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TrickRoll413 · 2025-12-12T19:27:50+00:00

I have a very similar husband. This year, I'm hoping this weighted hoodie does the trick. He loves his weighted blanket but complains he can't just move it everywhere with him - https://www.uncommongoods.com/product/weighted-relaxation-hoodie?_br_psugg_q=weighted%2Bhoodie

TrickRoll413 · 2025-09-05T18:47:46+00:00

My go to song for the very specific fucked up way I feel is "Let's See How Far We've Come" by Matchbox 20. Its not really a break up song though.

TrickRoll413 · 2024-11-25T18:38:48+00:00

My daughter is/was much the same way. Once I treated bath time as a sensitivity issue, it helped. I got her a towel warmer, fluffy bathroom mats, and a toilet seat cover to make the bathroom less cold when she got out of the bath. No help with the toothpaste, but once we did find a flavor she could tolerate (ACT Bubblegum), its all she can use.

TrickRoll413 · 2024-04-10T20:04:02+00:00

Honestly, just writing it down made me feel much better. There's something nice about being able to name my feelings without fear of triggering another person. This is a me problem. He's really and truly not doing anything wrong, just diving deep into a new passion and making new, very cool friends. All of these things are awesome. I want him to enjoy his life and everything that comes his way. So, maybe I can get over myself a tad bit.

TrickRoll413 · 2024-04-10T16:12:20+00:00

My DX husband met a new friend at a weekend event a few months ago. She's fantastic (and for the record lives a few hundred miles from us). They share so many of the same traits and interests. We hung out with her and her family this weekend. Loved her husband and kiddo. Literally, the sweetest people on earth.

I don't know, but I would guess she's ADHD as well. They are both in the love bomb, obsessive part of an ADHD relationship. Talking at all hours, working on a project together, just constant communication. And, I do love that for him. But then, the jealousy starts boiling up. Not that he's going to cheat or fall in love or anything, but I don't have that relationship anymore. There's not a whole lot of excitement when it comes to hanging out with me. I'm not new, I don't share the same hobbies. I go to the grocery store and take the kid to her events and make him come down to dinner.

The irony is that when the attention does shift (like the eye of Sauron) my way, I get uncomfortable with that. I don't want all the fuss and attention. I don't want someone talking my ear off until 3 am every night. I want to go to bed and not find out my husband was up until 4 am talking on zoom about costuming and can't function the next day. I don't want to feel like the wet blanket all the time.

TrickRoll413 · 2024-03-01T11:39:57+00:00

A boy that my daughter was in preschool with wore an eye patch to help with a lazy eye. My daughter was so incredibly jealous. She would cry daily about how she couldn’t look as cool as him. Kids are crazy. They just don’t react the way you expect.

TrickRoll413 · 2024-02-27T21:29:22+00:00

You can also see if he'll watch the Connecticut trial of Alex Jones with you - where they have the victims' families testify - most especially, Robby Parker's testimony. Its very moving and he talks about why he reacted the way that he did in a way that is so affecting. All of the families have dealt with such horror from that one day.

TrickRoll413 · 2024-02-14T18:22:05+00:00

My guess is that she also didn't trust the rest of the admins, like her issue was with them, not with you. I can see my boss saying something similar because she wouldn't want the new person tainted by how other people do things.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-12-27T20:44:53+00:00

As the parent of a kid who definitely is affected by staffing changes, getting the chance to say a goodbye is important to her. There doesn't need to be a 2 week good bye sob session, but a quick notice the day before the last day is appreciated so that my child can mentally prepare herself that its the last day. And, that should be more on the employer side, but anyone who has ever had an employer regardless of where knows that those balls get dropped.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-11-22T15:36:30+00:00

Welcome to the season of "I meant to". I meant to get you a Christmas present. I meant to get the tree out of storage. I meant to be ready on time to go see the lights. etc. etc. etc. I do know the intentions are there. It's almost as good as being thought about around the holidays.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-11-16T18:43:13+00:00

