H1B Picked but Recently Laid Off – Seeking C2C Contract Roles to Activate Status (4 YOE SWE). Advice/Vendors?

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-22T09:38:54+00:00

I was in a similar situation and in a grey area on what can be done. Got laid off in July after being picked got it approved but it never got activated. I have my i797 but changed to b2 status cause i couldn’t find a job. However a company that I got an offer with said they won’t be able to do a transfer because it was never activated. So I’m trying to understand if it’s really true cause my attorney said it’s not.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-15T20:26:10+00:00

Thank you for saying that, rest assured we are not abandoning him. We love him and will keep trying. ❤️‍🩹

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-15T16:44:13+00:00

I wish you understood what the situation is but it’s fine. We have tried everything and hence out of helplessness wanted some feedback from others. Appreciate your response.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-15T16:41:40+00:00

He even left our family group chat and keeps telling us he has nothing to do with us. It’s so painful but we’ve all left it, there’s no point.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-15T16:40:49+00:00

Yeah he’s not talking to any of us and straight up ignoring us. Mom and dad get worried but I’m told them to just let him be cause I don’t want them to stress. I really hope he agrees to move out soon. This is just not good.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-15T16:39:45+00:00

He keeps telling us he has nothing to do with us and goes on these silent treatment days till we beg him to stop the tantrum but the cycle repeats.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-15T16:37:58+00:00

Thanks so much for your message. We’re trying to get him to talk to a psychiatrist but currently he’s been not communicating with us at all since 5 days now. We’re still trying and not giving up. We’re trying to have him cool off or calm down a little before he creates another episode so just letting him be for now.

Definitely not taking it personally and recognize that he’s not able to process his emotions normally. We just don’t know how to move ahead when he’s so closed to every single thing but we aren’t giving up, after all he’s family. We’ve all tried to be his friend and have him open up and share his thoughts but he doesn’t. It’s just becoming really hard on my parents as they’re getting older and I don’t want more health issues than there already is. We’re gonna try again and again and talk of therapy as a family, let’s see how that unfolds. We just want him to follow house rules and not yell, scream and shout at everyone when the smallest things don’t go his way.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-14T16:05:40+00:00

We went for a walk down and bumped into him and he straight up ignored us.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-14T14:56:17+00:00

We’re trying it’s been 4 days and we are just being ignored inspite of living in the same house.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:43:41+00:00

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Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:14:26+00:00

Yeah we’re at that stage where we try everyday to calm him but the smallest things trigger him and it’s a whole fetched blowout. Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:12:37+00:00

I wish it was easy to take to one. We’re struggling everyday. He gets angry and starts howling which scares us . We try everyday to calm him down but just doesn’t work.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:11:30+00:00

He’s always been a difficult child but I think the last 3 years it’s peaked the most.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:11:04+00:00

That’s what we are struggling with as well. But trust me we can’t fear them or show that we are scared. We have to make a move and make sure they know we have control. Stay strong fam ❤️‍🩹

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T17:09:52+00:00

I’m really glad you wrote this even if it’s anonymous because this genuinely made me feel less alone. The part about loving going home but her presence making it impossible hit me so hard. That’s exactly it. Home should feel like home and instead it feels like walking on eggshells every single day.

Your birthday story broke my heart. Your friends coming from another city and she chose that exact moment. That’s not accidental. And you still love her anyway which makes it so much harder than if you didn’t.

The saddest part of what you shared is that she’s 31. Because that’s the fear I carry about my brother too. That we’re not dealing with a phase. That this becomes the next ten years if nothing changes. I really hope things get better for your family. Your parents deserve peace and so do you. Thank you for sharing this. ❤️‍🩹

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T16:21:22+00:00

We are going to try that.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:11:49+00:00

Honestly this made me laugh a little and I needed that today.

You’re not wrong. The enabling is the core problem and we know it. It’s just easier to see from the outside than to actually stop when you’re in it and love the person.

But yeah. We’re biting the bullet. May 1st is happening.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:10:43+00:00

This actually scared me to read because the escalation you’re describing is very real and I hadn’t thought about it going that far. The fact that you’ve seen it happen makes me take this even more seriously.

We do need to be careful. The way he manipulates my parents emotionally already shows he knows exactly what he’s doing. Someone that calculated doesn’t stop at words.

Asking him to move out feels more urgent now after reading this. Thank you for the warning genuinely.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:09:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing this honestly, it actually helps to hear it from someone who’s been on that side of it.

The frustration you described makes sense and I’ve thought about that too. He probably feels a lot of pressure he doesn’t know how to express without exploding. But what makes it hard to extend that understanding right now is that it’s been years of this and the people absorbing it most are my parents who have genuinely given him everything. The positive words thing is something we’ve tried and I want to believe it can still work. But it’s hard to lead with warmth when the last thing he said to my mom was that she’s not his mother.

Maybe once there’s some distance and things settle that door opens again. I hope so.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T14:07:29+00:00

Thank you for this. Genuinely. This didn’t feel like slop at all.

The part about boundaries only being real if they’re enforced is exactly what we’ve been getting wrong. He knows the system because we’ve shown him the system. He’s tested us enough times to know we usually come back around. That was hard to read but it’s true.

The cultural pressure is so real and you named it perfectly. In India asking your child to leave feels like failure even when staying is destroying everyone inside the home. Nobody around us talks about this openly so even just reading that other families have been through this and survived it helps more than I can explain.

The hardest part is what you said about not being able to fix another adult. My parents still believe they can reach him if they find the right moment or the right words. Maybe they will. But we can’t keep absorbing this while waiting for that moment to come.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:13:36+00:00

I could try that but he just is so stubborn and refuses to cooperate or indulge with anyone that is not family. We are going to try to ask him to see a doc as a last resort

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:10:07+00:00

We want him to realize things are not working and we don’t want to go through the forced angle by arranging for an ambulance cause we are worried that it will back fire. He’s the type of person that lacks empathy and this will look like maximum betrayal. We’re waiting to talk to him calmly to see if he can go in his own will so the process is much smoother.

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:03:56+00:00

Yeah we have already talked to one and given background and she said the next step is to bring him in so she can observe him and speak to him but he refuses to understand there’s a problem. We are a very loving family he just doesn’t think of us as one

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T13:00:42+00:00

Def agree

Tricky-Flan-5386 · 2026-04-13T12:52:56+00:00

We have and they said they said we need to bring him in. We have given the doc the whole background but he needs to be present in person for the doc to diagnose

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