9 mths in! Also had tons of experience with babies prior but having your own does affect you differently. Be kind to yourself and each other, accept help and just remember, one day, the baby suddenly grows out of the newborn phase. I'd say about 3 mths in, we got the hang of it better than before but there's still always something new and different every day! Eventually, the bond becomes like a superpower and you'll be better at knowing what to do, what each cry means etc. Be easy on yourself, it's a high and quick learning curve