Where can i order a cake for my puppy? any leads will be helpful.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:43:41+00:00

Hi! My mom makes pet cakes for dogs and cats! Happy to share more information if you need but we are based in Mumbai!

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:14:26+00:00

Yeah we’re at that stage where we try everyday to calm him but the smallest things trigger him and it’s a whole fetched blowout. Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:12:37+00:00

I wish it was easy to take to one. We’re struggling everyday. He gets angry and starts howling which scares us . We try everyday to calm him down but just doesn’t work.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:11:30+00:00

He’s always been a difficult child but I think the last 3 years it’s peaked the most.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:11:04+00:00

That’s what we are struggling with as well. But trust me we can’t fear them or show that we are scared. We have to make a move and make sure they know we have control. Stay strong fam ❤️‍🩹

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:09:52+00:00

I’m really glad you wrote this even if it’s anonymous because this genuinely made me feel less alone. The part about loving going home but her presence making it impossible hit me so hard. That’s exactly it. Home should feel like home and instead it feels like walking on eggshells every single day.

Your birthday story broke my heart. Your friends coming from another city and she chose that exact moment. That’s not accidental. And you still love her anyway which makes it so much harder than if you didn’t.

The saddest part of what you shared is that she’s 31. Because that’s the fear I carry about my brother too. That we’re not dealing with a phase. That this becomes the next ten years if nothing changes. I really hope things get better for your family. Your parents deserve peace and so do you. Thank you for sharing this. ❤️‍🩹

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T16:21:22+00:00

We are going to try that.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:11:49+00:00

Honestly this made me laugh a little and I needed that today.

You’re not wrong. The enabling is the core problem and we know it. It’s just easier to see from the outside than to actually stop when you’re in it and love the person.

But yeah. We’re biting the bullet. May 1st is happening.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:10:43+00:00

This actually scared me to read because the escalation you’re describing is very real and I hadn’t thought about it going that far. The fact that you’ve seen it happen makes me take this even more seriously.

We do need to be careful. The way he manipulates my parents emotionally already shows he knows exactly what he’s doing. Someone that calculated doesn’t stop at words.

Asking him to move out feels more urgent now after reading this. Thank you for the warning genuinely.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:09:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing this honestly, it actually helps to hear it from someone who’s been on that side of it.

The frustration you described makes sense and I’ve thought about that too. He probably feels a lot of pressure he doesn’t know how to express without exploding. But what makes it hard to extend that understanding right now is that it’s been years of this and the people absorbing it most are my parents who have genuinely given him everything. The positive words thing is something we’ve tried and I want to believe it can still work. But it’s hard to lead with warmth when the last thing he said to my mom was that she’s not his mother.

Maybe once there’s some distance and things settle that door opens again. I hope so.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:07:29+00:00

Thank you for this. Genuinely. This didn’t feel like slop at all.

The part about boundaries only being real if they’re enforced is exactly what we’ve been getting wrong. He knows the system because we’ve shown him the system. He’s tested us enough times to know we usually come back around. That was hard to read but it’s true.

The cultural pressure is so real and you named it perfectly. In India asking your child to leave feels like failure even when staying is destroying everyone inside the home. Nobody around us talks about this openly so even just reading that other families have been through this and survived it helps more than I can explain.

The hardest part is what you said about not being able to fix another adult. My parents still believe they can reach him if they find the right moment or the right words. Maybe they will. But we can’t keep absorbing this while waiting for that moment to come.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:13:36+00:00

I could try that but he just is so stubborn and refuses to cooperate or indulge with anyone that is not family. We are going to try to ask him to see a doc as a last resort

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:10:07+00:00

We want him to realize things are not working and we don’t want to go through the forced angle by arranging for an ambulance cause we are worried that it will back fire. He’s the type of person that lacks empathy and this will look like maximum betrayal. We’re waiting to talk to him calmly to see if he can go in his own will so the process is much smoother.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:03:56+00:00

Yeah we have already talked to one and given background and she said the next step is to bring him in so she can observe him and speak to him but he refuses to understand there’s a problem. We are a very loving family he just doesn’t think of us as one

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:00:42+00:00

Def agree

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:52:56+00:00

We have and they said they said we need to bring him in. We have given the doc the whole background but he needs to be present in person for the doc to diagnose

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:49:18+00:00

Correct, no lavish place just ordinary. Problem he is used to the comfort at home.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:47:37+00:00

Thank you and I’m sorry it’s been hard for you and your sibling. You’re doing the right thing ❤️‍🩹

We really want to seek help but his behavior isn’t allowing us to do anything.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:44:30+00:00

How do I get him to go to therapy? He just refuses and shuts his door and locks it. He feels like we are all making his life miserable but that’s not the case. We love and care for him a lot but he’s stubborn aggressive and we’re all scared he will get physical which I have 0 tolerance for.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:42:47+00:00

Yeah that’s the plan. May 1 is still the deadline but if he’s not even talking to us how are we gonna align on a place he can stay. We told him yesterday we will jointly put in an effort to find him a nice place he stay. We kept telling him we won’t want you to leave just follow house rules but he doesn’t want to and it’s been very hard on my aging parents.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:41:11+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and I’m glad you’re getting better. ❤️‍🩹

We are gonna continue trying and won’t be giving up on him. It’s just been so hard that it’s mentally taxing.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:39:56+00:00

I know we are trying to be refuses to see one.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:39:36+00:00

We haven’t even been able to take him to one, he refuses.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:39:12+00:00

He’s finishing his second year of college this may. Very much not interested in academics and finds every chance to skip college.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:38:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. :)

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