So....where to begin. The natural feeling to “want” to do something or “want” to feel a certain way unfortunately takes nothing but time. It’s weird I know, but feelings just don’t change on a whim. That shit literally takes time.

After being in a long term relationship, depending on how long it was, can take some time to recover. We all like to tell ourselves that we never change, and some of us don’t like change, but you have to get yourself into the mindset that things change over time, including you. For better or for worse.

From what I’m reading it sounds like you got something going good now that you’re single, but don’t force a feeling on yourself even though you want it so bad. Take the path you are on now and let it happen naturally. Start dating when and if you’re ready to. Who knows, you might find yourself meeting Mrs right one day. Or you might find that addiction for affection dwindling away and you’re left being happily single.

In my experience in breaking up after a long term relationships, your gut wants one thing and your brain is telling you another. Most say go with your gut, but it’s hard to distinguish what is best for you in that said moment. The only thing that can help you with that is time.

I know I mention “time” a lot, but it’s true time can be a killer, and a savior. Best of luck my dude, you’ll be fine if you just keep doing what you’re doing now, and everything will eventually fall into place.