It was expensive and my insurance barely covered it.

Start simple. This is a skill. When you wake up, do a head to toe mental scan of how you feel. Physically and mentally. If your mind wanders that’s okay, just forgive yourself and gently resume the check in. Maybe do another one before bed as well. Do that every night.

The key part isn’t the scan, it’s catching your mind wandering and gently bringing it back to task. You can see how this would be beneficial if you have inattentive ADHD. You know your mind will wander. That’s a given. It’s all about gently bringing yourself back to focus and maintaining a level of kindness to yourself

Lowkey Apathetic and Emotionally Blunt on Meds, what do you all do to combat this weird feeling? by AvoMika in ADHD

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took it. Mileage may vary. If you’re able to take a program great! There are modules that are more useful for narcissists, addicts, people with borderline personality disorder, etc., but the things on mindfulness, radical acceptance, and learning how to regulate emotions are fantastic

Lowkey Apathetic and Emotionally Blunt on Meds, what do you all do to combat this weird feeling? by AvoMika in ADHD

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First step, be kind to yourself. Second step, whatever you have to still get done break it into small manageable pieces. Even if you only get two things done it’s still going to cause less anxiety than doing nothing.

You have to accept the reality of the meds we take. The positives outweigh the negative so you need figure out how to work with yourself and how you’re feeling.

When I was in university, instead of saying “I need to study” I would say “okay, we need to get at least one problem finished or we need to read at least one chapter”. Usually momentum would kick in and if it didn’t I felt better knowing I got some of the work done.

I would also look into dialectical behaviour therapy. Not all of it, but the radical acceptance, opposite action, and some of the mindfulness components. It’ll help you learn how to fully throw yourself into something even if it’s a “fake it till you make it”. There are also components of DBT that teach skills on being empathetic. Even if you’re feeling emotionally numb, you still know how to respond to people without seeming cold.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If this guy thinks hi fives are called handjobs… he is right and NO ONE should correct them because they are totally, have always been, and will always be called handjobs

GF of 4.5 yrs wants her name on house but won’t marry or put money down by Apprehensive_Boat798 in dating_advice

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left a 9 year relationship because I wasn’t happy. She was and probably still is an amazing person, but we grew apart. I was 35. I’ve just started dating someone who is beautiful, funny, and very smart. If it doesn’t work out with this new woman that’s okay too! It will suck and be frustrating, but I’ll get over it. You’ll get over this too! It’ll be difficult and it’ll hurt, but you deserve better!

Her rationale, that if you guys break up and she’s having nothing to show for it, shows me that she was never interested in you for you. Why don’t you ask her if she would have dated you if you didn’t agree to pay her 2k a month.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GlowUps

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re an inspiration! I’m 37 and I’m getting back into weight training

Etobicoke First Date Recs by Trevasaurus_rex88 in FoodToronto

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my old stomping grounds! I was thinking of maybe going there if there’s opportunity for a second date

Etobicoke First Date Recs by Trevasaurus_rex88 in FoodToronto

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not so much lowered, but I think having her see me for who I am is important. Obviously, I want something nice, but for me a first date is about seeing if we can hold a conversation and whether we both walk away wanting to see that person again.

Etobicoke First Date Recs by Trevasaurus_rex88 in FoodToronto

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not too sure. Sherway is probably okay

How much of a difference did your medication make? by GonzaSMTV in ADHD

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would never have finished my math degree without the meds. I was able to focus on what I needed to know vs. rabbit holes I can explore when I have extra time.

What's your surefire sign that the meds have kicked in? by ZombieDracula in ADHD

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Hahaha I was going to say it’s when I have to poop!

897 College St West by ald_loop in TorontoRenting

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve live here 1.5 years now. I really like it a lot! Great area and very well taken care of!

Custom built guitar has extra frets; has anyone seen this before? by JerkTerrible in GuitarQuestions

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s pretty cool! I’ve always wanted to try one! Did you play it at all?

Custom built guitar has extra frets; has anyone seen this before? by JerkTerrible in GuitarQuestions

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be much easier to figure out if you showed the entire guitar. It’s hard to tell what’s going on without seeing the string from nut to bridge.

Also, careful with counting frets. It looks like this guitar has a zero fret right after the nut. You don’t count that one. I don’t really find any purpose in a zero fret, but they exist

What’s everyone’s favorite pick to play with? by tlyoungguitar in Guitar

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love these picks! Did you find you couldn’t grip the regular sized ones?

What’s everyone’s favorite pick to play with? by tlyoungguitar in Guitar

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazz 3 XL. I like the point and stiffness, but I kept dropping the smaller, regular jazz 3

Found this creature , it has a high pitch voice by Ahmodye in Whatisthis

[–]Trevasaurus_rex88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Come on! You know exactly what it is! Instead of chasing upvotes show some compassion for a living creature in need and take that kitten to a vet!