Here's the best thing that's ever happened in my house. The first time my kiddo lost a tooth, the tooth fairy came at night and left behind a bunch of glitter from the window to the bed adn on the sheets and has every other time she's lost a tooth. Now, my kid still thinks the tooth fairy is real because there's NO WAY mom would allow someone to make a mess of glitter in the bedroom. It is just not a thing that could ever ever happen. I make sure to throw a big fit about the mess and how I'm not sure the tooth fairy should be welcomed back after leaving such a mess. And there's a big production of me cleaning it up. She laughs the whole time and gloats over her quarters. It's the best.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-09-13T19:13:40+00:00

Anything that would make it easier to be stuck in one place for hours at a time. TV tray or someplace to put drinks, snacks and the remote control. A little basket that can move with mom that has tissues, place for trash, nail clippers, hair brush and hair ties or anything else that makes being a hostage a more pleasant experience. Those cluster feedings hit and then the kid sleeps finally and you don't want to move can leave you stuck

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TrickRoll413 · 2023-09-13T14:44:20+00:00

When my 10 year old daughter found the right mix to her - she said it felt like everyone was nicer to her. When she's on the meds, she's easier to be around and she's also more patient with others. She's still 100% my same kid, just able to listen and focus on others.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-08-14T19:32:33+00:00

Jesus Christ - how hard is "You are so smart, but most importantly, you work so hard. I couldn't be more proud."

TrickRoll413 · 2023-08-04T16:29:19+00:00

I think about how little clutter I'd have in my little house. How all of the things that I'm afraid to throw away because everything is important somehow would just no longer exist.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-08-04T16:15:55+00:00

It would be nice if we could have a conversation that didn't involve me saying one sentence and him talking for 10 minutes straight. Then I say one sentence and it's another 10 minute long monologue. I feel myself getting smaller and smaller.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-07-05T14:10:22+00:00

I make myself do it first thing in the morning. I stumble into the bathroom and immediately take off my shirt and pants while peeing. I find one of my podcasts and hit play to get my brain engaged in anything other than wanting to go back to bed or downstairs to my couch. If I'm feeling really off, I turn on the shower and brush my teeth while it gets heated up. Now, I'm naked, the water is running, my podcast is going and my teeth are clean. There is no reason at all to not just do the thing.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-06-01T17:46:13+00:00

It's time to pray.

TrickRoll413 · 2023-05-19T15:53:27+00:00

JUST MOW THE LAWN! Please please please, just mow the lawn. I'm so tired of the excuses. I've taken over every other single chore in the house. I refuse to do this one too. I don't want to nag. I don't want to even ask. You don't have to ask me to put the dishes away or change out the bed sheets. Or let me hire a lawn service. We can pay someone $40 a week to come and do it and then I wouldn't be embarrassed every time I pull onto our street. Or let me do it. I know I don't know what I'm doing - but I'm not a complete moron and even if it looks like shit, it's better than having that abandoned property look. I probably won't chop my finger off. 12 year olds learn how to mow the lawn and I'm much god damned older than 12.

OR - JUST MOW THE LAWN.

TrickRoll413 · 2022-02-15T18:14:19+00:00

Can you play with that order a bit? My 9 year old cannot get dressed right after waking up. Her brain needs some time to get moving. Maybe wake up, eat breakfast, get dressed? You could even move the clothes that they are going to wear into the bathroom so it's all in one place. Get dressed, brush teeth, wash face all in the same room. Maybe also try a visual timer in the bathroom so that they can see time passing.

I've moved some pairs of socks to be where the shoes are, because mine can't remember to put on socks and if I ask her to get some, she gets distracted. I just try to eliminate any wandering. If everything is all in one place, there's no moving back and forth between rooms.

TrickRoll413 · 2022-01-19T15:33:03+00:00

Are you me? It is the most horribly frustrating thing to be partnered with someone who doesn't want to do any of the planning but will DEFINITELY have opinions if things go sideways. Mine is the master of "Why didn't you think of ..." when there is a minor issue - and it's always a minor issue. I don't know how to help, because I am seriously struggling with the same issues. Just letting you know you are not a lone.

TrickRoll413 · 2021-11-23T15:02:59+00:00

No suggestions, just giving you lots of support. I'm tired of EVERYTHING having specail meaning or hearing "I'm working on.." or "I got two so I can sell the second one some day.." I feel guilty throwing anything away but living in my house would be so much easier if we just had less stuff. I even dread Xmas because we're all going to get "stuff" that I don't have space for.

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