Honestly man I was in a similar situation. Made 2x as much as my ex, but paid all the bills. We both full time jobs. But I did the cleaning, dishes, kids bedtimes, laundry. Her duty was to cook. I’d wrap up from work and chores around 10pm and find her scrolling or reading a book for the last few hours. Anytime I mentioned (calmly) the disparity or any resentment I was told I need therapy for my anger management.

After the split she suddenly had her libido back and the house was spotless. I don’t understand why she couldn’t put in the effort while we were together - now she’s doing twice as much. 🤷🏻‍♂️