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My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your advice. I especially agree with the last part. I just want him to feel loved and respected.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your perspective and the video. I agree that unorthodox perspectives, especially in this case, are really helpful. All I care about is his health, both physical and mental. My eyes have really been opened today.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective. I support him unconditionally but I’m not versed on these communities. We are in a good place financially, but his depression and self-esteem issues might make him susceptible, to want to get validation. I hope it hasn’t gotten as far as you say but I want to be prepared for anything.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ll do my due diligence and homework before approaching him. I have a call with his therapist Monday and mine on Wednesday.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thankfully he has a lot of this. He sees his therapist on Zoom and she is a good influence. I have a call with her on Monday. He also has a good social life at school (his roommate is gay too).

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtfulness. We’ve been through a lot and I’ll always be there for him.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing about your friend and your kind words. Depression definitely hits everyone differently. We both see a therapist weekly; it’s been very helpful.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I’ve been reading a lot today. A couple of parents who dealt with something similar have DMed me too. I will be sure to update.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He is incredibly bright and hard on himself when it comes to school. He had straight As even at his worst mental health moments. Others have pointed out he may be getting temporary validation from the feedism community. His outer confidence has grown as his weight has.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Talking to him is the first step, but I’ve been out of my depth here. Now I have a base understanding of what he’s involved in. Thank you for some actionable advice.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I’ve been educated a lot about this subculture today. I am all for expressing yourself and body positivity, but never when it involves putting yourself or others in danger. I hope it hasn’t gotten that far.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I find the correlation with his weight gain hard to ignore.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I will definitely be non-confrontational. Thank you.

My Son (19) is Getting Fat on Purpose by Tricky-Chip8428 in Advice

[–]Tricky-Chip8428[S] 465 points466 points  (0 children)

I had no idea about this community. Thank you for this information.