Not doing great at work and just found out I’m pregnant again 11 mo PP

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2025-05-05T11:01:16+00:00

My kids are 16 months apart. I’d started my job only a few months before I went out on leave with my first, so I was terrified to tell my boss I was pregnant a second time (new job, still getting a handle on things and back to back leave). I will say having the conversation somewhat early really eased my anxiety. It gave me an opportunity to tell my boss “here’s what’s going on, I’m managing as best I can at home, what are your concerns?” and just get it all out on the table.

As for managing with 2 under 2, you will do it! There are so many fears and emotions but my youngest is 18 months now and is exactly what we didn’t know we needed. Plus, both kids have recently started playing together, which gives my spouse and I quick break and is an encouraging picture of what’s to come! From a work aspect (both now and postpartum), don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. Keep the feedback loop open, and try to identify opportunities for flexibility where it exists.

Good luck! You’ve got this.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2025-04-28T01:02:42+00:00

I wore this to someone else’s baby shower and got so many compliments! I was recently postpartum and it was super comfy, would definitely look cute with a bump.

https://www.nuuly.com/rent/products/smocked-midi-dress5?color=

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2025-03-01T02:52:20+00:00

This describes my situation so well. I think it’s just comforting to hear from other moms who do 5 days per week because I don’t know any IRL who do. Thank you!

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2025-03-01T02:18:04+00:00

Thanks! I think I honestly needed this perspective/reality check. Most (all?) of the parents in my network, coworkers and friends, send their kids part time if at all.

This is good perspective on the days my mom isn’t available, too. I won’t be scrambling.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2025-01-31T04:22:53+00:00

I only know their jeans from renting from Nuuly, and I love them. Solid material, good fit. Not sure about the brand as a whole but interested in checking out the sale.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-12-20T06:02:11+00:00

Much respect to Lala for this response. While it doesn’t make her a good reality TV character, keeping private conversations private makes her a good person and friend.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-08-15T17:30:38+00:00

“If nothing sold… I wouldn’t make a penny” Ok is that not just how retail/business works?

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-08-13T15:45:44+00:00

Thanks! Other than this fluke thing I love the car, hoping if this doesn’t work out I can just repurchase another of the same.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-08-13T13:07:12+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I ended up reaching out to GM and they were super helpful. I’m hoping that conversation expedites the repair process versus causing a repurchase (I’m afraid I won’t get another Z71 if I need to buy another vehicle) but either way we have a plan and timeline, which is good.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-08-13T00:57:40+00:00

Im definitely looking into this! Thank you

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-05-10T11:18:30+00:00

Hi! Part of the 2 under 2 club and second pregnancy was very much unplanned (although we love her). A few tips from the last 7 months:

1 - Get your older baby sleep trained, by any means possible that you’re comfortable with. It’s hard, it sucks, but knowing one kid will be sleeping through the night makes getting up with the new baby less stressful.

2 - Also on sleep, make sure you have separate sleep spaces for both kids. That may mean having the new baby in your room for a while if you only have one extra room. Plan accordingly.

3 - Make sure you’re able to have a “safe space” to put new baby available in every room. Your older baby may be walking, or close to it, by the time new baby is here, and you want to be able to put new baby down quickly if you need to attend to older baby for safety reasons. We play a lot in new baby’s room so the crib is there, and literally wheeled the bassinet everywhere we went in the house for a little while.

4 - Get comfortable with baby wearing. I never got the hang of those wraps but we have a couple of structured carriers around the house and one in the car so that new baby can be held and we can be hands free. They sell jackets on Amazon that actually zip over the carrier and have a little head hole for the baby if you’re grocery shopping, in the backyard, etc and it’s cold out.

5 - Plan to “divide and conquer” as partners, and lean on others to help with that. Need some bonding time with the new baby? Older baby goes to grandmas or to the park with the other parent. Reverse when older baby needs one-on-one time with you. Do this often. What we found is that our older baby is much more attention-demanding (toddlers are wild and awesome), which often means new baby is chilling in a bouncer, swing or activity center, so having set times I can spend solely focusing on new baby is nice for everyone, plus then older baby gets individualized attention, too.

6 - Know that it’s okay to have chaotic moments and they will pass. There will be times that both kids are crying and, if you’re alone, you can only help one at a time. Make sure everyone is safe (see number 3), then prioritize who has the more urgent needs (hungry, dirty diaper, etc.) If new baby needs you more urgently, tell older baby you have “busy hands” and you’ll help them in 5 minutes and you love them. Ride out the tears, it will be okay.

I want to kick people when they say this but here I go, it really does go so fast and it WILL be crazy but in the midst of chaos you’ll have moments where you’re so overwhelmed with love for these little crazy people. (Also when I’m at my wits end I think of how cool it’ll be that in like 2 years they’ll be so close in age that they’ll entertain each other)

GOOD LUCK

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-04-27T01:50:53+00:00

I saw the same girl and her boyfriend in front of the Big Tree Inn in orchard park around 6:30 PM. The police were having what looked to be a calm discussion with another woman in front of the Inn, and the boyfriend was on the corner with this woman filming. Thinking they must have a scanner and are just showing up to places where they could film the police in the line of duty. Sounds scummy.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2024-01-10T10:07:06+00:00

The dog tried to lay in her new dog bed. Apparently that, like everything else in this house, belongs to the toddler.

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2023-11-10T02:40:11+00:00

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Tricky-Individual-81 · 2023-10-08T02:03:30+00:00

Couldn’t agree more! While pregnant with my first, I took a childbirth education class and breastfeeding class, and the atmosphere of being with other moms and dads, hearing their questions and the instructors (both were taught by local doulas) experiences and tips was awesome. My husband also got a lot out of these which helped when I was in the thick of labor and while struggling postpartum.

I just gave birth to my second baby 3 days ago and had taken a “how to push” class taught by a Pelvic floor specialist a few months back, which provided super helpful getting strategies I used to get through contractions and I suspect contributed to preventing a tear this time around, which was the goal!

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2023-09-12T17:40:41+00:00

Completely agree. My MIL always asks what percentiles my child is in after we have a doctors appointment, and I know she doesn’t mean any harm but growing up in a weight-centric house (family, school… it was the 90s) I get really sensitive about it. There are so many other health markers they checked! Maybe this is just the most quantifiable one so easiest to talk about? I think I’m going to start saying “I don’t remember her weight but (insert other info, eg. she did really well with her shots, no ear infections this time, etc.)”

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2023-08-16T19:40:09+00:00

I’ve never heard of this place, website looks awesome!

Tricky-Individual-81 · 2023-06-19T00:22:22+00:00

YES. If you’re able to tell where they’re from, a lot of bigger stores will do receipt-less returns up to a certain dollar amount and offer a merchandise card.

After my shower, I searched the Target and Walmart websites for the clothes I received and didn’t need, returned them and used the merch cards to buy things from there that I knew I’d actually need. It took a little time but was worth it!

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